How to lead
A Happy Stress Free Life
How to Live a Stress Free Life, and process everything | Peter Sage
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hi guys its Peter and just want to say
thank you for all of the the recent
feedback that we've had and yeah
obviously my summation is created a few
little responses that we've had a chance
to go through and look at and one thing
I want to talk about this week is a
subject that I think affects absolutely
everybody and to various degrees if you
if you know how to have access to some
of the insights that I'm going to be
sharing with you on this subject can
make a profound and unusually
instantaneous shift in the quality of
life that you have on a day to day basis
and that is the issue of stress okay
hands up who feel stress some of the
time both homes right and that the
challenge is that we live in a world
that is so stressful
compared to any other time in history on
many different levels which is a shame
because by contrast we live at a time in
history that has more certainty around
things like survival and longevity than
any other time in human history
so how come is it that we are more
stressed out today than almost any time
in a past or or our ancestors past and
it's something to really contemplate
because if you understand the where most
laden stress comes from you know if
you've gone back to 20,000 years and
said to your ancestors that no I'm
really stressed because you know I
haven't got enough time in the day that
they'd look at you sort of quizzically
and say well you mean you haven't got
enough time to run away from a
saber-toothed tiger no no no I just
don't have enough time to get to work
right it would be a very interesting
sort of constant conversation from their
side so modern-day stress is something
that we really want to look at here
because that there's something and we
make it a little deep here in this
conversation so for some of you maybe a
perfect explanation for some of you you
may want to re-watch this a couple of
times and tune in and see if it
resonates and if not no big deal that
that's fine but one has to understand a
certain fact and that is that modern-day
stress is caused not in that has
anything to do with circumstances that
we usually attribute to it
but in in a reaction to circumstances
now that so it's a fairly obvious
statement when you look at it but let's
just have a little deeper you see our
experience of the world is an internally
created phenomena and I don't want to
get too deep into quantum physics and
advanced theoretical physics here which
I'm more than happy to do with some of
you offline but you know most of the
time our perception of what the world is
is very different from everybody else's
perception of what the world is we will
each create our own what we'd call a
layer of the world or experience of the
world but it's an internally created
phenomenon we call it the physical world
because we interpret everything in our
outer world through our five physical
senses now what are our five physical
senses obviously taste touch sight sound
and smell
we know that yeah let's just leave that
the physical senses is five for now
without getting into deeper
conversations but yeah if we understand
that everything in our outer world
everything in our experience of what we
would call three-dimensional reality you
know or a day-to-day life a story and
that the stuff of our life the external
experience of waking up to it to going
to bed everything in that experience is
first filtered through one of those five
senses now we can't experience anything
else you're not experiencing my voice
now the computer screen or the TV that
you're looking at the seat that you're
sitting in yeah the the temperature that
you're currently experiencing none of
that can enter your awareness unless it
is first filtered through one of the
five senses now let me ask you a
question how many of us all like the
same music hmm we've got a variable how
many of us all like the same food I'm a
goodness another variable how about we
all have the same favorite color I don't
think so
now what about the same you know sense
about what we like to smell well that's
why there's so many different you know
perfumes and aftershaves and scented
shampoos because we have a different
sense even about what we like to smell
and what we like to touch is is
completely variable so hang on a minute
let me just rewind and check in so
what you're saying here Peter is that
you know we all experience the world
through our five senses but each one of
those five senses can be completely
different to the person standing next to
us well yes of course in fact yeah it's
not only likely it's guaranteed yeah so
two people can experience the exact same
event standing next to each other
breathing the same air in the same space
and time use the same equipment to
process that experience called the five
senses and come up with an entirely
different conclusion hmm am I making
sense see the message I'm giving here
guys is that the the conclusion that you
draw has very little to do with the
actual external events itself it has
everything to do with how you manage
your internal data processing and the
people that seem the less stressed are
the ones that have a handle on how to
manage that data processing better than
somebody who doesn't so if you're just
reacting to social conditions to your
upbringing to belief systems you haven't
questioned for a while if you're just
reacting because you know to to peer
pressure or you're reacting to fears and
patterns that you're running that you're
unconsciously unaware of as most of us
are then your default mechanism of
processing that data that comes through
is not going to be leading you towards
the most empowered or positive
conclusion and as a result we get
stressed yeah because the outer world
doesn't fit our pictures well guess what
I'm gonna ask you a question here and be
honest with yourself who is it that
voted on what goes out of pictures
should look like in order for us to be
happy and fulfilled or not sit with that
for a second let me ask it again who was
it that voted on what those pictures
should look like for you in terms of
what has to happen for you to be happy
or fulfilled because as human beings we
are cybernetic organisms which means we
are pre-programmed to be programmed yeah
we don't get a chance or get to choose
how we're going to answer we don't get a
chance to choose if or not we're going
to be programmed we are creatures of
habit you know unfortunately we do very
little out of Reason we do a lot of out
of passion
but most of what we do is out of habit
so our habits are formed usually
unconsciously and usually because of the
exterior programming that we get to to
sit through that we are not guarded or
filtered through because we don't see
the damage that it does long-term or we
don't see what activity goes on behind
the initial experience and the ganglia
that form in the brain and the different
levels of patterning that happens for us
to then become a creature of a formed
habit that will then act on almost
autopilot just like driving to work and
you end up at work on your day off
because you were daydreaming while you
were driving and you end up saying oh my
goodness I've turned left instead of
right out of habit and that's with a
thousand other crazy people on the road
and it still keeps you alive yeah habits
of powerful things so from from my
perspective if you are able to
understand that you get to choose the
meaning of what happens you get to take
responsibility for your data processing
of the five senses you know two men sat
behind prison bars one saw mud the other
saw stars the condition is identical in
