- We all have those experiences
where someone embarrasses us.
Makes us feel bad, makes us feel not good enough.
Causes us to get angry.
That makes us so frustrated.
In this video, I'm gonna share with you some tools
so that you can prevent someone from ever
making you feel any of those ways ever again.
My name is Janelle Fraser, the expert to follow
to become genuinely happy, wildly successful
and a Naked Leader.
It is the lunch break on Day Three
of my certification program.
We are training new Naked Leaders to go out in the world.
Step Number One is that no one is capable
of making you feel any way.
And you actually decide how you feel.
And so we need to stop giving people the power.
We give other people the power
that they can just manipulate how we feel
about our lives and about ourselves at any given moment.
And to me, that is no way to live.
That feels powerless to me.
And what I know, and what I'm teaching my Naked Leaders
is that we have the power to feel
how we want to feel.
And that we are responsible for how we feel,
how we react to people.
So what people and life do to us
is they push our buttons.
But people are not able to push your buttons
if you don't have those buttons.
So I get sometimes people say some really mean things,
and that pushes a button inside of us.
But what what we teach here is that you can
actually get rid of those buttons
so that, those behaviors in the future,
people saying things to you,
doesn't affect you in the same way anymore.
Step Number Two, Carl Jung's theory of
Perception is Projection.
What we perceive outside of ourselves
is only a reflection of what's going
on inside of us already.
So what I like to say that is these people who
made you feel a certain way,
they're Asshole Angels.
So they are an angel because they're here to teach you
what's already happening inside your heart,
because you wouldn't be feeling that way,
or reacting that way
if that wasn't already something that you believed.
If some part in our being didn't already believe it,
then you wouldn't react and feel that way.
I call them Asshole Angels because they kinda come
in the form of an asshole because
they make us, make us
feel embarrassed or not good enough
or all of these negative things.
But really, they're just pushing a button
that's already inside of you,
and there is an opportunity for growth.
So I know it's easier to blame.
I know it's easier to say that they made me feel this way.
But if we continue to do that, you're always gonna
feel powerless over your circumstance.
You're always gonna feel like there's
nothing that you can do about it.
When we can take responsibility for how we feel
and the way that we experience the world,
we see it differently.
Most people are creating suffering in their life
on their own, but they just don't understand
how their mind works, so that's why
I'm making this video for you.
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