How to kiss A Crush
how to kiss your CRUSH for the FIRST time
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back to my channel it is your girl
duchy it is hot i am hot
in today's video i thought i would
provide you guys with some hints and
tips on how to kiss your crush for the
first time
when i asked you guys what videos you
wanted to see before 2k19 was over
the top two responses were how to know
if a friend likes you and how to know if
they're lgbtq plus
and how to kiss your girlfriend
boyfriend's significant other
crush for the first time so i already
provided you with the other one i will
link that in the description box below
if you haven't seen it but in today's
video i'm going to be taking you through
the before during and after of how to
kiss your crush
i'm going to be giving you heaps of
different scenarios and tips and things
that will hopefully ease your anxiety a
little bit because
let's face it kissing someone for the
first time whether it's your first
ever kiss or like with a new crush or a
new person
is always going to be nerve-wracking so
it doesn't matter if you haven't kissed
someone before
there's plenty of people in the same
boat and i mean kissing someone new for
the first time is pretty much like a
first kiss because
everyone kisses differently okay fam i'm
not going to sugarcoat it kissing
someone for the first time can be a bit
of a challenge
and kind of scary i mean heck i'm
getting nervous just thinking about it i
still get nervous about kissing someone
for the first time it's human we're only
human
but first kisses can also be incredible
so without further ado
let's get into the video okay so you're
probably watching this video for one of
maybe
three reasons a there's someone you're
crushing on who you want to kiss
real soon b you're just curious as to
how it will all work when the time comes
or c you're just a loyal subscriber who
does not need my kissing tips but you're
supporting my video regardless
so thank you i love you okay so let's
prepare what are some things we need to
do before the kiss
all right my first tip is smell good
yeah i'm talking let's hop in the shower
come on let's do it
obviously put some deodorant on when you
get out put on your best smelling
fragrance whether it's your favorite
perfume cologne
whichever brush your teeth and tongue
both very important
leading up to it like the day of avoid
eating foods like
garlic or onion or any spicy foods
and i mean if your date has involved
eating then maybe avoid foods with that
in it
or if you can't avoid that you've gone
out and you have something with that in
it
just make sure you have some chewy on
you that you can have afterwards um even
if it's just like a quick chew to like
freshen your breath
and everything always super duper handy
to have i know i always have some gum
in my wallet or my purse and i always
have like a little perfume bottle as
well
um just to freshen up spritz up i like
smelling good like all the time i
can't stand it if i smell bad like i
literally can't it makes me like
so anxious i usually always have like a
little deodorant and a little perfume
and some chewy on me
my second tip is to drink water stay
hydrated to keep your mouth nice and
moist
and like hydrated i know that sounds
ridiculous but if you're dehydrated and
you don't drink enough water your lips
actually
get really dry and like chapped and
stuff along with drinking water you can
also obviously prep your lips by putting
on lip balm or like
gloss that's maybe like more matte i
mean you can totally opt for your super
shiny lip gloss or lipstick
but i mean it can get a little bit messy
and if you're wanting to avoid like any
sort of mess and awkwardness then you
could just go for a matte
like lip balm or something like that the
third thing you can do in preparation
for kissing your crush
is think about where you want to kiss
them oh my god your little nasties i'm
talking about
where like a physical location not which
part of their body
stop it and i mean you really don't have
to plan this if you don't want to if
it's gonna like make you more stressed
out about where that's totally fine
this is an optional step but at the same
time a first kiss with someone special
can make it more sweet if you are in
like a private setting like away from
prying eyes whether it's the public or
like around friends or family
and you also don't want other
distractions that could ruin the moment
but as i said if you don't even want to
think about a location
then you don't have to and you can just
let it happen naturally wherever you are
tip number four is flirt with them now
we're getting more into we're not
kissing yet so it's not quite the during
but it's like right before you kiss
someone these are some really like
helpful things that i know i've done in
the past and like
usually nine times out of ten works um
so
flirt with them if you want to kiss them
or you want them to kiss you
let them no let them know tease them
poke them find ways to touch their arm
or face or leg
to show them you want to kiss if you're
a bit worried and unsure if they want to
or if they're ready to
this is a great way to gauge how they
feel about it especially if you're a bit
nervous about going in first
this might actually prompt them to like
go ahead and kiss you if you're sitting
next to each other move so that like
your knees touch or like your legs touch
