10 Tips to Get Your Ballet Teachers to LOVE You | TwinTalksBallet

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hey friend it's Kirsten have you

wondered how you can just become the

little apple of your teachers I do you

have a friend who seems to be the

teacher's pet that you're like I want

that to be me well I'm actually not here

to incentivize anyone to do that but as

a ballet teacher I do want to share 10

tips with you on how to gain more favor

or at least have a more harmonious

relationship with your ballet teacher

these are tips on how you can do your

best to really speak your teachers love

language at least most teachers so don't

take this out of hand

I'm not trying to encourage anybody to

just hunger and thirst for the affection

of their ballet teacher not everyone's

gonna love you don't try to make

everyone love you but I do believe that

implementing these tips will make your

life a little bit easier and it will

increase your chances of building trust

and rapport with your teachers so here

we go so number one your teachers will

love you I mean that very generally I'm

totally totally totally exaggerating but

go with it okay number one your teachers

will love you if you are engaged so what

do I mean by engaged

I mean clearly attentive you are there

to apply yourself you are there to learn

you are there to change you are there to

push yourself you know an engaged person

interacts an engaged person doesn't just

wait for all the information to be fed

to them and all the results to be given

to them an engaged person shows up ready

to work ready to learn enthusiastic so

when you are engaged you're actively

looking listening trying corrections

applying Corrections experimenting oh I

think I said experimenting twice um but

yes please be engaged please apply

yourself please instead of waiting for a

teacher to tell you everything to do

just take initiative take initiative

that's the word I was looking for meet

the teachers effort with your own F

to enhance your abilities so I I'm I was

about to start getting into other points

but I'll just leave that one there

number two your teacher will love you if

you are actively trying to be your best

teacher this is some of the best advice

I ever got when I was younger that

instead of relying on teachers to tell

you all of their knowledge and develop

your skills no you need to be actively

correcting yourself looking at your own

abilities critically doing your own

research exposing yourself to other

methods or whatever it is whatever it is

at least in the studio while you're

there look in the mirror see how you can

adjust things try things self correct

that's just a really big part of being

your own best teacher self correct

do not wait for the teacher to tell you

for the millionth time that X you know

quality could be better or movement

could be better or more turned out

whatever or even don't wait for a

teacher to tell you for the first time

that you can be doing something

differently apply yourself be your own

best teacher and look for ways that you

could self correct and self adjust

number three not all teachers will love

this but I'd say a lot of them will

which is to ask if you ask thoughtful

questions about corrections that you

might have gotten in order to get more

clarity on what they meant and how you

can apply that I personally think that

shows some maturity on your part that's

that's my perception of it now I'm not

saying ask questions just all the time

just to get attention please don't do

that and in fact there are so many

questions that like honestly I'm like

were you listening for instance like

sometimes it's appropriate to ask the

teacher to show the combination one more

time it's more mature to ask them to

show a specific part of the combination

that you might be confused about

especially if you feel like

around the room other people look a

little bit confused but if it looks like

everybody but you kind of has the

combination in here to struggling with


see if you can kind of like ask up here

I mean if that's an appropriate it's

totally okay to ask the teacher but

there are some questions that are just

like come on like just sort it out

yourself but I do think it's important

to ask maybe not in the group setting

all the time it could be or after class

if a teacher gave you a correction and

you don't know exactly what they meant

or exactly how to apply it ask for

advice or ask what exactly did you mean

how could I apply that you know what

exactly do I need to change to achieve

that outcome you're talking about it's

okay to ask clarifying questions I think

that's really mature I like it when my

students do that because it really shows

that they want to apply it and they're

open to it so number four is that you

can gain favor with your teachers if you

are not stuck in your ways if you're not

like this is the one style I dance I am

not willing to apply Corrections I'm not

willing to change my approach or try

something new don't be that dancer

especially if you're young I I mean I

even have taught some students who are

like well at one summer program I

learned it this way and I'm like alright

I'm teaching once a week

like are you really you can't just do

this in my class like come on

you can practice adaptability if you

really hate what the teacher is asking

you to do you can talk with them about

it you can I don't know sort it out but

also like if you don't like a certain

style you can go back revert back to

your old ways when you find another

teacher you can adapt I actually think

it's quite a great skill to be able to

adapt to like take a super balancing

class and like go for it you know and

then take a really Russian class and

also go for it and like just be all in

with the style learned be hungry to

learn and adapt and learn to be a

versatile dancer

I think that's awesome so just please

don't get stuck in your ways don't be


and if you really don't like something a

teachers asking you to do talk to them

about it instead of giving them weird

looks and just again being indignant and

just kind of stomping your feet and just

