How to Teach Children English (when you are also an English learner)

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hey it's a tower thank you so much for

joining me today we're gonna talk about

how to teach your kids English as

English learners you know how important

that is to start learning English early

so you can get a head start when it

comes to English at the same time as

English learners you're probably

thinking to yourself that you are not

enough or capable enough to teach your

kids English and this is why I created

this video because as English learners

not only that you can teach your kids

English but you should teach your kids

English as well learning from you is

totally different than learning from a

teacher and before you go and spend

money on teachers or on schools I want

to give you a few ideas that you can

implement in your home to help them

associate a good experience with English

and allow the bond that you have

contribute to this good experience

around learning English because you

don't have to have perfect grammar or

perfect pronunciation to teach your kids

and nothing guarantees that if you send

them to a teacher that teacher would do

a better job than you you don't know

what happens there and while there are

fantastic teachers sometimes there are

teachers who don't really know what your

kid or kids need and then it's just a

waste of time a waste of money and your

kids might associate a negative

experience with learning English because

they won't be willing to do that we're

excited to do it and that's exactly what

we want them to feel and experience

excited curious interested and they need

to have fun so even if English is not

your native language you definitely

should and can teach your kids English

especially these days I'm recording this

episode during kovat 19:00 where so many

families are at home parents are with

their kids and not all parents have the

time to teach their kids during these

times a lot of parents work from home

and they're just trying to get by so if

that's you don't worry about it there is

a ton of resources online on YouTube on

television that can help your kids

comfortable with English but if you do

have the 20 minutes 30 minutes a day to

work with your kids on English I want to

give you a few tips to make it effective

and fun for both of you so let's get

started well first I want to go back to

the fact that you have all the

permission in the world to teach your

kids English even if your English is

still broken even if it's not perfect

they don't need to speak to native

speakers especially when they're just

starting out using words and simple

phrases and sentences and isolated

sounds where it's easier for you to make

those sounds rather than in a word or in

context of speaking I mean that is

enough for them I have a bunch of videos

and I'm gonna link to it in the

description below a bunch of videos

where you can actually download a list

of words with with the recording so you

can practice it with them because as an

English Learner I think it's extremely

valuable to do it together they see you

learning they learn with you you

practice words together they see that

you are - and you are their role model

right they want to be like you they

learn from you what it means to be to be

learning to be a self learner and to be

in this constant state of self

improvement so do it with them improve

your English and improve theirs as well

which leads me to the next point where

what you want to do when teaching is to

really associate a positive experience

around English around communicating in

English and around speaking in English

because here's the thing when they're

going to go to school and learn English

they're going to learn all the grammar

rules and they're going to get lists of

words and they're going to fill out

exercises and learn how to read and

write so maybe this is not what you need

to teach them maybe what you need to

focus on is the experience and building

up that confidence in speaking because

when they get to school they learn that

there is right and wrong in English

instead teaching them

English and supporting them while making

mistake and while not having the right

answers might be the best thing for them

so they can build up that confidence and

will learn that it's okay to make


no one's angry and even though kids tend

to be perfectionists my daughter is an

extreme perfectionist I don't know who

she got this from but it's hard for her

to make mistakes or not have the right

answers and I do my best to support her

and not feel that there is a problem not

with this feeling of who I just messed

up but also with the fact that she

messed up and it's okay because what is

messing up anyway when it comes to

English it's not a thing it's a thing if

you decide that it's a thing but trying

to communicate is all that we're looking

for and if you've followed me for a

little bit you know that when I talk

about communicating in English I first

and foremost talk about the mindset and

the confidence and this is what you need

to pass on to your kids when working

with them on English so there is no real

right and wrong as long as you're trying

even if you mess up that's what needs to

lead you as you're working with your

kids in English also as I said it needs

to be fun engaging and it needs to get

them curious about the language so you

need to see what your child needs loves

wants do they like to play physical

games do they like to play with small

toys do they like walking around and

running around or cooking like what can

you do that your kid loves doing anyway

and how can you incorporate English into

that so it doesn't need to be like oh

let's sit at the table open up the

notebooks and learn English because that

is not going to serve them as well as

doing something that creates an

experience also I think that approaching

pronunciation something that usually

kids don't learn in school is very

important so it doesn't need to be okay

let's drill sounds right now but playing

with sounds so for example I don't teach

my girls English I don't speak English

