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HOW TO IMPRESS A WOMAN YOU WANT TO FU*K



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it can be a great pattern breaker as

well in the middle of talking saying you

know what I'm finding it really

interesting talking to you but I also

just want to say you are so beautiful or

your stunning amazing oh that got me

yeah the other option is hybrid where

you talk to a girl you get to know her

before you actually choose that she is

deserving of your compliment

friendzone a girl and then she'll like

you it's like I'll often say to it like

hi I think you're beautiful here all the

cards hold them you are now in charge

you now have the power or putting it so

yeah it follows on from waiting to be

impressed it also follows on from having

to be impressively it's true well this

version of the hybrid is what I think

works for my students when I have them

my students on the 7 day course this is

what I teach this is what get some

results particularly if they have

outcome dependency or approach anxiety

okay she still has to impress you she's

supposed to reach your standards

you still validate her but that direct

compliment save it for the right moment

that you think she deserves it and

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hey guys it's me Cassio noble leading

female dating and attraction expert for

men and today I have with me her duster

Hadassah Noble and yes she's my sister

and number one win girl on the team now

the last video that we did I think has

received around half a million views and

you I know you were exactl she's far far

less extroverted than I am and actually

that's something we're going to be

discussing in this video but I've been

inundated with emails from people saying

we want to see more pedasi because

actually what you have to say is really

really relevant to a lot of guys

especially guys who are shyer who are

looking for more quiet shire very

feminine women

but I would just say a little less

intimidating a little less frightening

but equally quite difficult because shy

girls are a challenge and they're gonna

be a different way to an alpha mega

[ __ ] so we're gonna be picking your

brains now Hadassah what's in the seven

day course this is very very important I

must stress here that that means she's

out in field like four days a week no we

don't have a dormant team there's a lot

of companies out there that have a team

that they take out of the cupboard you

know shake the dust off and send them

out for their like you know one client a

year we we have we're out there okay we

are out there in the thick of the battle

with our students so yeah it's an active

team and they're constantly constantly

perfecting their game and their skills

so today we're gonna be looking at well

I've got lots of tips here for shy guys

this is a lot of guys that come on the

course you know they're they're not

necessarily shy but they they suffer

from a lot approach anxiety a lot of

outcome dependency which then it comes

across as worried nervous and therefore

we put it over the collective term of

shy so I have you okay

I mean you're not so much now you are

still quite introverted but you were

extremely shy yeah no absolutely I was I

was

shai I was so shy oh you remember what I

was like it would it would be really

really tough to try and go for

approaching people asking for something

getting something you want and that's

not just in terms of dating but that's

in terms of work that's in terms of

friendships networking and everything

okay so you've got three tips to share

with us today three thirds do help shy

guys become more confident well yes I do

have three tips they are more in a

practical approach than a kind of we

know how do we feel inside about

ourselves let's do some breathing

exercises everybody so much like that

it's something we can you can use

practical advice so the first point I

have for shy guys is bear in mind she's

hot what else has she got this means

what does she have to offer you so

you've approached her cuz she's

good-looking

she's got maybe three or four features

that you've listed there something that

you find attractive what else is there

because when you're talking to her you

can't put her on a pedestal of oh my god

were beautiful and that's it we've got

to find out what else she's got to offer

so I mean what are her interests what I

liked what I heard dislikes and what you

should do is pre-plan these and I often

do this with the students in the 7-day

course is to have a list done in full

before even going out into the field

saying what is your ideal woman what it

what has she got and they usually say

