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HOW BUDDHISM CHANGED MY LIFE



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so a few years ago I found myself in a

really deep dark place like it was

really bad I literally had blackout

curtains covering all of my windows

because I didn't want to know how many

days had passed I didn't want to know if

it was morning or night I just didn't

want to exist that's like literally how

I felt and at the time I didn't really

know what I was battling but it ended up

being a very heavy dose of depression I

just felt so sad and lost and confused

and I feel like most people in my

situation probably would have turned to

God in that moment I feel like that's a

pretty common thing to do when you're

feeling that low but I've never been a

religious person so that just didn't

feel right to me but that situation did

make me start thinking about other

spiritual philosophies and Buddhism is

the first thing that came to mind

because I had actually taken Japanese in

college and studying Buddhism was one of

the tests that we had and I just

remember thinking that that wisdom was

just I just felt like it really aligned

with me and my character so I ordered a

book about Buddhism and I read it and

then I read another one and another one

and another one and another one and I

think I listened to a few on audible and

one quote that I think perfectly sums up

Buddhism is to study Buddhism is to

study ourselves to study ourselves is to

forget ourselves and I think what they

mean here when they say forgetting

ourselves is not you know literally

forgetting ourselves but more like just

not being so hyper focused on the self

and therefore being more immersed in

reality and experience and not letting

worries and difficulties and stuff like

that get the best of you which I know is

easier said than done this book Buddhism

plain and simple does a really fantastic

job of saying what I'm trying to say I'm

not the best with words but this book is

the Buddha Dharma doesn't ask us to give

up control instead

it acknowledges that we never had it in

the first place when we can see this the

desire to control and naturally begins

to wane the point is not to try to stop

exerting control or to condemn the

desire to control as a bad or wrong the

point is to see things as they are to

acknowledge what's really going on

through such acknowledgement and

recognition we can cease to suffer so if

you're willing to open your mind a

little bit I am fairly positive that

this video will change your life okay I

really feel that this information that

I'm about to drop will change your life

well really it's a Buddhist information

but you know what I'm trying to say and

a quick disclaimer I just want to say

that I am NOT a Buddhist I do not

identify as a Buddhist I just think the

philosophy is insanely wise and I'm very

much into it I can say without a doubt

that studying Buddhism has been one of

the most impactful things I have ever

done in my entire life it really helped

me through my period of Darkness and I

feel like it set me on a better path and

I just think it has the power to do that

for so many people and so I thought

today I would love to share with you

guys five of my favorite lessons that I

learned from reading books about

Buddhism but before we get into it I

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click so what exactly is Buddhism is it

