Signs of an Abusive Relationship - 8 Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Partner - Domestic Violence

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have you ever heard of a person who

knowingly dives headfirst into an

abusive relationship I certainly haven't

that's because abusive relationships

often begin as incredibly intense and

passionate love affairs with people who

seem absolutely perfect so in the

beginning it's not always easy to tell

if a relationship will become abusive

the possession and controlling behavior

don't always appear overnight they

emerge and intensify as the relationship

growth but warning signs do exist even

if they aren't easy to recognize or

accept in this video I will share seven

early warning signs of an abusive

relationship before it goes too far

so don't go anywhere


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be good to go ok so on to the topic 8

early warning signs of an abusive

relationship many of you are probably

thinking it won't happen to me I'll

never allow anyone to control me or

engage in abusive behaviors of course no

one would knowingly dive into an abusive

relationship the problem is is that it

doesn't start out as abusive in the

beginning abusers are charismatic

attentive committed they're real Prince

Charming's these relationships often

begin as incredibly intense and

passionate love affairs an abuser will

work to make you feel so appreciated and

so loved you won't even notice he's

controlling you as you relinquish your

life and inch at a time becoming more

and more entrenched in the relationship

abusers hold themselves back until they

gain their partners trust and love and

it works let's face it as a society

we're tired of people with commitment


someone who says I love you and talks

about marriage and children is a weird

creature to be cherished and when they

test your limits and boundaries it's

easy to find yourself feeling unsure and

searching for an excuse or justification

for their bad behaviors so warning signs

do exist but they aren't easy to

recognize or accept here are 8 of the

most common number 1 the relationship is

moving very fast the most difficult

warning sign to accept is how fast

things progress like he wants to see you

every night he wants to move in after a

month the abusive partner may claim

you're perfect for each other that it's

love at first sight that you're soul

mates and other romantic and idealistic

sounding things unfortunately the

desirability of this behavior gives

controlling partners the best

opportunity to gain total control over

their partner's schedule and life number


unrealistic expectations and shoulds as

things progress and get more serious we

start to see new signs developing

one is finding that your partner has

unrealistic expectations and commonly

tells you the things that you should and

shouldn't be doing comments about how

you should or shouldn't cut your hair

whom you should see what job you should

take how you should act how you should

behave our indications that your partner

believes that he knows more than you

about yourself and about your life this

attitude will increase over time until

you no longer know who you are if you're

not living up to the expectation the

world is ending after all you're his

whole world they want the Disney

relationship with the stereotypical

gender roles like he should provide and

if his job isn't going well then it's a

problem and she should keep the house

and if dinner isn't on a table it's

another problem number three

excessive gifts and love-bombing this

can take many forms such as excessive

texting and telephone calls

he might overwhelm you with constant

flattery and at first you will not

perceive this as bombardment you will

initially be flattered that he's paying

so much attention to you he will leave

you small love notes and send you sweet

text it's like something from a movie

and that's because it is like that it's

more fiction than it is reality other

big warning signs include lavishing a

partner with gifts especially when that

partner is uncomfortable with all those

showing us this creates a foundation

where any complaint by the new partner

brings accusations up ungratefulness and

greediness after all I've done for you

this is how you treat me

number four is hypersensitivity and

jealousy this refers to the abusive

partner overreacting to little things

too little comments or jokes or small

issues abusers often have low

self-esteem and take everything

personally they may be easily insulted

or claim that the world is against them

if they meet the slightest setback if

you disagree about anyone or about

anything no matter how trivial you'll be

insulting them to their core and calling

them a terrible person who can't do

anything right this often shows itself

in a set of rules that have clear double

standards if she glances at another man

that means she doesn't find her partner

attractive anymore and she's cheating on

him but if she comments on him blatantly

checking out another woman

and she's calling him a pervert and

accusing him of terrible things that he

would never do number five criticism and

superiority abusive people criticize

anyone in anything at any time even when

they know nothing about what they're

criticizing they tell you how much

better that they could do something and

warning this can look like confidence at

first but with an abuser it can turn

into be ego mania and even abrasive

arrogance how P people have no need to

belittle others they feel that everyone

is equal and that there is enough room

in the world for everyone to be great on

the other hand abusers want the world

and everyone around them to be perfect

but their own minds are a complete mess

they can't make sense of their own stuff

so they focus their fixing energy unto

others they want to talk about what

everyone else is doing wrong number six

blamers blame is placing the entire

responsibility for one's unpleasant

actions and consequences and feelings on

another person or external event and

insisting that others agree a blame

refuses to admit that they have ever

done anything wrong

they will always consider themselves a

victim and no matter what really

happened if something goes wrong it's

always someone else's fault

so they will never apologize for

anything because they consider

themselves blameless an early warning

sign that you're dealing with the blamer

is when they are talking about work or

career or education and past


the blamer will always take credit when

things are going good and will always

blame someone around them when things

are going bad blaming others for their

failures make them feel better about

themselves and their failures so blamers

will do everything in their power to

make their failures seem like someone

else's fault and eventually his failures

will be your fault and he'll try to make

you feel guilty for the things which you

have no control over if you know AB

lamer then this probably sounds pretty

familiar to you number 7 imposed

isolation imposed isolation begins with

your partner criticizing questioning and

making unwelcome your closest friends

and social network abusers will try to

make you feel guilty for wanting to

spend time with friends and family for

example a woman might avoid an evening

out with her friends because she knows

her partner is jealous and

he's afraid of his reaction afterward

now he may mask his behavior and try to

flip the conversation towards

questioning your motives for wanting to

go out number-8 mean or abusive towards

others warning signs are often obvious

in how the abuser treats everyone else

like the waiter brings the wrong wine

and it turns into a scene where the

manager is called

someone bumps into him in the street and

he yells obscenities even though he's

not heard in the slightest or he'll make

critical comments about every other

person in the room not caring about

who's hearing him abusers have short

tempers and work hard to hide it from

their partner pay attention to the way

that they treat strangers you'll be

surprised at what you might observe

seeing any of these signs once doesn't

mean you should run for the hills but if

you've seen multiple warning signs or a

progressive pattern develop you should

be concerned be wise and trust your

instincts and protect yourself if

something doesn't sound or feel right do

what's best for you and keep yourself

safe of course there are other signs of

abuse that I haven't addressed today so

I've included a link below to some

additional resources that can help you

identify abusive relationships and more

important resources that can help you

get support and assistance if needed so

if you're wondering about your situation

please take a look below and please feel

free to tell about similar situations

that you know of in the comments section


sadly people are often unaware of these

signs until it's too late and they have

completely relinquished their lives to

an abusive and controlling partner so

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