One thing I'm trying to--
make sure I do better.
Or not do better, do in the future whatever.
is how to be
a man that truly leads
right in a relationship.
Yes, like leads a relationship right.
Again, I think it starts with you first.
You know what I'm saying?
Are you leading yourself right?
You can’t lead nobody else if you can’t lead yourself
How are you living?
How are you taking care of yourself?
What are you doing to
to set a certain standard in your life?
For me, I’m a spiritual person.
I’m a man of God.
For a while I wasn't even going to church
To me it’s like how am I have a wife
and expect my family to embrace spirituality,
and I’m not even leading myself to church.
I had to get that going.
I had to start getting back
physically getting back in there
not just watching it all in the internet [laughter]
It's convienient. You know what I'm saying?
You got to be there.
Your presence needs to be there
I think that’s where it starts.
One is learning how to take care of yourself
Again, I’m big on praying
and talking to God and finding out
what he wants you to do in your life.
I also think
you know it’s about learning
how to lead people in general.
It’s going to be hard to lead
the same qualities it takes to lead
the woman or your household.
It takes to lead people in general.
Are you willing to listen to them?
Consider their feelings.
Knowing how to express yourself effectively
to an individual.
These are things that’s going
to allow someone to
embrace your leadership
in any situation.
You know I’m saying?
There’s a lot of misconceptions
about what makes a strong leader.
It’s not all the hard stuff
and talking down on people.
No, that destroys your credibility as a leader.
it’s knowing how to bring people to the table
and make them feel comfortable and opening up
and trusting your guidance.
But then also as a man
create or build up your resume
is what I like to say.
Like I said earlier,
you want her to believe in you,
you got to give her something to believe in.
If you have not accomplished nothing in your life
expecting her to embrace your lead
is going to be real tough.
She may embrace it at first
but after a while she wants to see results.
When you can come to the table with
what you've already accomplished in life--
it doesn’t mean got to be rich
or anything like that,
but you show that you’re a man
who handles his business.
Who’s gotten some things taken care of.
Now, she says, "Okay, you know what?"
"This dude is serious about
how he handles himself
and his ability to execute."
"I can trust that."
"I can roll with that."
That’s how you are able to, in my opinion
lead as a man and create a relationship
to where she will embrace your leadership.
if you know how to lead other people,
you can use those same qualities
to lead your family?