How to live
A Good And Peaceful Life
5 Steps to a More Peaceful Life
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are talking about 5 ways to cultivate
peace in our lives I think peace is a
big component that's missing in a lot of
our lives because our lives are crazy
busy and as women there's all kinds of
emotions and they're strong and there's
all different things happening in our
lives peace is something that can be
really really hard to come by and these
are five ways that I have found to
cultivate peace in my own life and I'm
gonna tell you these five things and
some of them you're gonna say well
that's impossible I can't do that this
is all about choices it's all about
choosing good for ourselves which is a
lot of what I talk about on this channel
you have to make choices to cultivate
peace in our hearts in our brains and
our spiritual eyes it is a succession of
hard choices but it's not impossible and
everything that I talk about in these
five things is not impossible
so I'm are hard harder for some of us
than others but not impossible
the first way it's kind of random that
we can cultivate peace in our lives that
I find so helpful for me is to put
things away what do I mean by that
clothes dishes groceries stuff whatever
it is when I am done using something if
it's a dress or whatever it is I'm
changing my clothes it's so easy to just
put it on the floor and be done with it
but in that moment I say okay well I'm
gonna have to do this now or I'm gonna
have to do it later I'm going to do it
right now I'm going to put things away
getting clutter out of our lives and and
having like an orderly place where we
live whether that's your room or or your
kitchen at home whatever whatever kind
of place you live having order in our
lives and in our living spaces is an
amazing way to cultivate peace in our
lives and you might say that I could
never do I promise you you could do it
just in that moment say man I have to do
this now I'm gonna have to put this away
later I'm gonna put it away now and
bring peace to my life it's amazing what
can happen when we do that the second
way it's a little bit bigger it's about
letting go of grudge
in our lives and I talked about this in
the chapter called forgive and forget
and go bravely my book forgiving and
forgetting is something that's really
hard to do it's very easy to hold on to
grudges in our lives when people have
wronged us and there's a million
different scenarios where people could
have wronged us whether that's our
parents whether that's our teachers
whether that's our friends whether
that's an ex-boyfriend whether that's
our boyfriend whether that's our husband
whatever it is it's so easy to just hold
on to that grudge and say no this person
hurt me so badly this person wronged me
so badly I'm not gonna forgive them I'm
just gonna hold on to this there's no
way to have peace in our lives if we're
holding under grudges there's just no
way and I go and say that more in the
chapter I in my book and some of you
have read that already but it's so
important to just learn to let go and to
learn to forgive and if you're a one who
believes in the Lord the Lord can teach
us how to forgive there has been
situations in my life where I was like
Jesus I in my own humanity really can't
forgive this person and I'm gonna need
your help and your grace in order to do
that he is good at giving us the grace
to do those things but it's so important
to look at my life and think but I'm
gonna have peace in my life
what grudges am i holding on to what
resentments am i holding against people
and how can I work through those and let
those go and learn to let those go no
matter how deep they are there's so many
different scenarios and so many
different kinds of depths and levels to
the ways that people have heard us and
wronged us and some of them go back
years and years and years and someone
was like a little squabble with a friend
I don't know what resentments or grudges
you hold on to in your life but stepping
back to examine those maybe even
prayerfully in your life very important
and learning to let those go complicated
process but a worthwhile one the third
way that I've learned a cultivate peace
in my life is to not procrastinate haha
I don't save everything until the last
minute and it's a tendency that I have I
want to save everything to the last
minute and I have to intentionally make
the choice not to when I was in high
school and we would get off for
Christmas break the whole first night in
my Christmas break I would get home at
like you know 2 or 3 o'clock or whatever
and I had so much homework that was
assigned to me oh my gosh high school
was so hard so much homework and
would do it all that night I was like I
want a peace filled Christmas vacation I
don't want to have all this stuff
looming over my head I'm going to do all
of this right now when we save
everything until the last minute there's
no way to have peace in our lives
because everything is chaos all the time
everything is stressed we always have
this dark cloud looming over our heads
were like oh my gosh I still have to do
that I don't my god she's old to do that
oh and there's no way to be peaceful but
I found so much even in that one little
thing of doing all that homework on that
night was so hard it took me like seven
or eight hours but I would do it I
wanted such a good lesson then that for
the rest of the time the two weeks that
I have for Christmas break I could feel