home I do incorporate English on the go

I read them in English I say words in

English every now and then I speak

sometimes in English to them but I don't

deliberately teach them and I don't only

speak English at home but what I do do

consistently is play with sounds so for

example if I want them to learn the R

sound and I have seen like at first when

I just started doing it it was

impossible for them to make the sound

but just by repetition and sang words

and playing around with it they have

gotten to pronounce this sound super

clearly accurately it's so much easier

for kids so when you introduce them to

sounds of English especially tricky

sounds like the R and the th and the

open vowel sounds like ah and AH like

when you associate sounds that don't

exist in your native language and you

just say words without even talking

about the definition right like let's

just play an imitation game when where

you say a word and they repeat I think

that's extremely valuable and they start

recognizing the sounds which is

something that people lose the ability

of doing that especially when they

encounter spelling so by the fact that

you are giving them the gift of

recognizing sounds I think it's

extremely valuable and it's also a lot

easier for them to hear something and

automatically produce it or reproduce it

it's so much easier for them when

they're kids and when they're younger

than when they grow up and they're more

stuck on the sounds that they already

know so having them repeat sounds or

listen to words and then just repeat it

without even talking about the meaning

of them is such an incredible gift when

they're just starting out because that

would serve them a lot more than just

learning more words now as we talked

about the mindset and the experience

it's really important to create that

mistakes are okay atmosphere today I was

reading dr. Seuss for my

kids sam-i-am and my daughter got

confused by the house and mouse so I

read it once and then I read it again

and then I said so what is house and she

said mouse in Hebrew so she got confused

and then the next time I asked her she

didn't answer she was kind of like

thinking and I knew that this is a point

where she can lose her temper really

easily like I don't get it I don't want

you to read it anymore for me because

she gets frustrated when she doesn't get

it right or when it becomes too

challenging so we got a balance between

I don't want it to get too challenging

but also get them to think a little bit

but if you're just starting out and you

know that your kid might be upset about

not getting it right so I would

recommend helping them and not putting

them on the spot for too long so maybe

you're asking a question and you want

them to answer don't wait too long help

them with the answers the thing is they

will get it eventually but also if they

say the wrong answer then don't be like

no that's not right but be more like

just tell them what the right answer is

and not make them feel like they did

something wrong just like good for

trying but here's the actual answer okay

it really depends what you're talking

about let's say I'll give you a

different example if you're trying to

teach them how to use verb' and you want

to say you are and she is right you are

happy you are sad she is happy she is

sad and then your kid says she are happy

and you're like good you said happy

really nicely she is happy and you just

say the right form without telling them

no that was wrong maybe you give them a

positive comment on something that they

did do okay and then just repeat the

write in the correct form and ask them

to repeat after you even without

pointing out that they made a mistake

they'll get it as they go along with you

it also depends how old they are and how

aware they are of the situation so of

course the conversation can change

whether you're speaking

a six-year-old a three-year-old or an

eight-year-old it really changes but at

the same time never put them on the spot

for not knowing something or for making

a mistake I think it's the most valuable

thing you can give to your kids as you

are teaching them English now if your

kids is already learning with a teacher

at school then I would recommend doing

something very different than what

they're already doing in school because

they're very focused on reading and

writing I would recommend just don't

deal with it get them to speak get them

to experience English in a fun way have

them repeat after you have them repeat

after their favorite shows but don't do

stuff that they're already doing or

anyway doing in school because first of

all they'll do it their love the

teachers do it with them and you provide

something that is a little different it

would be refreshing to them and of

course more interesting and they will

stick with you rather than being like

I'm bored I just want to watch TV so ask

your kids with their learning ask their

teachers and see how you can do

something that is completely different

now if you want to teach them every day

or every other day whether you have time

or you don't have time it really doesn't

matter I would recommend keeping it

short both for you and for your kids I

say up until 30 minutes a day that is

more than valuable 30 minutes 40 minutes

tops if you include videos or TV shows

that you learn with and from but other

than that don't overdo it even if they

get excited about it even if they have

fun with it then you can just make it a

little longer but not too much why

because the next day they'll be like oh

that was too long I don't want to do it

again it's harder for them to get into

it so if you keep it short and sweet

they will be more willing to do it on a

regular basis and so will you so it

won't be also too demanding and

overwhelming for you because you are

important too now when teaching kids you

have to remember that repetition is

to be honest when teaching adults it's

also important but with kids that's the

best way for you to actually get them to

understand and to experience it because

it doesn't stick that easily so if you

want to teach them a new word let's say

