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a lot of women dream of their prince
charming and it's of course only a real
and a good prince if he fights for the
princess I think a lot of women would
find it hard warming if their boyfriend
or their man would fight for them if he
would fight for their relationship and
not necessarily with his bare hands but
even that can be appreciated if it's not
a drunken bar fight because some other
guy who's wearing a jersey of a
competing football team smile at his
girlfriend but instead it's a fight out
of love it's a real he's fighting for me
flight because he loves me because he
wants to protect me because he wants to
keep me because he values me and there
it was value a man will indeed fight for
what he values so that means regardless
of your behavior and who you are and
your personality and even the way you
treat him as long as you have the keys
to his car in your purse or his phone or
xbox controller you will be fine he will
fight for you he will defend you like
his life depends on it because it kind
of does however if you truly want him to
do it for you out of love for the
relationship and some other things are
needed as well and that's what this
video is for I'm an author I write books
about relationships and dating for women
I also write about other topics like
managing difficult emotions a real name
is key it try repeating that after me so
that's why I use the pen name Brian Knox
and first the top level of this concept
is actually pretty simple he will fight
for you when he values you so that means
when losing you would be a nightmare to
him when that would make his entire
world fall into pieces because he really
values both you and the relationship now
a first thing to note is that as humans
we value the things that we work hard
for the harder we work for something the
more valuable it becomes I'll prove it
if I give you $100 and just 5 seconds
later a wild monkey steals it out of
your wallet and runs away with it yeah
you will not be too happy about that but
you will probably not lose any sleep
over it
if instead it's $100 that you have
worked really hard for and that monkey
steals it out of your wallet now this
time you may go full King Kong mode on
that monkey that monkey better
Ron right it's different you may value
it a whole lot more because you've
worked really hard for it and I realized
that when we translate this to a
romantic relationship it seems like a
ridiculous fact but it's still a fact is
the reason why for some couples
everything starts to change as soon as
they have been married for a couple of
months why because love is supposed to
be unconditional then I have this love
now it's mine to keep there's no need to
work hard for it anymore I deserve it
now I'm entitled to it no we are not and
you may have already noticed this too
the more effort you put in a guy or in a
relationship with him the more you will
be afraid of losing him and the more
valuable he becomes to you why because
you've worked really hard for it
so without playing hard to get allow him
to work hard for you as well that's how
you become valuable to him and that is
done by showing your standards by not
accepting any BS by making him less
important if he acts like an ass and by
calling him out on it in a non needy way
his son by never trying to please him by
not overcompensating by not giving him
anything that he takes for granted if he
takes something for granted you stop
giving it if you cook him a great meal
and he doesn't say thank you popcorn for
dinner it is the next time a great guy
will always appreciate the things you do
for him he will work hard for it he will
earn it because he wants to earn
everything he gets in life it's his
normal modus operandi he's not lazy so
in that relationship the both of you
will be working hard to make that
relationship succeed so if you ever feel
like you are the only one rowing in that
relationship and it's going in circles
because of it then stop rowing realize
that you don't need him that you are
enough and if it's a good guy as soon as
the boat has stopped moving
he will go whoa something happened here
he will wake up he will start to paddle
but some women when their guy no longer
appreciates them they start to complain
about it because they need him they
become needy in that relationship they
say things like
while you used to why don't you ever the
boy friends of my girlfriend's they I
think I deserve and so on but what they
are missing is that they are actually
giving away their power in that
relationship now he's even less
incentivized to fight for her to fight
for that relationship can you see why
that is if a man takes a woman for
granted so he's not fighting for her he
doesn't value the relationship because
he got lazy staking everything for
granted and all she does is complain
about it and act needy well now he knows
he has her he's calling the shots in
that relationship and he can stay lazy
because she's clearly not going anywhere
but if instead that same woman stops
idolizing him if she realizes that she's
enough that she doesn't need him if she
stops giving him attention if she starts
to be very passionate about things that
have absolutely nothing to do with him
that fulfill her if she's in other words
living her own amazing life and she
doesn't need him and do things can
happen first if he doesn't care about
her then he will not notice but she will
and she should leave him second if he
likes her and he was merely taking her
for granted because he could now he's
going to wake up he's going to fight for
her but here's a thing she's not playing
games here she didn't do any of this for
him if she's now passionately busy with
a lot of things that have nothing to do
with him that fulfill her then that's
not for him it's for her it will
strengthen her identity her self-esteem
her confidence because here's the thing
if a man likes you then the less you
need him the more he will fight for you
his efforts will actually increase and
has been like that for ages the less the
princess needs the prince the more the
prince will do to get her attention
things like working out waxing his horse
so he can use it to show off it have you
seen my shiny horse huh so how you do
and the more II will do to keep her
attention to make their relationship a
better one every single day so the more
independent you are the less he can and
the less he will take you 4 grand
so if you have an amazing life because
you have your own hobbies you have your
own friends you have things that you are
passionate about that fulfill you well
then you don't need him you want him
but you don't need him and that's a very
powerful difference because he now wants
to become a part of your life as well
because you have one and some women and
I'm not saying you are one of them but
some women will build their entire life
around the guy they love even if they
had an amazing life before as soon as
they fall in love as soon as they fall
for a guy they drop everything because
they want to be with him he's everything
now but as I explained in my book she
comes first that's actually very
dangerous first of all the men they are
dating or have a relationship with or
are married to will not only take those
women for granted the women themselves
will start to feel very empty very
frustrated and very needy in that
relationship because now all of the
fulfilment and all of the joy has to
come from him that's not very healthy
now another fascinating thing that will
make him fight for you is when you don't
make it easy mind you this is not
playing hard-to-get I'm not saying make
it hard there's a huge difference here
some people when they fall in love they
try to make it as easy as they can they
remove all of the obstacles because they
want that relationship to get started
right now
a lot of women fall for a man and then
they will try to get in his head oh
maybe he thinks that I don't like him so
I will tell him how much I like him oh
so he's really busy at work but I want
to see him I want to have a date with
him so I will tell him that I will drive
to wherever he is I will put in the
effort I will make it easy yeah although
these things are fine when used
occasionally sometimes when we fall hard
for someone we make everything easy we
try to remove every possible obstacle
because they it would be ridiculous if
this romance and this awesome
relationship would feel because of those
obstacles right so let me remove them
well sometimes the romance starts
because of the obstacles they race the
stakes they race
the value these obstacles can create
Cupid spark plus as we all know as
humans when something is easy to get
when it's abundantly available
we just don't value it you are at this
moment probably not very grateful for
the oxygen you can breathe in right now
you're taking it for granted right but
if someone was pushing your head on a
water just like in the movies
Boop at that moment you would start to
fight for it of course you would because
the oxygen became scarce then and I knew
that these things are ridiculous at
first sight but again it's reality it's
true so if you want him to fight for you
then there's never a need to play hard
to get like I've said a gazillion times
in this video but don't make it too easy
don't put in an effort to make it easy
allow him to work for it because and
this is another very important insight
you will notice that you too will only
fall and I mean really fall for the men
that allow you to work hard for them as
well if a guy makes it too easy if he's
overcompensating if he's always
available if he's needy if he's all over
you
he will get friend-zoned if he's super
attractive then it will take a while
before you will say let's just be
friends but it will happen the moment
will come that's just how it is
so don't remove the obstacles by making
it too easy and there you go I'm about
to go wax my horse but I hope that you
found the concept of this video an
important one if you want more
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end I love it when you do that and I
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