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to this day I can carry a conversation
with almost any guy that stands in front
of me that's not the problem but isn't
that how it usually works the guys
you're not interested in you have no
problem being yourself around and
chit-chatting away
the real lesson is in how to talk to a
guy you like when it comes to a guy you
think is super cute or sexy you suddenly
have lost all words you stutter your
tongue gets twisted as you ramble on
tripping over your words you think this
doesn't happen to me oh it does and when
it does it's tragic when my friends see
me stuttering and sweaty they try to
help me out but it's too late I've
already fallen too deep into daydreaming
about being with this guy but for the
past couple years I've worked on the way
I speak to a guy the first like let me
tell you it's not easy most of the time
I just want to drool and stare at them
while they speak I have to look
confident to give off the illusion that
I'm not head over heels for them
sometimes I'm so obvious even my mother
can tell so it's time you learned how to
talk to a guy you like that way you
actually have a conversation with him at
least one that doesn't consist of you
giggling the entire time you can do it
ladies just think of how nervous they
are one stop focusing your attention on
what he's thinking about I know you
worry about what he's thinking but you
shouldn't be this is the first thing to
do if you want to be as relaxed and
comfortable as possible
stop thinking about what he's thinking
it doesn't matter if he doesn't like
your thoughts or opinions he's not the
one for you two don't lie this is just
because I don't want you creating all
these lies about yourself just for him
to like you plus you have to keep up
with all the lies you make which is not
an easy task so just be honest this
isn't for him it's for you I know you
want to tell him what he wants to hear
but if it's not honest then don't say it
and plus no one likes a liar three let
him talk about himself if you have
nerves talking to him the best thing to
do is ask him a question about himself
people love talking about themselves so
it gives you some time to relax and
gather information about him the best
way to do this without looking like an
interviewer is by asking open-ended
questions
meaning questions that cannot be
answered with only a yes-or-no reply for
example if in class together you can ask
him what do you think about this group
assignment we have to do for laughs
everyone likes to be around people who
they share a laugh with in addition it
helps you relax once you laugh together
now if you're not a jokester that's okay
sarcasm and dry humor are also really
funny if he says something funny laugh
if you say something laugh as well why
not five flirt it up girl there's
nothing wrong with flirting in fact it's
what builds the sexual tension between
two people if you like him flirting
doesn't hurt smile at him give him a
playful wink touch his arm when he says
something funny these nonverbal cues
show him you're interested in him and if
he's into you he'll most likely flirt
with you back six talk about what
interests you there's nothing more
interesting than talking to someone
about a particular topic which they're
passionate about you see the light in
their eyes and the bursts of energy they
get when they start talking now if
you're really passionate about something
there's nothing wrong with sharing it
with him he sees where your passions lie
and that can be a huge turn-on 7
communicate on a regular basis if
possible that is this helps you relax
and become comfortable around that
person also by frequent communication
you get to know each other on a deeper
level discussing topics which aren't
just considered small talk and at the
end of the day that's what you want 8
communicate on social media now usually
I'm against heavy communication on
social media however it can be used in a
positive way to help break the ice
everyone loves memes so if you tag him
in a
one it shows him that you're comfortable
with him thus he shares memes and funny
posts with you as well now what you
don't want to happen as you only end up
communicating via social media 9 don't
over text him you know exactly what I
mean if he doesn't reply to you in five
minutes don't send him another in
another text message leave him alone
he'll reply if he doesn't reply in a day
or two then text him again if you over
text someone it's flat-out annoying and
becomes a huge turnoff but if you notice
he's not replying or giving you one-word
answers he's probably not interested in
you 10 don't force the conversation I
know you want the conversation to flow
magically and then you immediately fall
in love but it may not happen that way
some people take longer to warm up to
others he could be nervous or he could
not be interested in you but don't force
conversation if he wants to keep the
conversation going he'll say something
or ask a question 11 use mutual
interests as a way to hang out if you
just found out he hasn't seen the new
Star Wars that's great because neither
have you maybe you could go see it
together boom I just landed you a night
out with a guy you like see it wasn't
that hard to do but I recommend waiting
until you are on friendly terms before
you suggest to hang out 12 avoid X
related topics yeah no one wants to talk
about past failed relationships at least
not at this stage you don't want him to
start talking about his ex in front of
you either why because then you change
the relationship from a possible love
interest to a therapist once you've
become their therapist it's a hard spot
to get out of thirteen just be yourself
I cannot emphasize this enough
understanding how to talk to a guy you
like means you need to be yourself don't
try to change your interests or sense of
humor just to suit him no it never lasts
if you do this be yourself laugh at
things you find funny talk about things
that interest you and give him a real
idea of who you are
if he doesn't like it it's his problem
14 if he's not into you it's okay
listen you may do everything right but
the fact is he's just not that into you
I know no one wants to hear that but the
sooner you accept that the better it is
for you now go after another guy someone
who may like you back this doesn't have
anything to do with you you don't need
to lose weight or change your hair you
just aren't compatible now that you know
how to talk to a guy you like there's no
reason why you can't carry a
conversation with him and have him fall
for you you can do it if you liked the
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