vague things very vague just general

things like nice personality good sense

of humor and to keep fit yeah and it's

it's got a filter spoke and tailor-made

for you you see women have a list women

have a detailed list of what they want

and that list might seem horrendous to

you might seem shocking but it's fair

list and they might not keep to that

list they might find someone who's the

complete antithesis to everything that

they thought they liked regardless it's

about going in there with that

confidence because you have that list

therefore you are the chooser if you go

in there with like some vague general

kind of list of things that everybody

else it's like a lonely hearts column

it's like looking for good a sense of

humor exactly there's a good example

what is her sense of humor I mean you

good sense of humor my sense of humor

you oh you me at the same sense of humor

but apart from that a lot of people have

very very different sense of human you

just to say good doesn't necessarily

you'll have that in common

yeah so have a very clear idea what kind

of films does she like what kind of

books does she read is she intelligent

is she clever once you have this you'll

realize that speaking to him just

because she's pretty doesn't necessarily

mean she's going to reach all your

standards therefore she's no longer on

this pedestal and therefore she's not

longer something that has to be

something you worry about so much which

brings me to my second point my second

point is don't worry about trying to

impress her wait to be impressed that

alone is impressive because you will be

looking out for what those what those

qualities are that we mentioned before

and when she does give you one or two

probably there won't be every single

thing on the list ticked off I don't

think it will be one or two qualities

and you can validate her you can make it

clear that you have standards that you

can reward her when she has reached them

I just want to interject that it's

extremely important what her does is

saying about validation it might sound

highly arrogant but I want you to think

of what the nice guy would do and then

do the opposite the nice guy never

validates he just kisses her ass he'll

say when she says validate we don't mean

for instance oh I love that dress on you

it's really pretty she doesn't mean that

that's what nice guys do what she means

is you know what I like your dress I

like your dress because it shows that

you've made an effort or it's really

feminine most other girls dress a little

bit like masculine or it's like too

sporty or whatever it is so you are

saying look you've you've reached the

mark and these other girls didn't quite

fit the bill mentioning other women that

you know and comparing her is a really

good way of displaying high value as

well she'll know that you have other

women of very high quality in your life

and then you if you're comparing her say

I like this you'll stand out from other

girls those other girls I know they only

like this you do something more for

example a lot of guys I know prefer

women that go on you know on holiday and

when they're

holiday they go to they go camping maybe

something outdoors do sports you know

things which are quite not the typical

girl thing and he's like most women I

know they like to sit on the beach and

sunbathe or party that's really cool

that you do something different from

that point she'll know that she has to

keep try she has to keep her reputation

you you what you're doing here this is

very much my territory which is micro

detail there's a lot of advice out there

which is just listen to her more

capitalize on those hooks and ask her

interesting questions okay so imagine if

we said that to the people come on our

seventh day of course just go out there

and be more friendly more sociable and

ask interesting questions they'd answer

their money back doesn't money back but

also due to going out there vague advice

vague nothing too actually no tangible

something you work with you know it's

very micro detailed advice and a lot of

people can be watching this going whoa

okay you know you're teaching me like

you know how to talk basically but when

they are talking to women and they are

shy guys which we're dealing with here

okay not if you're super confidence soup

you have no approach anxiety this might

not be relevant for you but if you're a

shy guy that isn't used to socializing

and talking to people then this is super

important because you're going to be

standing there it's suffering from

something called well but what I call

decision-making paralysis you don't know

whether to go left or right you don't

know if you should agree without this a

