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hi guys
um I just got out of the shower my hair
is still wet and I decided to make a
video today about Detachment and why I
think Detachment in life is so important
not only Detachment from people but also
detachments from things situations
whatever
why is Detachment so important first of
all if you are attached to something if
you are attached to a person if you are
attached to your situation
that thing controls you
so that person that situation can make
you feel any type of way if they do not
text you if they do not reply to you
they can make you feel unhappy and the
same same way if they do give you
attention they can make you feel happy
but that means that you're completely
powerless over yourself and over your
own emotions this can get so dangerous
to a point where a person can take their
own life because they're so attached to
someone or so attached to a situation I
think this is a very important subject
to talk about also if you're in attached
to something that might have happened
before in the past and and that's the
only thing you hang on to that you can
also not move on in your life so in
order we need to completely detach and
we need to realize a lot of things and
in this video I am going to show you
what you need to realize in order for
you to attack hi guys my name is this
and welcome back to my channel
okay so first things first
um you need to realize that when you're
attached to something you are operating
from your ego
I read this book recently it's from
Gabriel uh Weinstein and it's called
spirit junkie I absolutely love the
author
um definitely check it out and in this
book she was kind of talking about
Detachment and she basically said that
our true Essence is love so we are love
when a baby is born a baby is just you
know loving a baby doesn't hate
themselves a baby is just like joyful
and happy about life but when we we get
older our ego starts to develop and when
our ego starts to develop we also become
attached to things we come attached to
people and we idolize them or we idolize
a certain lifestyle whatever right
you have to realize that this is your
ego this is not you and this is not your
true Essence this is not your love if
we're we were thinking from a love
standpoint we would believe that we can
have everything we want and we can
create anything we want and we can be
with the person we want because we have
that self-love and when you have that
self-love inside of you when you're not
controlled by your ego then you attract
also everything you could not get
attached to someone or something because
you know that you have abundance in your
life you know that whatever you want
would comfort you regardless because you
know that you were meant to you that you
were put on this Earth to be blessed
just because you are breeding you can be
blessed you would know that your
existence is enough to attract Miracles
There Is No Lack in life if you're
operating from love but our ego makes us
believe that we're not good enough our
ego makes us believe that in other
person's life is better than you and
that you cannot have that but that's not
reality our ego makes us put other
people on a pedestal and makes us obsess
over them because it makes us feel like
we're not good enough and we will never
be on their level but if you put like
you yourself and that person that you
idolize in a situation where for example
you guys are in a plane crash together
and the plane is falling down do you
think that other person is special no
you wouldn't look at them that way you
would literally be all just be fearing
for your life you know I think this is
also a big misconception about the
things that I preach because I love to
say you're amazing you're you're special
you're unique to myself in the mirror
but that's also what I say to myself to
help myself with my self-confidence and
to work on my inner child and healing my
inner child but at the same time I do
not go out and think that I am better
than anyone or that I'm special or that
I'm unique I'm not we're all equal and
we're all connected I have said this
multiple times I bleed you will bleed
um I leave this earth you leave this
earth and another way we get attached
especially in a relationship is because
we think like oh no I will never find
anyone like that again but see that's
why you are in this lack mindset you
think that you cannot have more and
that's the issue because I for example I
have a relationship right and in my
relationship I know that right now what
we have is very nice it's it's very good
but I'm not attached to my partner like
that because I know if he leaves
something else will come as something
better which will come I do not base to
myself completely on this relationship
because I if I give my partner the power
to make me happy or make me unhappy then
then I'm so powerless
it all depends on me I can make myself
happy I can make myself fulfilled and
whatever he gives me is just extra I'm
not looking for someone to complete me
because I'm complete myself anyone that
has been in a long-term relationship
knows that if you do not have that
individuality in the relationship and if
you do not have separate Hobbies
separate things that you guys like to do
as well you will become depressed
because at the end of the day Everyone
likes their space everyone needs some
space sometimes and you have to
understand that you have to realize is
everyone that comes into your life has a
purpose in your life see I believe
throughout my whole life I have been
guided I have had so many miracles
happen and honestly I would love to talk
about them but I think like a lot of
people are not ready to hear these
things and they will not believe me
simply so I I'm not gonna put these
things out there but I know for myself a
lot of Miracles have happened in my life
and I've always been guided but I've
never realized at that moment that I is
being guided certain people came into my
life certain things were being said to
me but I just took them as like oh what
a coincidence but now that I am more
aware I can see how I am being guided
towards what I need to go I can see that
I I have to trust my own intuition more
in life are constantly being guided in
life and the people that come inside of
your life have a purpose I believe that
when when we have a partner I believe
that when we meet certain people that we
create something with we have a soul
