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How to make your husband miss you and want you even more.



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most of us are aware of the honeymoon

phase and we become even more aware of

it when it actually ends in this video I

actually want to give you some advice in

fact 10 tips on how to make your husband

fall back in love with you how to make

him desire you once again and how to

make him even miss you even though you

are married hey guys i'm renee slansky

welcome back to my youtube channel I'm a

professional dating and relationship

coach now recently I had a video go

completely viral and it was all about

how to make a man miss you and one of

you beautiful women out there actually

commented on the video and said okay

Renee but how do you make your husband

miss you and I thought that this was a

really interesting point because we

assumed that getting somebody to miss

you means that you you're not in a

committed relationship and you want to

make sure that they're thinking about

you and prioritizing you a little do we

know that a lot of the reasons why

marriage is actually break down is

because we no longer feel valued by the

person that we're with romance has died

down intimacy has died down and a gap

has started to form between husband and

wife so I do want to give you 10 things

that you can do like instantly that I

hope will actually help to spark that

desire and attraction between your

husband and you again but before I do

that and give you those tips make sure

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give me a big thanks to Renee down below

in the comments if this video has helped

you tip number one don't stop winning

him over a lot of the times

relationships fall apart because we

stopped doing what we used to do in the

beginning to try and win that person

over you think about it when you first

started dating your husband you would

dress a certain way you would make more

effort with your communication you would

do things to flirt you would think keep

things spontaneous you used to be

consciously aware of doing specific

things to try and communicate your value

to him and to also try and win his heart

over as well

so why would we stop doing that just

because we're now in a committed

relationship with them so my task for

you first in this video is to make a

list of all the things that you used to

do in the beginning of your relationship

to win him over

and then start doing them again and if

you're not sure what those things were

or you've forgotten ask him I'm sure

he'll tell you number 2 play your role

in the relationship okay ladies this is

something that I can completely relate

to because I used to think that I was

doing my role in the relationship when

in reality I realized that there was

things that I could have actually

stepped up more to like contributing and

sharing the load in certain things I

think that men will sometimes pull back

from their wives because they feel that

they're carrying everything and they

have lost a little bit of respect for

her and so what you want to do is you

want to make sure that you are playing

your role in the relationship that you

are actually doing what needs to be done

as a team player because marriage is

about teamwork now if you're not sure

once again you know what you need to

step up into what areas you need to work

on maybe it is focusing more on your

purpose or you know work and helping to

contribute financially so he doesn't

feel the complete burden upon himself

maybe it is about you know cooking some

meals for him so that he doesn't feel

that he has to scrounge around for food

when he's been working hard all day I'm

not trying to stereotype gender roles

here all I'm saying is let's be humble

let's be accountable and let's remember

that a great marriage is about really

being accountable to the role that we

have to play as a woman in that marriage

just like he needs to be accountable to

his role and then just doing it okay and

being aware of when you need to up the

ante a little bit more so that you can

communicate to him that you do love him

through your actions and that you do

value your relationship that you do

respect him and you do want to actually

be the best wife possible to him number

three trigger his physical needs are a

lot more visual

then ask women and I believe that two of

the major love languages for men are

words of affirmation and physical touch

when a guy starts dating you when your

husband first starts dating you he was

definitely drawn to you not only because

of your fabulous brain but also probably

because of your fabulous booty and we

can't stop letting that actually be a

part of our relationship I understand

that children change your body that

circumstances change your body that

sometimes we don't have time to work out

or we don't have time for sex or

basically just life gets in the way but

we can't just live off those excuses and

expect that our marriage to get better

because it won't if a man has certain

desires and if a man responds to

physical attraction then you need to

actually make sure that that doesn't die

down in your relationship now I'm not

saying that you have to be perfect every

single day all I'm saying is ladies you

have to understand how men work so don't

necessarily feel that you have to

transform into a Barbie you need to go

get Botox you need to lose 10 kilos

understand what you can do right now

whether that is something as simple as

shaving your legs putting a little bit

of makeup on washing your hair wearing

something that is actually flattering

instead of just walking around in your

pajamas all day there are little things

that we can do that actually communicate

to him Hey look honey I'm respecting

myself and I'm respecting you by looking

after myself and making sure that I am

as physically as attractive as I can

possibly be in this state I'm pretty

sure I'm gonna get comments on this

video saying we don't need to change our

appearance for a man I work with men and

I understand what it is that men need

from a scientific point of view and also

from a human element point of view as

well and the truth is girls if you let

yourself go and if you start to

disrespect your own appearance he will

probably lose respect for you and he

will start to pull back physically

because he won't feel as attracted to

you number four initiate more now what

I'm talking about initiating there's two

ways that we initiate we initiate our

intimacy initiate sex or we can initiate

actually doing things instead of waiting

him to do everything I

know that we want the man to lead us

it's one of those natural sort of things

that we want we want him to step into

that leadership role and feel that we

can completely rely on him but sometimes

guys get tired and they need to know

that you again like I said in point two

are playing your role in the

relationship if you feel that like the

sex side or the intimacy side of your

relationship has died down don't just

sit back and wait for him to initiate

the next time go and actually make that

effort whether it is sending him a sexy