forever you'll just completely blank and

what I does saying is she's giving you

tips actual points incremental tips that

you can use you can apply and it's going

to make a huge difference as small

adjustments that make a huge difference

yes it's just absolutely true it's is

the detail that's that's important women

like detail we work in detail everything

about the way we dress the way we talk

about things the way we describe things

is very much detailed based not fact

it's not technical facts it's emotional

detail and this is the really great part

that you can you can talk to her about

you can look at these points that you've

listed the things that you want on a

woman and connect with her on an

emotional deeper level rather than just

do we have that in common do we have

that in common

that's another video for another time is

another video for another time well we

covered the second point yes we have a

third point the third point well the

third point it comes down to the fact

that a lot of shy men are worried about

going direct approach and so we need to

explain what direct approach is I'll

just do it briefly so directors when you

show the goal your intent straight away

now there's different degrees of that

there's I think you're really pretty I

just felt like I had to come say hello

to you and then there's well you know I

want you to be the mother of my children

you know that's that's you have to have

watertight confidence and only a few men

can get away with that we do teach that

but you've got to get to a certain

length before you can master that kind

of very very advanced game so then

there's indirect which is using an

opener which doesn't convey the fact

that your interest in her such as she's

working on her laptop and you say to her

you know are you a Twitter or Facebook

girl you know something like that that

doesn't really mean you're not saying

that you like her she kind of gets it

but you haven't shown your intent right

okay and that brings us to the third

option which is the hybrid opener

now the holo Prideaux the vibra dopa

million it's a nice cocktail most hybrid

openers that I see people teaching in

the field though is very much going in

they say do you know the directions to

Piccadilly Circus station do you know

yes it's just over there Piccadilly

Circus though the real reason I wanted

to come and talk to you is because I

yeah exactly

it feels really fake I mean you connect

it up a little bit work so you can act

it up a little bit and you can use like

a with it going look the real reason is

I know that sounds ridiculous but you

have to be a good actor so unless you've

been to Rada

you can't do it no the other option is

hybrid where you talk to a girl you get

to know her before you actually choose

that she is deserving of your compliment

your direct compliment now that's not to

say that you don't show intent

throughout the conversation you can

still you can still show that you valid

a shin you can

still show then you respect something

about her you can still even compliment

her but it's not that direct approach on

her beauty it's not that direct showing

interest of absolutely clear unequivocal

unarguable compliments

well this version of the hybrid is what

I think works for my students when I

have them my students on the seven day

course this is what I teach this is what

gets some results particularly if they

have outcome dependency or approach

anxiety okay

so rather than going in with your

complan rather than suddenly during a

compliment in there just a few vast

directions go in instead get to know her

talk to her go in direct enjoy the

conversation when you think she's good

enough for you when she's reached your

standards with that list that you made

then you give her your direct compliment

that's not to say that you don't show

intent that's not to say you don't show

some degree of interest in her she still

has to impress you she supposed to reach

your standards

you still validate her but that direct

compliment save it for the right moment

that you think she deserves that and it

can be a great pattern breaker as well

in the middle of talking saying you know

what I'm finding it really interesting

talking to you but I also just want to

say you are so beautiful or your

stunning amazing only that got me yeah I

said that yeah I'm not you're far direct

on the whole I prefer direct but I can I

I can go for the indirect to it's got a

lot of plus points and pinyon are

rewarding good behavior yes and I find a

lot of men up there reward bad behavior

can reward bad behavior if you've got a

game plan so like some of the guys on

our team do you know they reward a [ __ ]