contract with them right so that person
is meant to be in your life whether it
was a good relationship or it was not a
good relationship that person was meant
to be there to elevate you and it will
always be elevating you there is nothing
bad about it even though it was a bad
relationship you became wiser because of
it
you learned a lot about yourself and
about other people and that person was
meant to teach you that that person was
supposed to show you and show you a site
that you need to work on in life I
believe we are put on this Earth to work
on our traumas I believe that we are put
on this Earth to constantly evolve and
learn more and be willing to learn and
become more conscious I've had uh
conversations with doctors I've had
conversations with um artists I've had
conversation with other YouTubers that
when I sat down and I talked to them
they made me realize so much about
myself and they said the same thing they
said Liz I can see that we were meant to
meet because you made me realize this
and now I can go work on this because
turns out I still am triggered by this
situation and I didn't know
so when these people come into your life
do not look at it as like oh my God like
why this happened no why is this
teaching me what do I have to deal with
that I I didn't realize before when you
see that everyone has a purpose you can
also see that oh okay when this
relationship ends that person did his
purpose you did your purpose in his life
he did his purpose in your life and then
you guys were meant to separate you guys
were not you guys were only meant to be
together for a period of time and when
the contract ended you guys were meant
to separate and when you have that
understanding that life works that way
it becomes much easier to not attach
yourself because you can see the value
of the relationships of the friendships
of the people in your life interesting
is you need to stop creating fantasies
about the situation about this person we
as humans we naturally like to fantasize
right but if you start have to do that
you can make this person into something
or the situation into something that
that they're not and after that you get
upset because you think oh why did they
do that because you created a false
fantasy in your head about this person
but honey they were never that person
you did that to yourself by creating
this attachment you have to go into
situations whether it's a job whether
whether it's a relationship thinking it
just is what it is it will be like what
it is you know just go with the flow and
don't cry to create oh it has to be like
this oh this has to happen whatever no
that means that you're you're not living
in the present moment if you're not
living in the present moment you will
never be appreciative of it first of all
and you it will never be good enough for
you it will never be good enough because
you know what people cannot live up to
your fantasy in your head because your
fantasy is not real you're talking to
real people
are volatile their emotions are volatile
you cannot base your whole rose colored
glasses that you have on life and say
that it has to be that way we can never
predict what will happen and you have to
accept this you can hope for the best
possible outcome but maybe some bad
things happen because you are meant to
learn something in that situation but
you did not calculate that in your
fantasy you just thought I want
everything to be perfect but what if
something bad happens then you get sad
about it and afterwards it would be
perfect so it doesn't go your perfect
plan way but another way the thing is
get a life like honestly I think people
that are so attached to to other people
that are so attached to uh situations or
whatever
I think these people have no life like
honestly because how can you even have
the time to constantly focus on someone
else if you're constantly focusing on
someone else or if you're waiting on
your phone like please text me please
text me like do you have nothing to do
honestly you have nothing to do
if you don't have a life get a hobby
like like get passionate about something
learn a new skill uh go outside go for a
walk but don't be constantly in your
head like oh my God oh my God like what
are they gonna text me when I'm gonna do
this like calm down and it's it's just
desperate it's unattractive because it's
like this person is your whole thing
like this person can can literally make
you make you depressed in a second if
they don't reply
it's embarrassing to be honest to be
like that you're focusing on yourself if
you're focusing on getting better that
way if that person texts you if they
don't text you you don't really care you
it's nice it's not like it's cute and
all these things but when you're so
focused on yourself as well then like I
said they just add value into your life
they don't give you your words because
you define your word already you see you
are whole and they just add value and
like I said you're operating from a lack
mindset because you think if you do not
get this job if you do not get this
person whatever you will not have
anything else anymore which is not true
but if you put out that attachment to
something and and if you're not willing
to let go of that then that is what you
will get you have to be willing to let
go of past experiences you have to be
willing to let go of of past
relationships right
I had this thing with my uh past
relationship he would always help me
like uh with everything and and I was
not willing to let go of him because it
was comfortable right but I knew this
relationship could not work out any
longer and it's not what I wanted but I
I was so scared and I was in my like
mindset I was thinking if I let go of
him then I will not have something like
this anymore
but so and I would constantly ask that
please give me please give me something
like that please give me relove whatever
but I was not willing to let go of my ex
so then what I did is one time even
though I was uncomfortable and I didn't
have anyone else I said okay you know
what whatever I'm done I do not care how
much comfort he provides I'm gonna let
go of it a couple months later I met my
partner that I have now and he has
honestly been the best relationship I've
ever had in my life but see I was not
receiving what was meant for me and for
my highest good because I was not
willing to let go of my other
relationship because I I felt
comfortable in that so I had to create
