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Have you heard of the term emotional neediness? While it may sound negative, it just means
that you may have the tendency to depend on others too much to validate or approve you,
or your emotions. It’s important to know that some level of neediness is part of human nature,
and many of the signs that may make someone overly needy are not their fault. So with that said,
here are 6 signs you’re too emotionally needy. Before we begin, we’d like to mention that this
video is for educational purposes only. It’s not intended to target or shame
those who may be emotionally needy but to help everyone understand why we feel the way we do.
If you find yourself relating to the points we mention, remember to be kind to yourself
and that you can always work towards correcting or improving
upon behaviors that might make you too needy. Number One: You have an unhealthy attachment style
Did you know that your attachment style can affect your emotional needs?
An attachment style describes the way you behave in your relationships with others.
According to Your Tango, those with avoidant or anxious attachment styles may come off
as more emotionally needy than others, especially in their romantic relationships.
Both of these attachment styles involve feelings of insecurity, which may explain why you may
be more emotionally needy compared to those with a secure attachment style.
Number Two: You’re unsure of yourself
Are you always unsure of how you feel? According to Psychologist Marcia Reynolds
from Psychology Today, if you find yourself with a lot of unmet or undesired emotional needs,
it could be because you still haven’t tapped into those emotions yourself.
Journaling your thoughts and emotions as soon as they reach the surface
may help you become more independent when it comes to fulfilling your emotional needs.
Number Three: You suffer from anxiety
Did you know that emotional neediness could also be a manifestation of anxiety? According to San
Jose Anxiety Counseling, what may come across as clinginess or neediness could actually be anxiety.
Some people with anxiety feel an overwhelming need for reassurance in their relationships, and
whether they are conscious of it or not, it can very easily translate into emotional neediness.
Number Four: You Have Trust issues
Are you always questioning the people close to you? As it turns out, jealousy and feelings
of abandonment in your relationships are pretty strong signs of emotional neediness.
Both of these habits can be rooted in trust issues, that may have developed
from past trauma or betrayal. When you have a hard time trusting your friend or partner,
it is easier for you to develop feelings of jealousy and uneasiness towards your relationship.
Number Five: You doubt yourself
Do you move through life with an underlying fear of failure? According to “mind fitness” expert
Luca Bosurgi, there are many potential causes of emotional neediness in adults,
but a common theme is an abundance of self-doubt due to potential fear, anxiety, and issues with
confidence. Doubting yourself may manifest into emotional neediness because it may cause you to
lose faith in your ability to be independent and self-sufficient when it comes to your emotions.
Number Six: You’re indecisive
Are you always struggling to make decisions on your own? Maybe you always have to consult with
others before feeling confident in your beliefs. This indecisiveness is often a sign of emotional
neediness because it reflects a lack of emotional independence. In order to be a decisive person,
you need to be confident in your emotions and be able to express them without much doubt.
We hope you enjoyed learning about some of the signs of emotional neediness.
Do you relate to any of the signs mentioned here? Tell us about it in the comments below.
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