a religion is it philosophy this is kind

of a common debate but if you were to

ask me I would say it's more of a

philosophy that focuses on mental

awareness and mental freedom

whereas religion when I think of

religion personally I think of prayer

worship belief which is something that I

don't see in the site of Buddhism that

I've studied Oh Buddha is simply a

person who is awake nothing more nothing

less

Buddhism is not a belief system it's not

about accepting certain tenets or

believing a set of claims or principles

in fact it's quite the opposite it's

about examining the world clearly and

carefully about testing everything and

every idea Buddhism is about seeing it's

about knowing rather than believing or

hoping or wishing it's also about not

being afraid to examine anything and

everything including our own personal

agendas the Buddha himself invited

people on all occasions to test him

don't believe me because you see me as

your teacher he said don't believe me

because others do and don't believe

anything because you've read it in a

book either don't put your faith in

reports or tradition or hearsay or the

authority of religious figures or texts

don't rely on mere logic or inference or

appearances or speculation the Buddha

repeatedly emphasized the impossibility

of ever arriving at truth by giving up

your own authority and following the

likes of others such a path will lead

only to

opinion whether your own or someone

else's the Buddha encouraged people to

know for yourselves that certain things

are unwholesome and wrong and when you

do then give them up and when you know

for yourselves if certain things are

wholesome and good then accept them and

follow them the message is always to

examine and see for yourself when you

see for yourself what is true then

that's really the only way you can

genuinely know anything then embrace it

until then just suspend judgment and

criticism the point of Buddhism is to

just see that is all okay now that we

have a little bit better of an

understanding about what Buddhism is

let's get into my five favorite lessons

lesson one you will experience maximum

happiness once you learn how to master

mindfulness or the art of living in the

moment if you make a list of things that

tend to make people happy you will

probably notice that all of those things

pull people into the present moment

let's think of some examples here sports

music reading movies dancing video games

interacting with children interacting

with animals in all of these situations

you're not thinking of the past or

worrying about the future because you're

practically forced to engage with the

current moment last week I tweeted

something that I think kind of relates

to this topic I said you know what I

miss most about childhood innocence

having no concept of time we all took

that [ __ ] for granted because it's so

easy to find happiness in the moment

when you don't know what you have to do

next when there is no such thing as next

schedules hold us hostage now I totally

understand that schedules are pretty

much essential to modern day life I

wasn't saying that we should forego all

responsibilities and behave like

children if we truly want to be happy

but I think it could be very healthy to

have bursts where you adapt this kind of

mindset so for me every Sunday I do my

best to have zero scheduling

I try to be as spontaneous and free as I

possibly can I try to go against the

grain of my normal routines as much as I

possibly can

so maybe I'll wake up and I'll just jump

in the pool and then I'll ride my bike

to the grocery store and eat some fresh

fruit in the park nearby and then maybe

I'll go and I'll take a Pilates class

but the point is I don't know what's

next and it is [ __ ] therapeutic I am

telling you guys you have to try it or

if that's not an option for you like if

you can't live free for an entire day

like you have children or some other

major responsibilities I get that maybe

just try doing this for fifteen minutes

don't think of the past don't think of

the future just take in that very moment

the sights the sounds the smells just

take in every tiny detail and hyper

focus on the moment and I think you'll

find that it can be very intoxicating I

want to read you guys one of my favorite

quotes from technicon he says in order

to love you must be here that is certain

fortunately being here is not a

difficult thing to accomplish it is

enough to just breathe and let go of

thinking or planning just come back to

yourself concentrate on your breath and

smile you are here body and mind

together you are here alive completely

alive that is a miracle some people live

as though they are already dead there

are people moving around us who are

consumed by their past terrified of

their future and stuck in their anger

and jealousy they are not alive they are

just walking corpses if you look around

yourself with mindfulness you will see

people going around like zombies have a

great deal of compassion for the people

around you who are living like this they

do not know that life is accessible only

in the here and now lesson number two

try to look at life with a beginner's

mind the saying goes if your mind is

empty it is always ready for anything it

is open to everything in the beginner's

mind there are many possibilities but in

the experts there are few

essentially the more you think you know

the more closed off you become to

challenging your stored knowledge which

is more than likely incorrect biased or

outdated but by channeling your younger

self the version of you who didn't

understand hardly anything you tap into

a possibility to learn from every single

moment there's this quote it's literally

one of my top five favorite quotes of

all time which is saying a lot because I

love my quotes and I think it really

pertains to this perfectly it goes the

fullest reject what they see not what

they think the wise reject what they

think not what they see it's one of

those ones that you really have to say

