Translator: Katie Poole Reviewer: Peter van de Ven
Did you know that one in three individuals
suffers from at least one chronic health issue?
If that's not you,
then it's either the person in the seat to your left or your right.
A chronic illness
is an illness that persists for longer than three months,
and there is no cure through vaccinations or medications.
You know plenty of medical chronic illnesses:
diabetes, heart disease, arthritis,
It goes on and on and on.
I am an epileptic.
Uncontrollable, intractable seizures.
I might stiffen up and fall to the ground (Snaps fingers) like that.
Or I might daydream and stare really hard,
and if you're in my line of focus,
you might think I'm giving you a good look.
That's not the case.
I might also do some weird, repetitive activities
such as picking things up and putting them into a bag.
It makes no sense, but that's the seizure.
I want you to sit here and take it in,
and in the end, act in a useful and helpful way.
I have fallen multiple times on concrete and cement,
which have resulted in concussions.
I have also burned the entire top half of my torso
with hot tea.
This resulted in four months of bandage-changing and on morphine.
Two years later, and my burn is still healing.
Finally, I needed a root canal and a cap
because I fell face-forward on brick.
I'm not going to tell you which tooth it is, though.
I'm not the only one who's in physical jeopardy.
I was hanging out with my friend Jordan one time,
and he's a type 1 diabetic.
Thanks to my mom,
she recognized that his blood sugars were painfully low.
We called a paramedic, and if we hadn't,
he was this close from slipping into a diabetic coma.
I also have two friends who've been hit by cars in the last year.
One of them has a visual impairment,
and the other one uses a scooter because of an acquired brain injury.
If I have a large amount of seizures in a short period of time,
I lose a lot of short-term memory.
especially if I'm trying to achieve something,
and it can also be embarrassing
if I'm trying to have a conversation with someone.
I don't know where I started and they ended.
Seniors moment much? I think I'm starting early.
I also feel so fatigued.
I might need to sleep for three to four days.
This fatigue is on top of the medication that I take.
You know, you've seen the ads for medication.
The side effects are like this long.
With chronic illness, depending on your chronic illness,
you might have to say goodbye to a lot of things.
You have heart disease?
Kiss goodbye hiking in the mountains with your friends.
With chronic illness, it is a world of loss.
Now that I have painted a picture for you
of what it's like to experience chronic illness on a physical level,
let me paint for you a picture of what it's like
to live with mental health issues and emotional issues.
I have been plagued by anxiety,
and I did not leave my house for an entire week.
That's a long time.
I have also fallen into a pit of despair and depression,
not knowing where I was going to go or where I was going to end up,
and I felt like a total failure.
I've seen this among my other friends with chronic illness too.
So if you see someone who is isolating themselves,
I tell you,
reach out a hand, talk to them.
Talking to them shows them that you care.
Help in whichever way you can.
On top of all of this, the icing on the cake,
is how people treat you based on your chronic illness.
For my age, the challenges of dating loom large.
I'm often very up-front about my epilepsy
when I'm meeting someone for the first time.
They're generally pretty cool about it.
"You've got epilepsy? No problem."
"Seizures? Seen them in the movies."
But, sometimes people can be unkind.
I was on a date one time, and it seemed to be going pretty well.
We were in a restaurant making casual conversation,
and we decided to walk down by the water.
We weren't really talking about anything in particular,
and we got to a crosswalk.
We got to the crosswalk, and as we were crossing, boom!
I had a seizure and fell flat on my face.
Now, I had taught this person about the appropriate seizure first aid.
The first thing I told him - be calm.
So when I came out of the seizure two minutes later,
I pulled myself up, back on my feet.
"I'm here, it's okay."
He was calm, but he was so full of fear.
I could feel it.
So I was getting my head back together, and he said to me,
"Well, I don't see a third date happening here."
I would've expected you to at least text me that after we said goodbye!
It would have been a little bit more tactful.
So in addition to acceptance of other people,
you need to come to terms with your own chronic illness.
Acceptance is the big job of the chronically ill.
No, it doesn't happen overnight.
It can take years and even a lifetime.
Acceptance brings up ideas, such as, what does this mean for me?
Will I be able to find a partner?
Will I have kids?
Will I be able to raise these kids?
Will I find a job or live in constant poverty?
These thoughts can be so overwhelming,
and it takes a lot out of you.
Also, when we are children, we are told, "Dream big!"
"What do you want to do when you're an adult?"
I have known that I have wanted to be a social worker since the age of ten.
I don't know about you, but for me, that's a long time.
I'm a registered social worker,
but I don't know if I will be able to do what I want to do in my line of practice.
I also have a good friend, Vanessa, who used to be a competitive dancer.
Then she was struck with arthritis.
She had to completely alter her life path
because of a diagnosis that had no cure.
How would you feel if you had to give up your dream?
So I've thrown a lot at you with regards to chronic illness
and what it's like to live with one
and all of the things that you have to go through,
and you might be a little bit overwhelmed at this point,
but don't worry - that's why I'm here.
So my three-point plan is this -
super-easy; you can follow it.
First of all, accept that there is no such thing as a norm.
Everybody is different
with regards to mental health, ability, and well-being.
Accept that, and act accordingly.
Also, you may be struck down with a chronic illness
at some point in your life too.
My second plan to action is to have empathy.
You have no idea what people are going through on a day-to-day basis.
If you do, though, reach out to that person.
Tell them, "Hey, I'm here for you, and I'm willing to do whatever I can."
My final call to action is - consider this:
Maybe a person's chronic illness isn't their problem, but your problem,
and the problem of society at large.
If we had a more inclusive paradigm
that included people with chronic illness,
we might be able to pull people out of the hell that is chronic illness.