How to lead
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but you must be punished
either by you or somebody he must be
punished what kind of punishment do you
normally give to people already enough
fun punishment has been given isn't it
already it's been given the ugliness the
nastiness the silent treatment
everything has happened so what more
punishment you want to give your thing
is there is no remorse on the other side
there's no emotion that the sign because
people are doing what they want to do
not what you want them to do always and
that may not be in your interest but
they're doing what they want to do is it
right wrong I am NOT going into the
morality of it I want you to understand
the mechanics of the situation somebody
is doing what they want to do now you
think they must be punished probably
they have not broken any law otherwise
there would be anyway punished they're
breaking an understanding between two
people probably you misunderstood the
understanding you believed that these
understandings are absolute they are not
nowhere in the history of humanity or
today or in any time in future will
human relationships be absolute though
every every person who gets little
romantic believes that this is going to
be an absolute relationship there is no
such thing about it a relationship is a
variable always
you have to conduct it on a daily basis
one day if you don't conduct it properly
it may go somewhere yes sir no no please
look at it as it is you have to conduct
it right so no I am doing my best
obviously somebody feels your best is
not good enough for them now I want you
to come to terms with this this is not
about I'm not saying what they're doing
is right or wrong that's not for me to
say all I'm saying is this is how human
beings are functioning for ages and
still all I am saying first of all you
need to understand relationships will
never ever be absolute they will be
variables that you it's juggling that
you have to do if you are juggling with
fireballs one sometimes it'll spill out
takes a lot of skill and attention yes
or no you married many of you doesn't it
take a lot of skill and attention if you
don't pay any attention you don't know
what the hell is happening it takes a
lot of attention isn't it someone just
called me from some country in Europe
and Sadhguru I'm just doing housework
come and save me take me away to your
ashram I'm just doing housework she's
washing dishes and stuff well very
affluent but has four children it's all
the time there is something to do
endlessly and today the maid didn't did
not turn up so you have to wash the
dishes four children are there you've
got to wash the dishes you got to wash
everything
so I'm saying you need to understand
this a relationship is a variable
reality it is not an absolute reality if
you want to have an absolute
relationship you must hold relationships
with the dead
that is the reason why a lot of people
choose God because it's an absolute you
can handle it whichever way you want if
you didn't think of him for 10 days and
on the 11th day if you think of him is
still there you do that your husband or
wife or somebody then something else
will happen you went away got busy
forgot about God for three years again
you can think still there so if you want
to have an absolute relationship you
must you should not choose human beings
human relationships are variables needs
lot of attention so that's why some
people decide in their life they don't
have the time and the energy to manage
such things so they take another path
where there is no such obligation the
closer eyes they're by themselves they
don't care always around them what's
around them so you can't do that I think
it's best in trying to punish somebody
you will only end up punishing yourself
they're doing what they want to do it's
best that you see what is it that you
really want with your life you don't
have to react to them and do something
stupid like them you just have to sit
down and look at this when your
illusions are broken you disillusioned
right now it's a very good thing if your
religion illusions are broken that means
life is bringing you closer to reality
isn't it
so this is an opportunity for you to sit
down and see what is the nature of my
life why is it see this piece of life is
a complete piece of life isn't it so is
it half a life are you a half a life or
a full life full life why is it that it
feels so incomplete that it needs
another person to fill this life why is
it it's time to look at it isn't it if
this is a full life this is complete by
itself but right now you made it in such
a way that this cannot exist with that
one and that one without that one and
that one and that one so somewhere it's
an incomplete life or at least it is not
realized the fullness of its nature
isn't it this is a complete piece of
life packed with creator and creation
together very great combination if you
this is a time when life knocks at your
door like this it's time you look deeper
rather than reacting and trying to fix
somebody else punishing somebody else is
not going to transform your life not
going to make your life beautiful in any
way some sick satisfaction you'll have
for two days after that you will feel
guilty about that also yes initially
when this emotion is hot it gives you
satisfaction after some time and you
look back you'll feel ashamed of
yourself
so don't go that way this is an
opportunity
somebody is opening up a spiritual
dimension for you really somebody is
making you realize how fragile all these
things are they can cheat you they can
run away they can divorce you or they
can fall dead isn't it if they fall dead
you wouldn't think that he cheated me
what do you think no but whichever way
you denied isn't it the important thing
is you denied something how he did it
is not the problem he denied you
something either by death or divorce a
cheating or whatever you call it
but essentially you got denied you can
be denied only because you are in a
certain illusory state of believing that
this is half a life and it needs another
half from somewhere no this is a
complete life if you're blossom as a
complete life you will see relationships
will be of a completely different nature
it will be more of coming together and
sharing not of extracting it has to
transform if it has to transform you
have to transform this is a great
opportunity somebody has given you stop
using this word somebody cheated me just
say somebody is pushing you towards
ultimate reality from an illusory state
we must thank that person
these are keeping you is of keeping you
in an illusion instead of keeping you in
your life for a whole lifetime so soon
they're making you realize this
otherwise you will know this at the time
of your death yes you'll know at the
time of you that when you're dying I'm
scared why don't you come with me you
said no so that last moment instead of
knowing it's better to know now
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