hi I'm Julie from baby sleep made simple
the video you are about to watch is me
answering a question sent in by a tired
mom on our Facebook live Q&A call I hope
you enjoy it first place to start is to
always start a peaceful nightly ritual
and so what that is it's a little bit
more than a bedtime routine it's a
series of activities that you do every
evening that will help relax your child
and settle them down for sleep they
really work you really watch your kid
settle on cue and the more consistent
you are the more you do it every single
night and you do the activities in the
same order then you really watch your
little one respond so well because they
understand even if it's a young baby
it's like their bodies and their brains
understand that it's time to sleep well
you really see that the majority of
children tend to be ready to fall asleep
around the same time every evening and
so in my excel so mom's survival kit
that's a huge step that we go through is
finding the ideal bedtime for your child
stick to your baby's recommended awake
times so the recommended awake time for
a seven-month-old is every two to three
hours I just been watching him casually
looking for him to show me some sleepy
signs and when I saw them then I would
give him you know the opportunity to nap
sleepy signs would include subtle signs
like just kind of his activity slowing
down his energy slowing down a little
bit
losing interest in his toys or losing
interest in you kind of just staring off
in space and just sort of like zoning
out those are really subtle signs but
they're definitely sleepy signs and then
more obvious signs would be it's a bit
fussy he withdraws he might even rub his
eyes or his eyes might get puffy dark or
red those are a bit later signs so if I
saw those I would give him the
opportunity to not right away again when
you know that your nap windows coming up
prepare for it for about 15 minutes in
advance if you're at home take him in
his bedroom change his diaper maybe read
him a little bull cursing him a little
lullaby if he hasn't eaten in about more
than 30 minutes I might give him a quick
feed and then given the opportunity to
fall asleep within that time frame the
best thing that you can do is to wake up
your baby at the same time every morning
and I know that that sounds insane
I know that most moms are like no way if
we've had a bad night I want my baby to
sleep in I want to sleep in it's hard to
get up you know earlier than I want to I
totally understand all of that I'm just
saying it's a trade-off I would wake my
baby the same time every day that can
really lead to more consistency and
predictability to your days which a lot
of moms crave so write down for the next
seven days maybe ten days what time your
baby wakes up in the morning and you'll
see after about a week or two weeks
you'll see a pattern start to come out
even if they wake anywhere from 6:15
a.m. to 8:15 a.m. if you just write down
the time they wake up every morning
you'll say okay I know typically by 7:00
a.m. my baby's always awake so let's
start with 7:00 a.m.
once you've done all the other steps and
you've gotten like a rhythm to your
baby's days and you've started sleep
routines that help relax and settle down
but you're ready to take the next step
and really reduce down those night
wakings then what you need to do is just
teach them to fall asleep on his own and
there are a million different ways that
you could do this you could do this
super quick method you could do a super
slow method you know like a limited
tears method it really depends on your
child's age your child's temperament it
depends on your parenting style it
depends on how much time you have how
much energy you have so there's loads of
ways that you could do this and this is
what I walk parents through in my 21
days - peace and quiet program I give
parents range of methods that they can
use to help their little ones learn to
fall asleep on their own and sleep
through the night and then I hope we'll
pick a method if you have any other
questions feel free to post them and
I'll be happy to answer
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