How to Stop Fighting in a Relationship and Resolve Conflict in Marriage

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Picture this: You're fighting with your partner and the tension is rising between you,

then all of a sudden you notice a spark of anger in their eyes and

KABOOM!!! A massive fight erupts.

Now you've been here before and you know how these kind of fights end. Usually in icy

cold silences with one of you sleeping on the couch and leaving a crater of hurt

that could take weeks to recover from. Hi, I'm Bruce Muzik.

I'm a relationship coach and I help couples to stop fighting, start connecting

and turn their marriages and relationships around. In this video we are going to learn

four counter intuitive strategies to stop any fight from exploding into a volcanic like

eruption and actually resolve the conflict in any place... anytime.

A big promise?.. I know, and I've road tested all four of these strategies in my relationship

coaching practice so I know that they work. Here is strategy number 1:

Imagine you are in a boxing ring... and your opponent is throwing punches at you left, right and center

What do you do? Well, you block and you duck and you defend yourself and whenever

you get an opportunity you throw a couple of punches back, and they block and defend

themselves and you go backwards and forth creating punches. When you're defending... you

are inviting them to attack and throw punches. When you are attacking, you are inviting them

to defend. And what most people don't see is that defense and attack are two sides of

the same coin and as long as you're defending yourselves you're inviting an attack and as long as

you are attacking you're inviting your opponent to defend themselves. The only way to stop

a fight is to actually step out of the ring... completely.