How to impress
A Boyfriend In Long Distance Relationship
How to make him miss you long distance - Make him miss you in a long distance relationship .
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long-distance relationships are pretty
difficult because we're always worried
that the other person is going to fall
out of love with us so how do you make
him miss you when you're in a
long-distance relationship well in this
video I'm actually going to tell you how
to do just that
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hi everyone welcome back to my youtube
channel i'm renee slansky I'm a
professional dating and relationship
coach and in this video I want to kind
of give you my advice and my tips when
it comes to actually getting your
partner to miss you if you are in a
long-distance relationship now I have
done another video on long-distance
relationships and how to make it thrive
even when you're actually apart so I
recommend also watching that as well but
here are my tips right now number one
get visual the problem is is that
especially if you are dating a guy he is
more visual then say when it comes to
texting or things like that so you want
to make sure that you're trying to keep
up as many visual sort of photos or
videos of you so that he can see you
because when he actually is able to see
you a little bit more he will be
triggered emotionally to connect with
you and to actually miss you if you just
rely on phone calls or texts then you're
not really appealing to a big part of
what a man needs and that is kind of a
visual vision like I'm not an idea a
visual picture okay it's actually proven
that men even prefer sex with the lights
on as opposed to sex with the lights off
because they are visual guys they want
to see what it is that is in front of
them now because you are actually
separated over distance you can't just
pop in and out of each other's houses so
that's why you need to use what you have
such as Skype such as messenger such as
you know your camera on your phone don't
get lazy just because you don't have
this time together if anything you
should be up in the visuals even more so
send him a little videos now that
doesn't mean you have to be all sexy you
want to just show him photos and videos
of yourself as you start to think about
him when I was in my long-distance
relationship which we did for four years
was constantly sending videos and photos
to him through messenger and this was
not even waiting until he was awake
because obviously you're in different
time zones and most of the time this was
about going well I you know saw this
picture so I'm going to sending this
picture of this or I'm gonna just send
him a quick video saying what I ate for
breakfast okay well you almost kind of
want to have it so that you're giving
him a daily vlog of your life so he
feels that he's a part of it and then he
starts to really miss your company
because every time he sees you it
actually triggers that emotional
response number two you need to
communicate daily and you need to up the
communication now when you communicate
with him it's really important that you
don't always go on about how you just
wish you can be together and how you
miss each other and you come across as
really kind of needy and desperate
because that's actually going to make
him feel that you're making him feel
guilty that you can't be together or
that it's just too much hard work you
want the communication to be really
positive and you also want it to still
be kind of intimate and on the other
hand you want it to also be
conversational pretend that you do live
in the same country pretend that you do
live in the same house how would you
normally speak to each other
send him voice messages so he can
actually hear your voice
sending those text messages whether it's
oh my gosh I just ran into a friend and
this is what they said okay talk to him
like you would as if he was actually
already there and when he's actually
already there in your life you obviously
don't always go on about Nene stuff all
the time you talk about basic stuff you
talk about maybe the weather you talk
about your work you talk about
day-to-day things and then you have
moments where you talk about intimate
things when you get a little bit more
deep and meaningful either way again you
can't get slack with communication you
have to actually increase it because you
want to be on their mind and you want to
make sure that when he checks his phone
he actually sees a nice cute little
message from you or you see something
funny or he feels that he hasn't missed
out on your day and you haven't missed
out on his day because you're able to
relay that to him purely through text
and don't forget text is also a great
way to still increase chase in a
relationship because even though he's on
the other side of the world it doesn't
mean that you can't still have that
chase obviously there isn't there does
need to be more communication but you
can still create
even in that communication such as not
always answering him straight away such
as you know being a little bit cheeky
and a little bit flirty in those texts
and also making him wonder sometimes
what it is that you're doing so that he
then reaches out to you number three you
actually want to trigger memories okay
now people miss somebody because then
they start to think about them because
they realize all the good times that
they actually had with that person the
last thing that you want him to do is to
associate the relationship that he has
with you as too hard and too painful
because of the distance that you guys
actually have so you need to constantly
be reminding him of the good times you
have what I actually did is I actually
made a book that had photos of us and
everything that we did and he talked
that with him so that every time you
felt sad or lonely you could actually
look through that now every guy is
different some guys are into that and I
don't want you to come across as a crazy
you know white girlfriend but it's about
going okay well how can I trigger a
positive memory in his life mean it is
just sending him a photo
you know when Facebook brings up those
five years ago you did this sort of
thing um it might be where you went to a
great concert and that photo is buried
back in the deep of your phone and you
go in and you search it and you send it
to him say I remember when we did this
how crazy was that night and then you
start to allude into a conversation and
I guarantee if you start to talk about a
really good time he'll be like oh yeah I
miss you so much okay and he'll start
thinking about you because he'll start
remembering all the good times that he
actually had with you hence why he knows
he's invested in this relationship and
why he's going to keep being in it and
trying to make it work number four as I
mentioned before don't come across as
needy if you're coming across as someone
that's putting so much pressure on him
or emotionally blackmailing him even if
you don't mean to because you're always
talking about how sad you are you can't
be together and yada yada yada he's
going to assume that you're not
fulfilled outside of him which means
that you're going to come across as half
a woman and that you are going to put
the pressure on him to be the other half
of you which is not how healthy
relationships can work so it's really
important that again as I said before
that you need to guess communicate daily
but just make sure that when you do
communicate that you're coming across
really positive that you're affirming
that you're still
variety now you're still doing really
well that when you do speak to him it's
not to say that you've not allowed to
express your emotion and your pain
because that's important to be open and
vulnerable about that but don't make
that your focus don't make the distance
your focus you want to make the memories
that you had the relationship that you
have and the love that you have and the
strength that you have from just being
apart from each other that's what your
focus should be not you know the
neediness the pain and everything else
in between and lastly if you really want
to get him to miss you and realize how
much of an amazing woman you are hence
why he's going to keep investing in this
relationship is shocking that you are
thriving I think the number one thing
that men really love about a woman
besides being confident is seeing that
she's able to sustain herself seeing
that she has her own purpose and her own
goals and that she is fulfilled and
whole outside of him because and that
appreciates that because he's already
got a legacy that he wants to build and
all these challenges he wants to
overcome and that's just how men work
okay they're going out and they're
building these empires most of the time
we as women because when nurture is and
we're gatherers we need to communicate
to him that we know how to sustain
ourselves outside of that relationship
when he's not actually there it'll take
the pressure of him to make him feel
that he has to race back and be with you
especially if he can't he'll feel better
about himself when he's with you okay or
knowing that he's um in this
relationship with you and that's again
the number one reason why men commit
because they need to know that when
they're with you it's because they feel
they're a good man and therefore you're
a good woman for them okay so if you're
making him feel bad about the situation
then he's not going to feel good about
being with you because he'll basically
feel bad about himself so you can
communicate to him that you are thriving
that you're still doing your thing but
yes you miss him and you're sad and you
can't wait to be together with him again
but that you still goal orientated you
still got your own life going on and
he's going to see you as a woman who is
someone really independent someone
confident someone thriving and someone
that is worth respecting which is what
you want you want him to fall even more
in love with you when he has that time
apart from you and that's something that
he can do absence does really make the
heart fonder if you do it right
and one of those things is actually
showing him that you know how to thrive
and survive without him as well alright
girls those are my tips for you on how
to get a guy to miss you over a
long-distance relationship don't forget
to check out my other video and remember
if you want to actually watch my free
coaching class on how to get a guy to
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