6 Secret Keys to Dating a Younger Guy

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hi in this video I'm gonna share six six


yep six keys to attracting and dating

younger men hi there Matt Schaefer your

empowerment connection and relationship

coach here I am a former trial attorney

who decided to use his powers for good

and has dedicated his life to serving

women and creating more fulfilling

relationships and connections both with

themselves and with men I've worked with

thousands of women around the world and

helped them foster and create deeper

empowerment and better relationships in

their lives and I'm super excited for

today's video topic how to attract and

date younger men this is something that

comes up a lot with my clients and a lot

with my students and we're gonna go deep

into it I'm gonna share six ways that

you can attract and date younger men in

a powerful in fulfilling way but before

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start off by talking about what do I

mean by a younger man clearly I mean men

that are probably younger than you so

I'm probably talking about men in their

20s and 30s probably right so when

you're talking about men in their 20s

and 30s there's a lot of specific

nuanced things that you're gonna want to

do with them that you wouldn't

necessarily do with a man in his 40s or

50s or whatever your age might be right

we have a spectrum of women that do

watch this channel so we're gonna go

through 6 keys to attracting turning on

and dating men who are younger the first

key is be fearless and direct in your

communication and connection with these

men because here's the thing a lot of

younger men have probably already

disqualified themselves from a woman

who's a little older than them either

because they assume that you're married

or they think that maybe you're just not

their type but there's a lot of ways

they men talk themselves out of

approaching women so if you are a little

older than him

you want to create that in foster that

connection with him you want to indicate

to him that you are interested that

means lots of eye contact an open body

position if you're talking about

nonverbal connection and then also

smiling right inviting him in be willing

to start a conversation be willing to

initiate the flirtation it doesn't mean

that you're putting yourself in a

masculine position if you are direct

right you want to sort of let him know

that you are interested and just because

you're a little older than him it

doesn't mean that you're not ready to

play and connect with him in a

meaningful way

the second key to attracting and dating

younger men effectively is to be present

with them younger men are going to be

very experiential and very caught up in

the moment of whatever it's going on in

their lives right and so it's important

for you as an older woman with maybe a

little bit more experience to be really

clear that you were gonna be right there

with them in that present moment that

means not projecting into the future and

making a bunch of assumptions about them

because maybe they're not ready for a

full-blown commitment yet or they're

gonna be looking at you and deciding you

know and evaluating what kind of

relationship they want with you and if

they feel like you're projecting into

the future and trying to push them

towards the commitment or put them on a

timeline or a deadline they're gonna

pull back and maybe check out this is

especially true with younger man so

don't project into the future with them

and read a lot into the future and also

don't bring in a lot of the past if a

man especially a younger guy can tell

that you're bringing a lot of your past

relationship baggage up with him

especially in the early stages of

getting to know him it's gonna scare

them off right younger guys are very

present they're very experiential they

really want to have fun and really get

to know you in the present moment so be

connected be dialed in with whatever

he's saying and be willing to just be in

that moment with him without reading too

much into it or looking at it through

the lens of your past experiences as

much as possible and the third key to

attract and date a younger man is to be

playful and spontaneous I cannot tell

you how important this is all men at

level or little boys right but younger

man especially they want to play they

want to have fun so connect with that

little girl within you right let go of

everything that you've experienced up

until now and be ready to just play with

him and go back and forth with him

banter with him you know like tease him

let him tease you and just be present in

that moment and half fun in your

exchanges with him if you can do that

you're gonna draw him in and you're

gonna invite him to want to experience

more of you and date you and have fun

adventures with you adventures are

another huge way to build connection and

intimacy in relationship with a younger

man because younger guys you know they

see the world through the lens of

possibility and they want to experience

it in as many different ways as possible

so the more spontaneous and the more

open to adventures and sort of random

excursions and everything you can be the

more younger guys gonna want to hang out

with you he's not gonna be set in his

ways a younger guy wants to explore and

you can through your openness and

playfulness and inviting this be his

exploration partner does not sound fun

and if he's being silly don't demean him

don't dismiss his silliness that might

come across a little maternal and

something you want to avoid as an older

woman is coming across as his mom so if

he's being silly tolerated roll with it

go back and forth with him in his

silliness and just allow yourself to be

in that playful space with him another

important key to building attraction and

dating younger man is to be a master of

texting or at least get used to texting

because younger guys guys in their 20s

and 30s they do a lot of texting they

don't do as much phone conversation and

I'm not saying you can't invite them and

draw them in to phone conversations I

invite you to do that

but also be ready for a lot of texting

with these younger guys so you're gonna

want to get good at managing texting as

a tool to get to know a man don't make