to yourself a few times because it's

just so freakin deep but basically it's

saying try to remember that what you

think you know isn't [ __ ] you really you

don't know [ __ ] and if you remember that

you will become much wiser and way more

dimensional cultivating your beginner's

mind will also help your relationships

flourish when we think we have it all

figured out it really it gets in the way

of communication it basically puts up a

blockade that prevents you from truly

listening and bonding deeply with

another and I want to read a bit from a

book again it is a different book it is

called Zend mine beginner's mind and I

think it sums this up perfectly when you

listen to someone you should give up all

of your preconceived ideas and your

subjective opinions you should just

listen to him just observe what his way

is we put very little emphasis on right

and wrong or good and bad we just see

things as they are with him and accept

them this is how we communicate with

each other usually when you listen to

some statement you hear it as a kind of

echo of yourself you are actually

listening to your own opinion if it

agrees with your opinion you may accept

it but if it does not you will reject it

or you may not even really hear it

lesson number three treat your emotions

and frustrations with the same patience

and love that you would give a child to

explain this lesson I'm

going to read a few pieces from one of

my favorite books of all time you are

here because technicon has such a way

with words like he articulates his ideas

in the most beautiful ways that I am

just not capable of so I really want to

read this bit to you guys when you were

dealing with pain with a moment of

irritation or with a bout of anger you

can learn to treat them in the same way

you would a child do not fight against

pain do not fight against irritation or

jealousy embrace them with great

tenderness as though you are embracing a

little baby your anger is yourself and

you should not be violent towards it

the same thing goes for all of your

emotions in the practice of Buddhist

meditation we do not turn ourselves into

a battlefield of good versus evil the

good must take care of the evil as a big

brother takes care of his little brother

or as a big sister takes care of her

little sister with a great deal of

tenderness in a spirit of non-duality

knowing that there is a lot of peace in

you already the insight of non-duality

will put a stop to the war in you you

have struggled in the past and perhaps

you are still struggling but is it

necessary no struggle is useless stop

struggling now this is definitely easier

said than done and I know that dealing

with emotion can be quite difficult but

what I find at least for me is that the

older I get the less emotions tend to

cloud my judgment as children you know

we're all quite emotional because the

left brain often referred to as the

logical brain isn't fully developed so

emotions feel very primary but the more

repetitive emotions become the more

predictable they become and the more

often they get you into trouble the more

you reflect and know how to navigate

them in the future so over time your

left brain develops neuro psychiatrists

actually say that it isn't fully

developed until your mid-20s which is

pretty crazy but you will slowly feel

way more in control but I love this

advice from technicon because there

doesn't need to be this sense of duality

with our emotions yes they are

frustrating but let's let's not fight

them let's not fight part of who we are

let's hold them in amber

them let them say what they need to say

in order to feel better

validate them calm them down and then

send them on their way this idea is just

very in line with the Buddha's teachings

the first noble truth of Buddhism is the

nature of suffering the Buddha said to

embrace our suffering and look at it

deeply in order to understand its nature

we shouldn't try to escape it or

suppress it we should look at it

directly we should learn from it lesson

number four life is like a river

everything is in constant flow do not

box yourself in and limit yourself to

who you were yesterday and do not limit

others either now I'm gonna read another

piece from the book Buddhism plain and

simple that literally takes my breath

away it is that powerful I am NOT

playing around it is a little long so

please stick with me pick up a flower a

beautiful living fresh rose that smells

wonderful it reveals a lovely rhythm in

the swirl of its petals a rich yet

dazzling color a soft velvety texture it

moves and delights us the problem with

the rose is that it dies its petals fall

which shrivels up it turns brown and

returns to the earth one solution to

this problem is to ignore the real rose

and substitute a plastic one one that

never dies and never lives technically

but is a plastic rose what we want no of

course not we want the real rose we want

the one that dies we want it because it

dies because it's fleeting because it

fades it's this very quality that makes

it precious this is what we want what

each of us is a living thing that dies

your very own body and mind are also

precious because they're just as

fleeting they're changing always in

every moment in fact you are nothing but

change itself let's examine this closely

for a moment it's easy to see that you

don't have the body you had when you

were a small child nor you have the same

mind if you look carefully you will

notice that you don't even have the same

body and mind you had when you turn to

this page a few moments ago in those few

seconds many cells in your bodies died

and many others were created countless

chemical changes took place and

organs you thought changed in response

to the words on this page and the

circumstances around you thousands of

synapses in your brain fired thousands

of times in each and every moment you

changed like the Rose our bodies and

minds are fleeting in fact everything in

our experience our bodies our minds our