free to just have fun - just relax
knowing that I could go in after New
Year's all of my assignments would be
done like I would just have to pack up
my backpack and go back to school and
there was so much peace to be found in
that and that is something that goes
across the board in all of our lives
right you might be like yeah
procrastination station right here like
you cannot stop procrastinating it is a
discipline and choice it takes a lot of
choices to get a planner or whatever
that might be to start writing to-do
lists to say I have to do all of this
before I turn on Netflix I have to do
all of this before I scroll Instagram
seeking that self discipline and
learning to cultivate that self
discipline in our lives and not leave
everything to the last second so that
we're scrambling for our whole entire
lives and some of you I know out there
you spend your whole life scrambling
with busy we resonate everything I've
been there before and I had to make some
choices to say I can't live like this
anymore
I cannot procrastinating because I just
feel so chaotic and so messy and so out
of sorts all the time I want some
organization I'm gonna choose that for
myself it's gonna be hard and boy has
that paid off in my life
the fourth way that I cultivate peace in
my life is no screens before sleeping so
many of us spend so much of our time
before we go to sleep scrolling and
looking at things like mindless things
things that don't matter at all
Daniel and I have a no screens policy in
our bedroom whatsoever in the no TVs we
cannot sit in bed and scroll on our
phones like that is not a lot because we
know that it's not healthy for us and we
know that it's not
necessary that there's nothing I'm gonna
be sitting in bed scrolling on my phone
that's going to enhance my life I'm not
gonna miss anything if I don't scroll in
bed and it's a problem that's so many of
us had there's all these kinds of
studies that are coming out that looking
at a screen before you sleep doesn't
help you get good sleep at all and good
sleep is necessary for a peaceful life
no screens before sleeping has helped me
so much and some of you are like well
what about my alarm clock good thing you
asked you can plug your phone in all the
way across the room which forces you to
get out of your bed in the morning which
probably forces you to you know wake up
a little faster which is really good and
this is something that I would do before
I was married and daniel said no this is
not helping you at all like this is no
way we're not gonna do this and I was
like you know what you are absolutely
correct and so that's what we've done
and it's helped so much before I go to
sleep I'm not like you know looking
about other people's lives I'm talking
to Daniel or him
I have prayer time or reading or
whatever that is stuff that actually
like enhances my life rather than just
like mindless things that don't matter
at all something really oh my gosh I
could never yes you can choices or if
you get an old good old-fashioned alarm
clock those work too number five this is
important to me because as most of you
on this channel know I'm a woman of
faith one of the biggest ways to
cultivate peace in my life is to spend
time with God and define that prayer
time to find a rhythm of prayer that
works for me to find a style of prayer
that works for me whether that's
listening to worship music whether
that's going to church whatever that
might be to take that time to spend was
gotten a lot of us say I don't have time
we all have the time we are lying to
ourselves when I say I don't have time
because so often we spend an hour and a
half watching Netflix or an hour
scrolling on Instagram and we spend all
this time we're like I don't have time
yes we all do it's just about
prioritizing that time like I've asked
myself that question in my life when I'm
trying to cultivate peace how can I have
peace in my life if I'm not spending
time with the author of peace with God
himself to take that time to read
scripture to journal whatever you know
style of pray
that is in that's like it's helping me
in that season of my life and I go
through different kind of waves in my
life of prayer that I'm connecting with
and that's helping me in my prayer life
but spending time with God and being
really intentional about taking that
time is a very very important part of my
life and having peace in my life I know
when I like feel haywire and out of
whack and all this is for kids and
things that I don't have peace I always
have to step back and say am i spending
time with God as a woman of faith and my
prioritizing that in my life or am I not
something that I really have to look at
honestly and I really challenge you to
look at honestly so we have to make
those choices and we have to choose each
and every single day in these small
little ways to say I want peace of my
life how can I make that happen how can
I be proactive in choosing peace in my
every day if you want to talk about in
the comments the one that maybe you
struggle with the most that would be
hardest for you that maybe in your life
you're like hmm I could change that a
little bit and get more peace in my life
you are welcome to talk about that in
the comments below that's all for today
I've got another video coming to you
this week two videos a week woohoo it's
my pregnancy Q&A so look out for that
later this week and I will talk to you
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