it the primary form of communication

especially in early stage dating use

texting as a tool to

range meetups to flirt with him but not

as a tool of getting to know him so get

ready to text a lot more with a younger

guy but be very intentional about it or

it could become a primary way that

you're talking to them and that can be

super exhausting and you don't want to

do that you want to use texting as a

tool to set up in person encounters and

to do some flirting and to maintain that

burn of attraction another key to going

deeper with younger man is to really own

your sensuality right your flirtation

your touch your body really leveraging

those assets that you have and those

senses are gonna be super important

because touch is a primary love language

for almost all men but especially for a

younger man who are deeply physical

right the more you can be in your

sensual inviting soft femininity the

more you're going to excite him right

because you could teach him a lot as an

older woman and that's very exciting for

a lot of younger men so be in full

ownership of your sexuality of your

sensuality and all the things that come

with that and invite him into that space

with you and it's gonna really excite

him and it's gonna really light the fire

with him to go deep with you in that way

and this last tip is really important

you want to give younger men a platform

to practice their masculinity right and

you do that by being deeply in your

feminine because I want you to think

about this younger men are just starting

to learn what it means to be a man a man

who's in his 20s a man who's in his 30s

he's really craving an understanding of

what it means to be deeply in his

masculine you know and he's stepping

into that space and so the more feminine

you can be the more inviting you can be

the more you can throw him the ball and

give him opportunities to step up and be

a man and plan dates and be the

protector and be the hero the more you

do that the more you're inviting him to

rise and for younger guys guys who

haven't really established their


identity yet that's a huge gift that

you're giving them and that's really

gonna excite them and make them feel

more powerful and more empowered when

they're with you which is gonna make

them want to hang out with you more it's

gonna make them want to get to know you

better it's gonna make them want to

spend more time with you so one of the

most valuable roles you can play as the

older woman in the life of a younger man

is to be his inspiration be his muse be

his example of what it means to be in

relationship with a goddess with the

woman who's deeply in her feminine and

knows who she is

and knows what she wants and it's

looking to him and asking him in a

powerful sensual feminine way can you

rise to my level can you be the man that

I need you to be that's super hot and

super evoking for a lot of men

especially a man who's really seeking

that answer what kind of man am I how

can I be the sort of masculine figure

that I saw my dad be and then I see

these other men out there be you know

men in that age they're liking their

Prince phase right and they're striving

to become kings and if they have a queen

in their life a queen can inspire them

to go there so be his queen be his muse

be his inspiration and he will be deeply

deeply deeply connected and deeply

appreciative to you so there you go six

ways to attract and date younger men the

first one is to be direct and be open

with them let them know that you are

interested let them know that you do

want to connect with them that you are

not married and you are not too old for

them age is truly just a number and you

want to get to know them and then be

present with them don't project into the

future and assume that this relationship

is gonna turn into something more and

put them on a deadline and don't bring

up the past right don't view them

through the lens of your past trauma

just be in that present moment with them

be connected and see and experience them

for who they are and then be playful and

spontaneous be your little girl self be

in the moment with them playing and

sassing them in teasing them and in

lighting them forward

let them be sarcastic let them be silly

banter and go back and forth with them

and be spontaneous be willing to go on

adventures and be their adventure

partner younger guys are looking for

that adventurous freedom and you can be

their partner and platform to make it

happen and be prepared to text more with

a younger guy but also recognize that

you get to do it intentionally don't

allow texting to become a continuous way

that you're getting to know this younger

guy rein it in set the tempo and use it

as a tool use it to flirt use it to

coordinate and set up meetups with him

but don't make it something that you do

all the time and your guys will probably

want to do that so it'll be up to you to

sort of condition and set that tempo

with him and own your sensuality with a

younger guy be your soft flirtatious

feminine self be very touchy with him

touches a primary love language and for

younger men who are in that prime

physical masculine space especially with

their hormones and all that stuff the

more sensual you are with him the more

excited he's gonna be and the more he's

going to enjoy it and lastly be that

platform be that inviting of voguing

force in his life they could seem to

step into his masculine be the queen

that asks of him are you ready to be a

king because men in their 20s and 30s

younger men they are seeking that

masculine identity and they're seeking

what it means to be a king they want to

know what that is they want to know what

that feels like and so the more you can

throw them the ball and invite them into

that masculine space invite them to plan

those dates and like them to step into

their power invite them to be the

driving physical force in the

relationship they're gonna be attracted

to you if you do that they're gonna be

excited by you and they're gonna see you

as that queen that really inspires them

to be a king and that's what they want

that's what men in their 20s and 30s are

really looking to do if they are good

heart centered men who are looking to

advance and evolve within their

masculinity so I hope this resonated

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