text message whether it is actually

initiating the touch or starting to kiss

him or you know starting to talk to him

about what you would like to do to him

that takes a little bit of confidence I

understand especially if we're feeling

rejected by our husband at the moment

but you have to look beyond what you're

just feeling and understand that in this

instance when you know that your

marriage or your relationship is in

trouble

you have to focus on actions rather than

your fears number five

Ask Don't Tell one of the reasons one

men can pull back in our marriages is

because they are feeling act and they

feel like nothing that they can do is

ever good enough and it's really

frustrating because we're not trying to

come across that sort of way we're just

trying to communicate what our needs are

so the best way to actually do this

girl's is actually asking okay what are

your thoughts on this do you think that

we need to actually work on our marriage

a little bit more as opposed to we never

do this we need to work on our marriage

a bit more and you're telling him or

you're scolding him or you're nagging

him why don't you ever have sex with me

anymore

okay so actually have a mature

conversation and as I say in any of my

other videos when it comes to

communicating with men we need to

explain

rather than Express explain why you feel

a certain way

explain how you see the logic in

actually having more intimacy or going

on a date night rather than expressing

your pain and your disappointment and

your frustration and anger if you ask it

will lower his defense mechanisms and

make him actually be more receptive to

what it is that you have to say rather

than just telling him warning

to do which I guarantee you who

completely shut off if you do that

number six

thrive emotionally without him I found

from my personal experiences that when

my relationships used to get into

trouble it's because I was too focused

on trying to make him the sole means of

what my emotional fulfillment needed to

be and it's not like I did it on purpose

I just wasn't aware that you know I

could actually give myself that same

fulfillment outside of a man so really

focus on where your pain is coming from

or why you think that you know him

giving you more attention is going to

ultimately make you more happy now I

understand that you know you want to be

prioritized by your husband you want to

be obviously romanced and valued by him

and that is normal it is healthy and it

is incredibly important but we can't

make what he does to you the sole means

of your emotional fulfillment you have

to learn

are you happy by yourself are you whole

by yourself

other things that you actually mean to

work on to make sure that you're not

looking for other people to fill those

gaps in your heart and in your mind that

you could actually fill yourself when he

sees that you know how to thrive

emotionally and stabili without him

he'll probably feel less pressure on him

to feel that he has to you know be that

person for you all the time

and he'll probably be more attracted to

you as well number seven affirm him

ladies as I said earlier in this video

one of the big love languages for men I

personally believe is words of

affirmation and if you can just start

affirming your husband on a daily basis

I guarantee that that alone will really

start to change your marriage now it

doesn't have to be something kind of

really deep and meaningful it can be

something as simple as I love it when

you make my cup of coffee I love it when

you take the rubbish out you look really

handsome today

wow you did an awesome job in that

presentation do you realize just how

many people look up to you as a leader

simple things like literally I don't

think there is a day that goes by in my

own relationship where I don't affirm

at least five to six times and it's not

things that I have to meditate on and

plan it's just I see an opportunity and

I'm like thank you so much for doing

that you're so strong or your muscles

look really good you know affirm their

physical side affirm what they're good

at affirm what they're doing for you and

that will you covering all bases and I

guarantee you ladies men flourish under

words of affirmation and he will be more

attracted to you he will start to look

at you in a different light he will

start to feel appreciated he will start

to feel mean--it he will start to feel

valued and I guarantee you he'll start

to prioritize you once again number

eight flirt more again when we first

started dating our husband we used to

flirt we used to seduce and flirting is

usually based around a fun sort of

nature

I think full play is a huge part of what

actually makes a relationship exciting

because we have that build-up and

sometimes that can just be something as

simple as sending a flirty text message

or maybe having a little cheeky kiss

start to really work on again doing what

used to do when you first met him which

was probably flirting a lot number nine

add some spontaneity in okay again when

we started dating our husband there

wasn't a lot of routine there wasn't a

lot of familiarity or complacency there

was you know let's go on a date here and

let's do this and there was a sense of

adventure and fun when we get into a

marriage and we get really kind of

serious because we've got children we've

got work and we've got the exam I've got

that we can become stuck in a rut and

that can really kill the romance in a

relationship and it can definitely kill

the intimacy so we need to mix it up a

little bit now don't feel like you have

to go and just plan a random trip to

Hawaii or something like that it's more

about finding opportunities that you can

do on a daily basis to create some sort

of spontaneity whether it's choosing to

actually go out for dinner or maybe

having a picnic or it might be something

as simple as on a Tuesday night he comes

home and you're dressed in sexy

underwear and it's absolutely for no

special occasion okay think about ways

that you can introduce little sort of

activities or events or opportunities

that are going to just

mix things up for you guys so that you

can just enjoy that moment and feel that

you are getting out of that routine and

lastly number 10 which is really

important and something that I can

completely relate to is focus on

yourself for a little bit and sometimes

you just need to pull back into yourself

and you need to reassess okay

currently my husband is drifting away

from me I can feel this divide what do I

need to do within myself to make sure

that I am being the best wife wife

possible that I am having my own sense

of happiness fulfillment and purpose

outside of him so I'm not putting all

that pressure on him and the things that

I need to do so I can create even some

boundaries to communicate to him that

I'm not okay with that behavior having

that perspective to just kind of step

back really does a lot and I know you're

probably thinking but if I step back

won't that drive him away even more no

it actually doesn't it actually has the

opposite effect all right girls

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