or your arms or like whichever way you
are just move closer and see what they
do
tip number five is so so important read
their body language
if they're touching you back like doing
the same sort of like caressing and
stuff
they're looking into your eyes for
longer periods of time
or smiling at you and like laughing and
flirting back
they probably want to kiss you or
alternatively want you to kiss them
if they're biting their lip or like
staring at yours or like looking at your
lips and then looking up at your eyes
and looking back down
bam they want to kiss you so when you're
almost ready to kiss
look deep into the other person's eyes
like don't dart around
don't like look at their cheek while
you're going in like this sort of thing
like look into their eyes make it
central at this stage you'll likely get
like a feeling in the pit of your
stomach it's super deep it's kind of
like butterflies it's like a really
light nervous type feeling and that my
friends
is the right time to go for it and trust
me you'll both be feeling it at this
stage
also keep in mind this is number seven
if you are super shy it is totally okay
to just be like can i kiss you right now
it honestly i think that's super cute
and it's like a great way to be a
hundred percent sure that they want to
kiss
i actually think that's kind of cute and
i've had that happen in situations
and i've done that in situations too
like i've asked someone if i could kiss
them
and then like they said yes and it was
fine but i obviously knew like before
that
and i'm not really a shy person most of
the time i just go for it especially
with guys but with this
particular girl i was just like i knew
she wanted to because we were doing this
whole thing getting closer and stuff but
i was just like
oh i don't want to like do something and
then her like pull away so i was
literally like to her
can i kiss you right now and then she
didn't even say yes she kissed me which
was
awesome so that may or may not happen
then on the other
hand if you are both super shy and you
kind of just keep staring into each
other's eyes but like nothing's going
anywhere
and like no one makes a move you could
say something along the lines of
i really want to kiss you right now or
shouldn't we be kissing
and like you can do that in a really shy
and awkward way like shouldn't we be
kissing
you know like it doesn't have to be can
i kiss you right now like that's very
straightforward and like i feel
confident and stuff but
shouldn't we be kissing right now it's
like kind of cute and like can
definitely
come from a shy like awkward person okay
now fam
let's move on to the during let's get
down to the kissing part
number nine so as i said before you
start staring directly
into your crushes eyes and then start
like moving your face closer to this
like slowly slowly
if you want for added effect you can
glance back down at their lips and then
back up to their eyes
it's kind of hot if you're standing like
in front of each other
oh my god this is how okay it just
how do i do this if you're standing like
in front of each other
edge like closer forward just until like
your feet are like
your toes are just touching if you're
sitting like next to each other turn a
little like to face them
and yeah like move your face closer to
theirs i guess okay i'm literally fully
gonna do this
i'm gonna pretend my hand is like this
my crush okay so like if they're here
and like for example we're sitting i'm
not gonna do a standing example
y'all will get it um but like say we're
sitting then we like kind of both turn
and then you kind of just go oh my god
this is so weird y'all okay why am i
nervous it's my [ __ ] hand
okay so you literally like turn and then
you kind of just go
this is so weird i don't know if i can
do this
but yeah you sort of just inch closer
you guys i promise i'm a good cursor oh
my god okay number ten
this is super important when you're
going in for the kiss
don't go all the way go about 90 percent
and then let them come the rest of the
10 percent
that way you know 100 they want to kiss
you too
if you get to that 90 and stop and they
don't they might not want to do it or
they're probably just gonna
like if you sit there for like a little
bit and nothing happens and you just
look at them and they're still like
there and they haven't pulled away
they're probably too shy but if they sit
there and then like nothing happens and
then they pull away
they're probably not ready which brings
me to my next point point 11
if they are stiffening or shying away
from it that's when you know it's time
to stop and time to like ask them like
obviously they're not comfortable with
it so like just ask are you all right
like we don't have to do this
that sort of comforting stuff and if
they're just being shy or nervous just
make sure that they are okay with
kissing like do maybe ask again like
you're right like can i kiss you um
because sometimes nerves and stuff can
get in the way honestly and sometimes
that's all it is
i know there's definitely been times
where i haven't kissed someone and then
they've messaged me when i've gotten
home from a date or something
and they're literally like i wanted you
to kiss me and i'm like dude you like
didn't act like it you know
like that can happen so just be wary of
that okay
now people biggest tip most important
tip if you take anything away from this
video
make sure it's this one always always