you want to teach them the word Apple so

you might actually bring them an apple

because when you use physical objects

it's the best and then you may say a

bunch of things about this Apple oh it's

a red apple it's a big Apple it's a

Delicious apple it's a small apple it's

a disgusting Apple it's a sour apple

it's a great Apple right so you're

actually not trying to teach them all

those adjectives that you just used but

you want them to understand that this is

an Apple by doing all of that eventually

the word Apple will stick big by

repetition right when I teach my girls

to ask for something I talk about I want

right like if they want something I want

food I want water I want to play and I

want them to understand what is I want

means I'm not expecting them to remember

what to play means I'm not expecting

them to remember what food means at this

point if I'm trying to teach them the

phrase I want I'm asking maybe I'll

present a bunch of stuff like an apple

and water and a sandwich

and a toy and I would ask them to ask

for each and every one of them now when

they say I want Apple let's say they

don't know how to use N and I don't care

about it so much right now I'll repeat

the right form but when they ask it I'm

totally fine with them just saying I

want Apple I want water I want sandwich

I want toy or I want to play right so as

I said they will probably forget how to

say each and every item here but they

will remember how to say I want and I'll

keep coming back to it and here's

another thing

about teaching your kids English you

have that 20 minutes 30 minutes a day

that you intentionally learning and

teaching them but what I do is I just

incorporate English on a regular basis

at home so for example if we're sitting

down for a meal and yesterday we talked

about how to say water then when they

ask for water I would maybe they would

say I shall mine in Hebrew can I can I

have some water

and as a response I would say you want

water right so I respond to them out of

context right they're not learning but

we are having dinner and yesterday we

talked about how to ask for water and I

would respond to them with something

that they already know so I start to

incorporate that without asking them to

do anything in return usually they're

very excited to repeat it because they

remember it and that's how I make it

stick for them and that's how they

remember it if I keep coming back to it

and it's not just those 20 minutes or 30

minutes a day of course I don't overdo

it and I don't force them to participate

if it's not like this intentional lesson

and in general I would just like maybe

say a sentence and then instead of one

word in Hebrew I will flip it and use

the English word and because of the

context they'll understand sometimes

they would ask me what do I want

sometimes they they would be like mom I

don't want to speak English because that

happens too and sometimes they would

just carry on as if I just said it in

Hebrew right so I try to incorporate it

and insert words here and there or

respond to them with small phrases or

short phrases in English and as I said

I'm not expecting them to remember it

but I want them to be surrounded with

English to hear the sounds and also

remember those short phrases that I keep

repeating during the lesson but also

during the day now one of the things

that I love love love doing and I think

is super effective is using movement

when teaching so again to create that

nice fun experience around learning

English you want

them to do something that is fun and not

like just sitting by the table and kids

they love to move they love to play so I

would just like stand up with them and

then practice jumping so I would say

jump and jump with them so they

associate the word with the physical

activity sit walk run skip turn around

right like physical activities again so

they associated they have to repeat it

so they repeat it and they do it with me

and then I start messing around with

them and I have them like jump and sit

at the same time and skip and turn

around simultaneously so it's it's funny

it's fun for me as well like I get to

move with them but also they remember it

and then next time I would just say it

without doing it and I expect them to

remember it because their body remembers

it the last thing I want to talk about

is do not project your own fears and

limiting beliefs unto your kids so even

if they struggle even if something is

hard try to avoid saying stuff like

English is hard

I don't know English but you will write

like when you talk about your

difficulties and your challenges because

if you share it with them in a way that

is limiting it will become their

limiting belief as well they will grow

up thinking and knowing that English is

tough and it's not easy to communicate

in English and there is a lot of fear

around English so before you go on to

teaching them I want you to think real

deep about the words that you use the

vocabulary that you use how open your

voice is how open your body is when you

are speaking in English and teaching

English and encouraging them to speak in

English because if you decide to teach

your kids English it has to come from a

place of love and openness and no

judgement and there is no room for fear

only room for improvement

and mistakes and acceptance because you

have to accept yourself otherwise it

would be very hard for you to accept the

mistakes that your child makes and it

would be hard for them to accept their

own mistakes and as we said giving them

a head start in English doesn't mean to

teach the more words doesn't mean to

give them the right grammar rules no it

means to build up their confidence and

their ability to communicate freely

without thinking that there is something

wrong about their accent or about their

mistakes that is the most valuable

lesson that you can teach your kids okay

that's it now let me know in the

comments below what have you been doing

to teach your kids English if you have

if you haven't what has stopped you so

far and not enough time is a good enough

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