that Detachment and I had to have that
fate that that something better will
come from for me and then that's when it
all came the thing is what is fomo so
fomo means fear of missing out and a
friend of mine she came over for New
Year's and she basically she asked me
she's like Liz do you ever get fomo and
I was like no I don't get fomo uh I'm
like do you get fomo and she's like yeah
I get it all the time
but then I started to wonder why is that
why do I not get that and why does she
have that but my friend she's like every
other person right she just uh follows
people on Instagram her friends whatever
like everyone that's normal and
um she she like she sees their lives she
she looks at Instagram people this whole
social media world like I've told you
guys I have I do not check Tick Tock
like videos I do not check other
Instagram accounts I post my stuff I do
not read anything and I leave okay I
make social media work for me I do not
work for social media this way I do not
have a fear of missing out because I
don't know what I'm missing out on I
don't know what other people are getting
up to and I don't care because if I do
start to constantly look at other
people's lives I will start to compare
myself to them and I will start thinking
oh my God okay like am I doing enough
maybe I should do better and whatever
and I will go into a big panic mode so
you get attached to a false reality of
happiness because most of those people
are also not happy but obviously they're
not going to post their sad moments
because they don't owe you that to post
their sad personal things but they will
post their best life and you will create
again a fantasy about their life and
that you're upset because you're
attached to a lifestyle that does not
exist True Value comes from your
personality True Value comes from your
wisdom True Value is how you treat other
people the thing is you have to realize
you will never arrive to happiness if
you attach yourself to something and you
think if I have that I will be happy if
this happens I will be happy if I buy
this I will be happy
I used to have this mentality and let me
tell you I was never happy if anything I
got more depressed
why because I had attached myself so
much to a situation and I thought this
would bring me happiness and when it
didn't I got depressed because of it
even though I had that thing that I
wanted
so you have to realize nothing will make
you happy the happiness you are
searching for outside is already within
you the love you are searching for
outside is already within you I've spent
many vacations where I was supposed to
just rest and lay down and not worry
about anything just completely in a
panic mode and Restless because I was
thinking I have to achieve this I have
to do this whatever otherwise I'm not
good enough and the other ones I will
not be happy whatever
it completely took away my happiness
like I wasted I honestly feel like I
wasted that vacation because it was like
I was supposed to relax
why was I not in the present moment why
could I not appreciate it because I was
attached to an outcome that did not make
me happy now when I became detached from
all of this I can be happy right now I'm
sat in my kitchen
thank you God like I'm happy just to be
standing here I'm happy that I can make
a video for you guys like these things
make me happy and right now I feel
grounded I feel that I'm actually I
don't feel that I'm chasing for a future
or that I'm living in the future or that
I'm living in the past no I'm actually
in the present moment and I'm enjoying
what I'm doing on a minute to minute
basis if you want to detach you also
have to realize that you will never
leave you you might think like some
people attached to people because they
have abandonment issues and they think
like oh uh I'm so attached like they
cannot leave me whatever
you will never leave you you are the one
person you will always have in your life
and in the Hereafter you will always
have you okay maybe you won't have your
physical body but you will have your
soul
when the hard times the one person when
you say nobody was there for me the one
person that was there was you you were
there for you
so start acknowledging that give
yourself some more credit you were
always there for you and you will always
be there for you so do not think like oh
my God like I will have no one when that
person leaves me you have you and that's
why I say develop you more work on
yourself more heal yourself look at the
things that trigger you heal those
things sit with yourself Journal
meditate go to therapy is once your soul
evolves and secure within yourself you
do you're not afraid that anyone will
leave you you do not think that you're
alone because you you know that you have
you I was talking to a girl and I
basically told her I was like yeah I
have this like issue that I really enjoy
being alone and and I feel like I should
go out and I socialize and constantly
like try to make friends but I really
like my solitude and I like being alone
with myself and as you said but Liz
that's so much better than than not
being able to to enjoy your own company
and that's so true like imagine I could
not sit with myself and I constantly had
to have people around do this all in
order to have Detachment you should
realize that there will never be lack
because you were put on this Earth to be
blessed and start to realize that start
to realize that good good things are
meant to happen to you so when you
realize these things then then you you
literally think like oh Miracles should
happen to me because that is what I
deserve because I am walking on this
Earth
like um I don't know who said it but I
heard it somewhere if if God was done
with you you would not be alive he's not
done with you
he's not done with you and you're meant
to be blessed whoever leaves you
whenever you feel alone you're never
alone when you have yourself and if you
believe in God you have God as well
start focusing on you start availing
evolving yourself to the best way
possible and honey it will be so
liberating because you don't need anyone
to determine your value you don't need
any situation to say hey if you get this
or if you get this person then you're
valuable no honey you're already
valuable just because you're alive just
because you're breathing anyways I love
you guys so much I hope you guys learned
something and yeah I see you in the next
video love you bye