always tilt your head to the
right okay none of this head to the left
business
if you're a good kisser if you want to
be a good kisser tilt your head to the
right
sisters brothers whoever's if you forget
this and you knock noses for some reason
don't stress it's fine laugh it off that
can be funny and cute and awkward
it can make it memorable you know but
try your best to tilt your head to the
right
yo this is really some step-by-step [ __ ]
you guys should be impressed
i literally have notes here now the
actual kiss
so what you want to do is you want to
part your lips slightly
you don't want to freaking cut it we
don't want any open mouth kissing just
yet hun
or ever but yeah so like part them
slightly
but not too much so you normally like
sit like this oh my god my housemate's
coming home she's literally gonna see
myself kissing my hand good so like you
literally want to just go
enough so that like i don't know if you
can see
like that so yeah as i said
pie your lips slightly but not too much
we don't want to go in with an open
mouth
can you imagine if they're moving in to
kiss you all you need to do is relax
tilt your head to the right keep your
lips soft and slightly parted
close your eyes that's an important one
and then just meet your lips with this
and that part will seriously happen so
naturally i can promise you
okay but as i said closing your eyes is
a biggie i
kid you not i had this once i was like
kissing
a boy in high school and i was kissing
him
and we'd been kissing like it was we're
kind of making out okay guys
wow like story time with touchy um we
were making out
yep it was happening and it was fun and
like we got along really well we had a
lot of banter
started kissing and then after like 30
seconds i went to pull away and like
open my eyes and whatever his eyes were
open he was literally making out and
like this did not happen once like i
then was like you know i'm gonna put my
detective glasses on i don't know that
could have just been a coincidence where
he opened his eyes
earlier than me um no guys it wasn't
every single time i like hooked up with
this guy
i literally would i would literally be
kissing him
and then i'd open my eyes like here and
he'd already be like
like what the heck i thought closing
your eyes when you kissed someone came
naturally but like
i don't know i don't know man it was
weird um so
close your eyes tip number 15 is to aim
for one lip
usually the lower it feels better than
pressing like both lips together on both
flips
like feels a bit weird and guys
never start with tongue please just just
don't do it
that can be a nightmare so when you do
get to kissing
close your eyes and gently brush your
lips with there so just kind of like go
like kind of oh my god this is so
awkward
don't start off with a lot of pressure
like you just you don't want to do like
you know i mean obviously that's not
gonna happen that can like catch someone
off guard and they can be really like
whoa
okay um obviously in more passionate
intimate
moments like when you've maybe been
maybe kissed this person a few times
before if you're dating and like
you know getting hot and heavy then yeah
100 by all means but probably not for a
first kiss with your crush breathe
through your nose
obvious one but people do forget
especially if you are nervous and
anxious about things but breathe through
your nose you don't want to be breathing
through your mouth while you're kissing
that will literally be like when kissing
some people can get really awkward about
where to put their hands
you can hold their hand like if you're
sitting you click i can't hold their
hands um if you're standing you can like
hold their waist hold their
like head like their face support their
faces super super cute
play with their hair or like put your
hands around their neck again
not like that your little nasties but
like that can be super cute or like one
again that comes naturally but like if
you're super nervous it might
not but yeah just put your hands where
they feel comfortable and don't feel
awkward about like moving your hands
either just obviously keep it pg
for your first kiss guys come on then i
guess like by this point if you've been
kissing for a little bit like a few like
seconds minutes whatever um you can
introduce
some tongue most people would say no
tongue on the first i just meant none on
like the first initial like
in once you've like got into each
other's rhythms and stuff and if you're
like still kissing and it's like not
stopping and it's kind of like going
somewhere
um you can introduce it obviously don't
just stick it in like
you know i mean obviously you guys are
not silly you guys know not to do this
just take it slow and see what they do
you'll be able to read the situation
engage whether they want to do it back
or not or they think that's a good idea
or not they might giggle if they've
never done that before just be super
gentle and see whether it progresses
further same goes for like lip biting
and all those sorts of things but they
usually come later like you probably
won't have to worry about that in your
first
instance or maybe you will okay woohoo
now into the after which is just as
important as before and during
because awkward things can happen so i'm
going to cover as much as i can with
that too
so woohoo you've just had your first
kish with you
so you've just had your first kiss with