clearly not wanting to change talk to

them about it okay number five is like

the big one the big government okay

please don't do this okay so do not let

your frustration overtake you do not

give your emotions to everybody else or

put your bad vibes on everybody else

like your bad attitude if you are having

a hard day don't make a display about it

goodness I just think that even like

this happens on the super mild level in

a lot of classes many dancers make their

frustration with themselves visible like

very visible and I think sometimes it's

really like inherently kind of a coping

mechanism for an insecurity kind of like

if you let other people know that you're

not happy with what you just did then

they can't judge you for it because

you're making it clear that you're

already judging yourself for it if you

guys notice that I think it's something

a lot of dancers do without really

knowing why they're doing it but really

if you're letting your frustration

overtake you number one the way that

reads is that you're actually

self-absorbed that you take yourself so

seriously that you're gonna be like

visibly upset when you fall out of the

pirouette like it's not a big deal I

just honestly want to tell some people

like breathe you're not that big of a

deal and the pirouette is not that big

of a deal like kind of get over yourself

a little bit take the dancing seriously

but don't take yourself so seriously and

I just also want to approach this not

completely with like I get over it

perspective but also a little bit of

compassion because I understand we all

have really frustrating days sometimes

but as best you can do keep that to

yourself and then when you go home you

could cry it out but it's honestly out

of respect for the people around you

saying just bottle up all your emotions

like there's a balance here and I hope

you're not gonna get me wrong on this

but from a teacher's perspective when

there is a student who gets overwhelmed

or overly frustrated whenever something

doesn't go perfectly or go their way it

really sometimes it reads as that

student is frustrated with the ballet

teacher and it kind of puts the teacher

in this really weird position where the

teacher doesn't know like if I correct

them are they just gonna explode in

tears are they mad at me are they mad at

themselves like you guys are no idea

what is going on in the ballet teachers

mind it's so interesting that I think

from the dancers perspective it might

just be legitimate frustration and maybe

a little bit of that coping mechanism I

talked about before but from a teacher's

perspective first it kind of reads like

we don't know if it's safe to correct

you if you're doing that we don't know

if we're gonna make you cry or go over

the edge and so like there's been some

times where I actually like chronically

hold off on correcting somebody when

they actually want correction but

because of their behavior I actually

don't know if I'm adding to that

overflow of emotion by correcting them

so I hold off meanwhile the student

wants correction so it creates this rift

that really doesn't need to be there so

you need to be really responsible with

your emotional display like don't make

it a display you can have them but it's

just really important to understand that

those emotions not only make other

people uneasy and uncomfortable I don't

think it reads as clearly as you think

it's not just about you it really does

affect other people so please keep your

motions mostly to yourself point number

six is that your teachers will really

appreciate it if you learn to learn that

balance of pushing through dead having

dead shoes or bruised toenail or little

aches and pains and not constantly

asking like can I take my pointe shoes

off for today can I do point class on

flat my shoes are

blah blah it's like we during the show

that we're rehearsing for you might have

dead shoes you kinda have to get over it

now there are some times where you

really do need to mind your health or

you just actually don't have anymore

pointe shoes you're waiting for your

backordered points used to get in the

mail like there are exceptions of course

but on the other hand teachers really

appreciate it when a student especially

a young student knows how to push

through like knows the boundaries of

when to push through and when to not

like when your health is actually really

in danger or you're legitimately

completely unable to complete the

demands of the class of course there are

exceptions for that and we'll understand

most of the time like if the teacher is

a nice compassionate person but then

there are also so many students who are

like my shoes are dead I have a blister

and it puts a teacher in a really weird

position to be like do I just say it's

okay or do I kind of speak my mind and

be like get over it or am I gonna get an

email from a parent later saying you

told my daughter to get over a blister

and it's kind of like well yeah oh man

I'm kind of getting a little

controversial in this video but trying

to find that balance for yourself and at

least if you're a student ask yourself

if you can really push through in the

class if you really need to compensate

you kind of even say if there's if this

were a show would I be asking the

teacher the same thing if this were a


just kind of go through those filters a

little bit before you ask number seven

is that your teachers will really love

you if you always try to make your

second attempt at a combination better

than your first I think a lot of

students kind of just mind mindlessly

just put more effort into doing the

combination again or they just kind of

approach it in the same way thinking

that just by repeating it you're gonna

get better results but there's a way to

work smarter and to be more thoughtful

and so like really apply some

corrections that you might have gotten

or maybe up the artistry or something


if you always have the intention to make

your second go-around better that really

shows because also it's just really

common for most dancers like I've

mentioned already to just do it again

