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I'm going to make a big promise in
today's episode and that is that I'm
going to get you over any jealousy
issues you have in the next three
minutes any jealousy that we have
whether it's big or small
on some level comes from comparison we
sit there and we compare ourselves to
other people if it's our partner and we
get jealous of another guy or another
girl muscling in or them spending time
with someone we get jealous because we
compare ourselves on some level we
compare what we have to what they have
jealousy only exists by comparison on
some level now think about this for a
moment
someone can always beat you in one
category it doesn't matter who you are
you can like you could think you're a
good-looking person if you're a guy you
can think you're good-looking and then
you find someone who's just as
good-looking as you but taller you're
like oh I'm screwed but they got more
than me you could be a woman and you can
think you're pretty and then you find a
woman who's prettier than you or has the
exact breasts that you want or has the
exact body type you want and you
suddenly feel insignificant again by
comparison to that person and therefore
we get jealous especially if you find
your boyfriend talking to that person
and giving that person attention now
jealousy comes from those moments where
we feel inferior and I'm going to show
you how to avoid feeling inferior ever
again someone once said to me they
literally gave me the most amazing
compliment I've ever had they told me
that I inspired them I made them laugh I
was generous to them I was great to be
around I was thoughtful and I taught
them things now the reason that this was
one of the most beautiful compliments
someone had given me is because she
showed me the full range of the things
that I was able to bring to her life
it's no one category that makes me
special to that person we often worry
about one idea one look or one physical
feature one idea of ourselves that makes
us special to someone and that's not
what makes us special because let me
tell you something someone is always
going to beat you in one category
there's always going to be someone more
intelligent there's always going to be
someone that can teach other people more
than you can teach them that has more
knowledge that's better looking that's
taller that has a better body shape by
some arbitrary
standard there's always going to be
someone who beats you in one or more
categories but here's the difference we
may look at him and say oh he's tall and
good-looking but is he tall good-looking
and funny is he tall good-looking and
generous is he tall good-looking and as
thoughtful as me is in other words is
this someone who really beats me in
every category or am I just focusing on
one thing so here's what I'd like you to
do instead of focusing on just excelling
in one area focus on diversifying that
portfolio and saying you know what I'm
going to be that person that brings so
much to the table in every area in the
amount that I inspire someone in the
amount of positive energy I bring to
them in the amount of generosity I bring
to them in how much I compliment them
and make them feel great in how much I
spark their imagination and make them
think about things they've never thought
about before in the amount that I show
them new worlds that they haven't
discovered before I'm going to be that
person that represents so many good
things that it doesn't matter if one
person excels in one category they can
never compete with all of the things
that I am as an entirety and you know
what if someone still leaves me at that
point when I'm being all of those things
that really means that I can let them
walk away with a good heart knowing that
this person wasn't the person for me and
that someone else was genuinely better
for them and at that point my friends I
don't think it's about jealousy I think
it's about logistics and two people that
genuinely work together so with that I
say go enjoy your relationships forget
the jealousy and focus on the package
you bring to the table take care and
I'll see you soon
you