thoughts our ones and needs our

relationships are fleeting changing

subject to death we die in each moment

and again in each moment we are born the

process of birth and death goes on

endlessly moment after moment right

before our eyes everything we look at

including ourselves and every aspect of

our lives is nothing but change vitality

consists of this very birth and death

this impermanence as constant arising

and fading away are the very things that

make our lives of vibrant wonderful and

alive yet we usually want to keep things

from changing we want to preserve things

to hold on to them as we shall see this

desire to hold on to somehow stop change

in its tracks is the greatest source of

low and horror and trouble in our lives

Wow

right that is just something else I

could seriously make an entire video on

this topic because I feel it is so

important everything is constantly

changing

nothing has a permanent identity

whenever we form an idea about something

or someone we have to understand that we

are freezing it in the process we are

storing information about this thing or

person as if its molecular and chemical

composition is frozen in time but it's

not so we have to acknowledge that even

though it may feel nice to freeze

reality and block people in so that we

have a means of understanding them

better it is really a disservice to the

complexity of the human experience so I

urge that you don't shame people for

being different than the person they

were yesterday for eating their words

for changing their mind because none of

us are who we are who we were yesterday

and and and it's a very good thing

lesson number five nothing outside

yourself can cause any trouble you

yourself make the waves in your

mind there's this Buddhist quote that

goes if your mind is calm and constant

you can keep yourself away from the

noisy world even though you are in the

midst of it this is where meditation is

key so meditation helps bring you closer

to your beginner's mind back to a time

when the mind was calm there weren't

10,000 ideas and they're about who you

should be what you should do how you

should perceive the world you were just

you you were simply existing so to just

sit and bring yourself back to that

empty slate is to rest the mind because

you know your body goes to sleep every

night but your mind does not meditation

is how you let the mind sleep and the

more you meditate the more you learn how

to handle your thoughts and emotions the

better you will get at maintaining an

optimum level of internal peace and

while I'm still very much trying to

master this I'm nowhere close I do know

that this is true because I have been in

the presence of someone who has mastered

it

I met a Buddhist monk once and his

energy literally blew me away

like I felt calm just from talking to

him it literally has energy transferred

to me just from having a conversation

with him and it was absolutely insane I

truly think that daily meditation is the

only thing that can get you to such a

state however if I had to do my best to

put the formula for success into words I

think I would say this whatever will be

will be if someone is yelling at you let

them yell and do your best not to react

until they are finished if you had a bad

day and you find lots of negative

thoughts popping in your mind

let them come then let them go be less

reactive maintain a sort of mental

homeostasis of sorts don't let anything

shake you understand the origin of the

conflict let it simmer while you make

sense of it but don't let it come to a

boil this is something that I'm really

working on I wish that I could be less

reactive think more speak less make sure

that when I speak my words are a perfect

reflection of how I truly feel make sure

that I am approaching a situation with

logic under

and love well that's it those are my

five lessons I hope you guys didn't mind

that I decided to just do kind of like

an audio because I started trying to

read off my notes and I realized that I

really just wasn't doing it justice

because my short-term memory is just

awful and I couldn't remember anything I

wrote down and I really wanted to get

this information to you guys as clearly

as I possibly could because I do think

it is so life-altering and I get then

everybody has time to read six books

about Buddhism so I really wanted to

kind of condense all of my knowledge

into this one video hoping that it could

help some of you guys yes so if you're

interested in any of the books that I

mentioned I'm gonna go over them really

quickly with you guys so if I could

recommend okay I have two if you have

literally no free time in your life and

you want a quick easy read that will

definitely change your life I recommend

this one this is called you are here

it's by technicon amazing second one I

recommend which is a lot more

comprehensive it's just it's chock full

of information okay like this is heavy

this is called Buddhism plain and simple

I quoted this one a few times it's by

Steve Hagin amazing another one that is

very in-depth is Zen mind beginner's

mind by so I'm gonna butcher this even

though I've taken Japanese genre Suzuki

shun Suzuki I tried anyway I will put it

in the description for you guys but this

is great then we have Buddhism without

beliefs by Stephen bachelor a

contemporary guide to awakening and I

really can't do a philosophy video

without mentioning Osho okay Oh she'll

has tons of amazing books but the one

that I feel pertains most to this topic

is probably the art of living and dying

this book is amazing but that about does

it guys I really truly hope you got

something out of this video

and if you are battling depression I

really hope this had the same effect for

you as it did for me I really truly

encourage you to pick up at least one of

these books and read them as I think it

can really help bring some lightness

into your life during this dark time but

okay I'm gonna go I will see you guys

really soon thank you so much for

watching bye