both scenarios how one chooses to
interpret that condition determines
whether or not you go off on a track
towards empowerment or whether you go
off on a track that becomes a
self-fulfilling prophecy of more stress
and resentment with your current life
condition you know if you've ever had a
relationship with somebody or an
intimate relationship where for example
they left you now same scenario two
different ways of looking at it one you
can Terence they will unclearly no good
so they left me or you can say well
thank God they won't so they made room
for somebody who's right next now just
stay with that example for a second you
suddenly go out and yeah
a year later six months down the line
whatever it is if I'm on the first
scenario I'm no good so they left me and
that's my belief that's all it is has
nothing to do with the actual event the
event is the event but if I am
processing my data management through
the filter or the belief or the choice
of I'm no good so they left me because
that's my story that's in my upbringing
that's my social conditioning that's my
parents that's my fill in the blank
yeah we all have a story my friends then
the next time I go to meet somebody I'm
introduced to somebody what are my
default thoughts oh I wonder if this
person thinks I'm good enough now if
that's your starting place I can predict
what's going to happen over the next two
dates if you get to date number two that
is whereas if you turn around at the you
know if we rewind six months before and
you say next oh yeah thank goodness that
person went so they made room for
somebody who's right and that is your
default level of processing because it's
a choice then next time you meet
somebody what is your your your default
level of being able to interact right
well yeah I wonder if this person is
going to be fortunate enough to spend
some time with me and as long as it
comes from a place of authenticity not
arrogance yeah because you're feeling
empowered not disempowered yeah your
second dates gonna be a very different
experience yeah you understand what I'm
saying yeah we create our interpretation
of the meaning of the world irrespective
of the external circumstances and I
could give thousands of examples we
don't have time to right now but my
message this week is this check-in what
is it that stresses you because all
stress comes from the the data
processing of what we perceive to be
things in our outer world not fitting
the pictures that we designed in the
inner world that they should look like
guess what i fighting reality a long
time ago because I found it so much
easier to adjust my meaning of what
happens rather than try and grab hold of
the world by its throat and try and
adjust it to make it fit the pictures of
what I think should be happening guys
that's exhausting I did it for many
years
and it's a way that leads into way more
stress on a self-fulfilling out
fulfilling prophecy than taking a you
know a chillaxing moment and say you
know something
let me ask myself a really honest
question what's wrong with this moment
right now think about it
or don't think about it what's wrong
with this moment right now and then
you'll start to get in touch with the
fact that there's probably more to be
grateful for right now in your life than
there is to be stressed about and you
know we get to choose which part of that
you know that that's seem to focus on
and I'm not saying that you know things
in your life aren't important I'm not
saying that things in your life don't
matter what I'm saying here is that the
level of importance that we place on
things is usually down or controlled too
mismanaged imagination based upon
expectations that are unrealistic based
upon a disassociation from what we can
appreciate and if you start to unhooking
just lower the importance of what we
think should happen or shouldn't happen
in the outer world we'll start getting
in touch with the fact that where we
live which is the inner world is the
originator of the outer world in other
words your outer world follows your
inner world if you've got chaos and
stress in your perceived outer world
right now check your thinking and again
I don't want to go too deep into this
you know I've just completed my Master's
seminar I do once a year in in Dubai and
I spend the entire week with it with a
small group of people where we go really
deep into understanding some of the
physical and metaphysical aspects of how
to create the reality you want in a way
that banishes stress for life takes care
of money worries for the rest of your
life takes care of many different
aspects of how most people unfortunately
fall into the trap of stress that's not
something we have time to go into here
but I just want to give you the insight
that the nugget that the focus of being
able to ask yourself better questions
the question is yes what's wrong with
this moment right now and who made the
event mean what it is that it means
other than me other than me yeah you you
you you're driving to work and it's
raining you can get upset or you can
celebrate the fact that the Ducks love
it you can celebrate the fact that the
plants are happy you know don't try and
control what you can't control could you
control the traffic of course not
someone will get upset about it yeah
make it a game to see how many motorists
around you
you can make smile who are having a bad
day because they don't know how to take
charge of their thinking turn it into a
game collect five smiles before the
office you're still going to get to the
office at the same time as you would but
the only difference is am I gonna walk
in in a better mood or a worse mood your
choice based on how you process that
data now the other aspect to that if we
just rewind for a second understand that
everybody creates their reality through
those five senses and every single one
can be different for everybody else what
does that do for tolerance what does
that do for making you feel that you
have to have agreement from somebody
that your model of the world is right
give up the game seven billion people on
this planet and guess what seven
different versions of what this world
yeah it should look like according to
them yeah yeah get over the fact that
you know if you're using the equipment
called the five senses to process your
world and you come up with your
conclusion it is of course going to be
different from everybody else's even the
person sitting next year yeah and we
will filter it through our own story
beliefs upbringing cultural differences
yeah mood that we're in at the time and
yeah ad infinitum so as a result of that
you know what are you going to do today
that allows you to recognize that where
you thought you were stressed lower the
importance appreciate or find something
to appreciate concentrate on what you
can do to put a smile on somebody else's
face because another little sub bonus
here is the majority of stress if not
99% is usually caused by us focusing on
ourselves too much now that's yeah I'll
give you that one for free
and understand that you know you don't
need agreements from somebody else for
you to feel right it's your five senses
it's your way to manage that data it's
your way of creating your experience of
the world and nobody but nobody has the
right to tell you what's wrong nobody
but nobody has the right to try and get
you to convert to their way of thinking
and guess what vice versa so enjoy your
current reality lower the stress enjoy
life guys incoming as far as we're aware
we only get to remember this time around
yeah at once and you know I wish you an
outstanding and hopefully a little less
stressed week chill out go put a smile
on somebody's face and I'll speak to you
soon
