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today's topic is on six habits that may
make people dislike you whether you like
it or not there are things that you do
that make people dislike you have you
ever walked into a room and there was a
know-it-all in the vicinity you can whip
up a conversation on any topic and that
person would act like an expert before
you can even gather your emotions and
thoughts you already dislike the person
on the other hand you might be that
person that has something to say about
everything the problem is that we aren't
always aware of the things that we do
that make people dislike us see if you
can spot your behavior on the list we
provided in this video psyched ago
presents to you six habits that make
people dislike you one acting too nice
it makes perfect sense that people will
like you more when you are extremely
kind and nice right sorry to burst your
bubble but not really science has proven
otherwise according to a 2010 study by
researchers at Washington State
University and the desert Research
Institute people tend to avoid working
with people who appear to be too
altruistic and unselfish but why
turns out participants in the study said
that the unselfish teammate made them
look bad while others suspected they had
ulterior motives too asking too many
questions when you lead a conversation
asking questions to steer the topic is
good it tells the other person that you
are interested in them you need to be
careful not to ask too many though if
you don't reciprocate and also tell them
about your own experiences this can come
off as an interrogation you need to
balance the conversation and spill the
beans from time to time the Journal of
experimental social psychology found
that people start to dislike you when
you are the only one asking questions
this could be in direct communication or
through written communication like
emails three dropping a personal bomb
being honest is one of the most
important things you can do in an
interview or when you go out on a date
you want to present the best version of
yourself as possible what you don't want
to do though is to disclose something
extremely personal too early this sends
the message that you are inappropriate
and cannot read the social signs and
triggers for example it might be
inappropriate to share your intimate
details about your love life with people
you just met so what are the things you
could share with people you just met
Susan Spencer at Illinois State
University found that speaking about
hobbies and likes and dislikes will make
you seem warmer and more likeable for
you often hide your emotions somewhere
along in your childhood it became a
common practice to hide and suppress
your emotions this is not the same as
controlling your emotions though studies
have shown that people react better to a
truthful display of emotions than hiding
them for example someone made you upset
because they said something that you
think was insensitive
instead of being passive-aggressive and
giving them a cold shoulder you sit down
with them and calmly tell them how you
felt when they said what they said when
you understand your emotions you can
express anger and sadness appropriately
don't keep your emotions inside it is
bound to burst out into the open v
acting like you don't like someone you
could potentially turn someone off when
you don't express fondness for the
person you're meeting have you ever
heard of the term reciprocity of like
well it's actually a phenomenon when we
think someone likes us we tend to like
them as well when we expect people to
accept us we act warmer towards them
according to a 2009 study by researchers
at University of Waterloo and the
University of Manitoba not sure how a
person you're interacting feels about
you act like you like them and they'll
probably like you back 6 giving a weak
handshake
have you ever greeted someone and found
they have a weak handshake do you find
it off-putting when someone cannot shake
your hand properly if you do you are not
alone when someone has a weak handshake
they come across as someone who cannot
manage pressure in a study done by the
University of Alabama
found that undergraduates who had a weak
handshake were less positive and
likeable there are bound to be things
that you do that will put people off
none of us are perfect and we can't
please everyone
however that doesn't mean you can't try
and change the way you do things
if you identify with any of the points
mentioned ask yourself these questions
why do I do the things I do what beliefs
do I have that is causing these
behaviors these questions are the first
step to understanding yourself more and
altering your beliefs and behavior that
do not serve you what do you think about
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