ego to take away her power again

advanced game another video another day

but you shouldn't keep rewarding

somebody just because they are you know

being boring and a lot of guys they all

know you're really interesting I was a

boring interaction why is he saying

that's interesting yeah but I really

love what you said because it felt so

spontaneous and it's elating a bad okay

no but it also gives a good chance that

if they if you do lose interest in a

girl maybe she is really boy maybe you

don't want to get for that compliment

you don't have to anymore you know

exactly I've noticed that if you when

all else fails friendzone a girl and

then she'll like you good yeah

head zoned out there and they can play

but you've never seen a woman friendzone

it's like oh it's like Toth total rage

yes so that's like that's an again

there's so these things that we could be

out I mean I could talk about hybrid

openers

no please yeah a little okay yeah

examples and takeaways for for our

listeners Oh us sorry well I just think

hybrid openers got so many points that

we can discuss so yeah it follows on

from waiting to be impressed it also

follows on from having to be impressed

it's true because the guy goes in there

and if is trying to impress all the time

it's cliche it's quite me we expecting

it as women like yeah yeah you got a car

cool you know good job okay but I want a

guy to teach you respect me because I've

got a good job or if I had a car if I

have a good personality another funny

just these things I realize that to a

lot of people when I'm talking some they

don't notice we want to be valued we

don't just want to be you know yeah we

look good great alright so another

really good example of a hybrid opener

is if you're taking if you're still not

sure what your compliment is I even

though you've had some time to think

about it you're still not really sure

it's just like an overall thing that you

like about her

good point B is she's talking about

something and then go now I know now I

know what it is that I like about you or

that I'm attracted to I use this one I

give that to my students a lot and it's

very powerful you just we were just so

desperate to know what it is like what

is it what is it now I know why I'm

attracted to you and if she's like why

why and you just go doesn't matter Karen

of what you'll say and then actually

that's so sexy and it makes us feel like

really Wow's romantics like doesn't

happen that often oh and we want to know

more is blonde taneous it feels

spontaneous it feels especially magical

moment

but it has to feel spontaneous that's

what we teach it yeah okay and that will

help you secure another date or so

so hybrid openers have a lot of great

positive points for example when you I

often find with direct approaching even

though it's really really like

spontaneous and exciting it does put

women on a pedestal and a lot of women

it's I think particularly recently as

soon as they get a guy approaching them

immediately go not interested on walk

off especially in busy cities in busy

cities people on a rush people in a

hurry much more likely to help someone

who's asking for directions very much or

wants to talk to them about something

actually have more patience with it I

almost think it's an arrogant thing when

women are [ __ ] immediately not

interested not interested as soon as

they get a compliment so to hold it off

until you're sure that she deserves that

I think is a really powerful process

it's a really powerful opportunity

because she's four shy guys yeah once

you don't want to go through that stop

being a woman in the street and having

to actually get had a stop just receive

the compliment it's like I often say to

it like hi I think you're beautiful here

all the cards hold them you were now in

charge you now have the power opening it

and I think it's better to let her have

it as you as you feel that she's

deserved it so that's the first point

and the other point is that it gets it

again going back to our point earlier

about making the list getting a chance

to prove herself earning your respect

before she receives a compliment slowly

slowly as it goes along she will earn

this compliment this direct approach

that you were holding off from early on

it's really good chance to display high

value show that you've got very clear

standards in a woman you're really

massive on high value yes I am this I am

being really high I am really happy

because women have high value well most

women have high value they're expecting

they expect a lot more from an area next

to law and men [ __ ] about them

expecting a lot and I'm like why not

just playing up that game

so you know women are not made of sugar

and spice and all things nice and it's

not always about that you need to have a

great job and you have to have a really

great car and you have to have money and

you have to be videos it's nothing to do

with it it's about having self-respect

about having confidence in who you are

in your opinions and in what you will

like and dislike and be able to make

that clear but you expect the same from

her and being committed and consistent

with those opinions yes but suddenly

shriveling into a small little mouse a

moment that she disagrees with you or

she captures you points you out or or

anything okay and that's my point on

display high values that's really

important we're obsessed with high

values I mean that's what you've found

is work with our students that's all

that - when I usually talk to students

they are embarrassed about themselves

for various reasons and college ethic

for I don't like invideo games or

something and I yeah women I always say

women have this dorky side and once you

connect with that dorky side behind the

door

you got cool side they need to penetrate

your courses they need to find you yeah

I need to find it seriously I think

everyone has his dorky side that she

tries to cover up she might be a bit

embarrassed and I say once you've

connected in that dorky side you know

that's it it's like it's it's home run

okay so in conclusion in conclusion in

conclusion this is final thoughts my

reports of the day have a very clear

idea of what you want make it very clear

what you want

tell her show intent hold off that

compliment when you think she's an tit I

never ever reward bad behavior

exactly okay so if you want to work with

her duster and my other active team a

lot longer than what lying in a cupboard

somewhere they are helping they're out

there on the battleground on the

battleground okay and they are helping

thousands of guys get real results with

women and that's what we're about real

results with women we are not here to

feed you [ __ ] we are not here to give

you pixie dust okay we are here to give

you gold dust we're here to give you

tactics

that's advice feedback that really

creates that shift in your results with

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