expecting that that's enough and just by

default they're gonna make it better no

put that intention into it and your

teachers will notice number eight is

that your teachers will really be able

to see and appreciate when you are

actively trying to change your habits

and apply their Corrections of course

teachers want you to apply their

Corrections everybody knows that but

it's crazy how many dancers get so

especially students get so caught up in

their own priorities of what they think

they should be working on that they'll

hear a teacher for a whole year seeing

something very simple like use April Ma

when you're balancing and sousou and

like as a teacher I still have to remind

my students after a year plus to do that

and I've seen some students who

instantly like they'll go with their

habit and they'll do it the way they did

before I corrected them but then on the

next side they'll kind of remember oh

okay I'm gonna use my April mod this

time and having that self correction I

know that when I see students doing that

it's like I can trust them that they're

working on it and I'll let it go I think

as teachers it's really our challenge to

let the students you know take their

time in the process of growing it's very

easy for some teachers and myself

included at times to have super high

expectations and to be like I said that

three times wasn't it fixed by now of

course some Corrections it's like they

really take a lot to apply them

especially ones that involve gaining

strength but just assess for yourself

have you been hearing a correction for

months and have shown no progress then

if the answer is honestly no I mean yes

like if you have not shown progress

there put more intention into it and

like really really really work on

showing progress there because a teacher

can tell like I can tell by looking at

my students eyes or just vibes

serving their behavior for a short

amount of time if they have the

intention to remember and apply what I

said or if I'm just gonna keep saying it

for the rest of my life and no one cares

so be intentional I don't think we

expect perfection most of the time it's

just or we don't expect you to perfectly

apply every single correction we're

giving you ideas but we do expect you to

apply yourself and show that you're at

least Really Trying

number nine is don't just show your

teachers the tricks and all the cool

turns and whatever that you think we

care about or you think is super

impressive like it's really obvious when

a student is just going for kind of the

vanity metrics like I can do four

pirouettes or I can get a full split in

my garage at a you know that kind of

thing we can tell when you're valuing

that thinking that we're so impressed by

that oh my gosh those like such a Shania

Twain moment shout out in the comments

like tell me if you know that song which

is like that don't impress of me much oh

my gosh I love Shania Twain anyway so it

doesn't impress us if we're constantly

trying to drill into you like basic

fundamental technique and kinesio

logically safe practices for dance and

we're trying to help you develop your

strengths and then all you care about is

like but look my leg is this high look I

did four pirouettes

I mean a lot of times we're like great

honey that's awesome yes but please go

back to the fundamentals you have to be

humble and honestly just take your

teachers word for it even if you don't

believe them that fundamental technique

is the most important thing just go with


trust the teacher trust them and know

that your opinion has a quite a few

years less backing to it than their

opinion now I'm not trying to demean

anyone because of their age but to

listen to your teachers and do be

curious about why they think these

Corrections are giving you cutters you

know and going into number 10 rounding

this off is to be humble just be humble

be open to learning

be curious don't just get stuck in your

own ideas

don't be so self-absorbed that you get

wrapped up in your own emotions like

really just be a sponge be there to

learn be there to grow

that's so fixated on yourself but really

to be a part of the whole being part of

the environment to be a light in there

you know to have camaraderie with your

peers and just to see how you can go in

the studio every day and expand yourself

instead of defending that you're already

good you know be open be humble and just

never stop learning but I definitely the

definition of being humble does not stop

there be humble and please please please

if there's anything you do don't give

constant excuses for your mistakes or

stories or justifications teachers do

not want that they don't want to give

you a correction and then to instantly

hear you spout out like well my left she

was dead or well I I got five hours of

sleep last night it's like okay okay

great I'm just giving you a correction

like I don't I don't need a story but

okay be humble and just take the

correction know that it's not personal

just just take it even if you know in

your head like obviously I'm not gonna

do that next time like I know what's

wrong I just I just messed up or yes my

shoot was dead just keep that on the

inside keep the stories on the inside be

on ball don't make excuses just take it

alright guys I hope this was really

helpful I know I touched on some

controversial points in there so if you

do have any questions or if you want to

disagree with me I'm happy to talk that

out with you in the comments I know that

this is just based off of my personal

experience at my training and in my

teaching which I've been very fortunate

to go around to different environments

and to see different teaching styles and

to teach many different students but I

know that I certainly don't know

everything I don't speak for everybody

but I do think that this list of ways

that you can really build trust and a

good relationship with your teacher

it is mostly universal and of course

they're going to be exceptions but

I do think that there is really

something in there for everybody so I

hope it was helpful for you I hope that

you have a great week and I'll see you

guys soon bye