How to hurt An Ex Who Hurt You
How To Forgive Your Ex (Or Anyone Who Hurt You)
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Let me tell you a quick true story about two ex prisoners of war
Years later after they're released the two run into each other
One asks the other, "Have you finally forgiven your captors?"
"No! Never."
The other one shouts angrily.
"Well they still have you in prison, don't they?"
Some people will never forgive they are
so loyal to their anger and hatred that they will stress and hurt themselves
physically psychologically for the rest of their lives because they think
forgiveness is some kind of weakness
but that's not true it takes a very strong
and wise person to forgive
to choose to be better instead of bitter.
and here's how you do it
you have to put yourself into their shoes.
See when you do this you realize what Eckhart Tolle said
that if their past was your past,
if their pain was your pain
if their level of consciousness was your level of consciousness
then you would think and act exactly as they do.
See there's only one earth
but there are billions of worlds here on this planet
every person is living in their own world
believing their thoughts about the world which
were born out of their upbringing and experiences.
We suffer when we project our expectations,
our morals, our worldviews on the people living in
totally different worlds from us
as if we knew or could ever know the depths
the motives, the variables that took place in that world and cause that
person to act in the way that they did.
Honestly we don't need to know.
Just know that hurt people hurt people.
And that everyone is doing the best they can with
what they've been given.
That goes for your cheating ex, your father who wasn't there for you.
Even the terrorists!
I mean if you had their exact history, feelings and thoughts as strongly as they do
then you would do the exact same thing.
It's easy to call people evil and be done with it.
But that's the old way, that way doesn't help us to heal.
When we look deeper we see that all people have one thing in common;
we want to be happy.
That goes for the serial killer, the racist cop, the abuser,
but it is their thoughts about getting
to that happiness that have been severely diluted through their journey of life
and now they create more suffering in the world than actual happiness.
Now this does not mean we condone the actions of wrongdoers or
there are no consequences or that you continue a relationship with an abuser.
Forgiveness could result in you having nothing to do with them ever again.
This strategy is for your mental peace.
Clearing your heart getting you out of that prison
because forgiveness is about you
not them.
Peace.