your crush how do you feel
i am proud of you i am a proud mum
but after the kiss you kind of like just
slowly pull away
look into their eyes you don't have to
say anything straight away you can kind
of like if you enjoyed it you can kind
of like smile and like look at their
lips and look back up to their eyes just
to like
show that you liked it you can play with
their hair or you can go in for like a
secondary simple kiss just to show that
you enjoyed it like a little peck you
know
if you do want to say something and
again this is totally subjective and it
would matter how the kiss went and all
of that
i mean this will come naturally but
something really sweet to say if you
have been wanting to kiss them for a
while is literally
i've been wanting to do that for so long
or something like that
um hot a hug is a great way to part ways
especially if like you've gone on a date
and this is the end where they've
dropped you off or you're in a place
where like you are parting ways a hug
after a kiss is super sweet and it shows
that like almost like thank you
i guess or a kiss on the cheek or like
saying when you'll see them next or
looking forward to seeing them again if
the kiss was awkward
that's okay that happens that's pretty
normal it's rare that you're going to be
great at it
your first time and your first time with
someone new it's very
rare like anything if you really like
each other you'll easily get to know
each other's
kissing styles and patterns and honestly
then you get to practice
isn't that fun okay so i've basically
covered the before during and after of
how to kiss your crush for the first
time
and now i'm just going to end with some
super super important things to remember
these are just some extra things i wrote
down at the end so i said
um so these are the final things to
remember that i wrote down i basically
said no matter how old you are there are
people your age who have never been
kissed before and that is totally normal
there is no
age or time where you have to like kiss
before at all first kisses are almost
always awkward i don't think i've
i think i've had one kiss in my lifetime
like one first kiss that wasn't awkward
but i knew the person and like even
though we'd never kissed before i don't
know it was just it was just fine like
it was actually
really good um but the rest first kisses
have always been awkward and then you
just go back and you practice more and
you like learn
each other's kissing style i guess um so
yeah that's important to remember
laughter and a good sense of humor can
make it a great experience so as i said
if you do bump notes at noses or
like if something funny happens or
awkward happens just laugh it off like
don't pull away and be like
go all shy and stuff just like laugh it
off it's totally fine
if you're kissing someone more
experienced than you that's cool too
don't be embarrassed it doesn't mean
that there's something wrong with you
everyone has to start somewhere if
you're kissing someone that's more
experienced then hey that's cool but
like they're kissing you for the first
time too and they're probably super
excited and nervous about that too like
it's going to be a new experience for
them whether they've kissed someone in
the past or not
only kiss someone because you want to
and not for any other reason don't do it
if you feel like you just need to kiss
someone or want to say that you've
kissed someone
because you could hurt their feelings if
they ever found out and if you're ever
in a situation where you feel pressured
to kiss then something isn't right
you can tell the other person this and
they should be okay with it and they
should be like oh that's all right like
i didn't know you felt that way or
something
but yeah please never do anything that
you don't want to do and please never
just kiss someone just for the sake
of it because you could really hurt
their feelings and you could hurt your
own um taking a few deep breaths can
help you relax and enjoy
and lastly your first kiss does not
determine your kissing future
if it's bad that's okay you'll get
better with practice that's pretty much
all i have to say this was a super long
one and i think it might be one of my
last sit-down videos for the year
i literally can't believe we're at the
end of the year i don't have much time i
have like
one day off for the rest of the year i
work all the way up until christmas
i have christmas day off where i'm going
to be spending time with my family i'm
working boxing day and then i go away on
the 28th so i don't really have time to
film another sit-down video
i'm not going to promise anything but i
kind of want to do a year in review or
sort of like a youtube rewind but like a
dutchy rewind
um where i just take clips from videos
throughout the year in vidcon and like
events and things i've been to
and just like mash it up into like a
little video i don't know if you guys
would want that if you do
or would then definitely let me know in
in the comments of this video and i
might um but i just don't know how much
time i'm going to have
to do that but we shall see thank you
guys
so so much for watching i hope this
helped if you have any other tips or any
success stories of kissing your crush or
girlfriend or boyfriend or
whomever for the first time let me know
in the comments below
can't wait to chat to you guys i love
you so so much and i will see you
in my next one bye
