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How to Greet a Girl on a First Date (The Right Way)
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you've got a big date coming up with a
pretty lady but
what's the right way to greet a girl on
the first date
you actually sh you actually showed up
oh my god i love you you're so pretty
and i bet you're so smart too
a good evening my lady
sup girl real talk none of those ways
are right
if you want to find out exactly how to
greet a girl on the first date
stay tuned because we're going to talk
about the right way to do it what not to
do
and how you can make the process much
smoother stay tuned
[Music]
what's going on my name is jason with
healthyframework.com
and as mentioned today we're going to be
talking about how to greet a girl
on the first date now before we get
started two quick things number one
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to help you find that specially to take
out on a first date
the right way with all that taken care
of let's go ahead and dive into this so
the first rule of how to greet a girl on
the first date is
do not shake hands right shaking hands
is something you do in a work
environment something
you do when you meet your parents
friends and it might seem like something
small
but starting the date that way sets a
very unromantic tone
so you know if that's what you're used
to when you're meeting people if you
don't date a lot you're going to have to
try and break your habit of
sticking that hand out for the handshake
because it's just awkward
and it really doesn't set the right tone
for the first date so if we're not
shaking hands then what is it that we're
physically doing
when we meet a girl on the first date
and that brings us to our second point
the hug right so personally i'm a big
advocate of a hug as a way to greet a
girl on the first date because
it's something that can be kind of
between like a friend and also be a
little romantic in a sense
but it's something that a lot of people
are used to now that being said
should you hug or should you not hug
when you agree to girl on the first date
um that's going to become it's going to
come down on a case-by-case basis
uh you know if for some reason you
believe that the girl is a little
standoffish she's a little uncomfortable
then that's not something that you're
going to do but i think in most
cases you're probably going to be all
right with it the one caveat to that is
that if you do go in for the hug and you
see
she pulls away or you know does anything
like that that kind of
warrants that she doesn't want that sort
of physical contact yet
then that is where you uh that's where
you draw the line jump ship
don't try and just keep coming forward
because that is awkward and
not respectful for personal space now um
if you do decide to hug there's a couple
things that are important to it number
one
is commit to it right so don't kind of
be like standing back doing
you know one of these things and you
know and you end up just standing there
like this right if you're gonna go for
the hug
go for the hug and again if she gives
you some uh some non-verbal cues or even
some verbal cues that she's not
interested
you know that's when you're gonna stop
it but if you're going for it you know
commit to it
unless that occurs um the second
question there is
what type of hug and what i really like
is is the kind of what i call the half
hug it's the friend hug it's not this
long romantic you know one of these kind
of things
it's just kind of the half side you know
hey you know you're initiating a little
bit of physical contact
it shows that you're excited to meet
them and it kind of sets that tone
that's way different from that handshake
tone but it's not uncomfortable or
off-putting
now the third rule on how to greet a
girl on the first date is a very
important one
make eye contact and before i go any
further i just want to reiterate to some
of you out there that the eyes are
located here
they're not located anywhere else on the
body right and while it might be
tempting
to look elsewhere especially if she
comes and she looks beautiful
she's dressed to the nines which i hope
she is
earn those brownie points keep that eye
contact um
because there's nothing more off-putting
than making a girl feel like she's a
piece of meat or
some sort of sexual icon or anything
like that keep the eye contact
not this you know creepy just you know
glued like this you know you can glance
away and stuff but
the idea is to kind of keep uh keep
everything above
above this line here now number four
this is an important one well
all of these are important but this one
is especially important we actually
um in the description box below not only
do we have a link to that best dating
apps page
we've also got a link to a separate
article specifically about this topic
because
that's that important and number four is
greet her on time right being five
minutes late
might not seem like that big of a deal
to you but for some people it's very
important and it should be important it
should be important to you that the
person that you're on a date with shows
up on time
because what that does is it's a it's an
intangible way of demonstrating
that they're important to you that you
care about this that you showed up on
time and
you know a great strategy to this is if
the dates
at eight o'clock and it takes you 15
minutes to get there you should not be
leaving your house at 7 45
the absolute latest you should be
leaving your house is 7 30.
and you know if you really want to be
smart you know maybe leave like 7 15
that way if you get there and there's
the place is somehow closed or there's
something some special event going on
that's going to hinder the date
then that way you can text the girl you
can call her and you guys can kind of
call an audible
and then again that's going to
demonstrate to her that you got there
early and that you really do care and
you are committing some time to this so
make sure that you're on time and just
remember that
five minutes late two minutes late 30
seconds late all of that is not
on time on time is being there on time
and you know to
not get into you know any cheesy cliche
military phrases
if you are just getting there on time
it's not
usually the best strategy and number
five which is the last rule we want to
get into before we talk about
what you should actually say and how to
make the process easier
is one simple word smile right if you
come up and you say all the right things
you do all the right things but
you just look like you've had the worst
day and you're just you know
real sad and depressed looking people
aren't gonna want she's not gonna be
around you right she's
it's not gonna put off that right image
you know later on in the dating cycle
you can have bad days and things like
that but
when it's the first date you got to
bring that a game and that starts with a
smile
so we've talked about what you're
physically supposed to do when you greet
a girl
for the first time on a date and what
you're not supposed to do
but what i'd like to talk about now is
what you're supposed to say
now these tips and thoughts here are
assuming that you've actually never met
this person in real life before right so
this is somebody that you've been set up
with
or somebody you met through a dating app
or dating website
um which is probably going to be the
majority of the dates that you go on
unless it's someone like that you've
worked with and you've asked out but
um so these are assuming that and
actually what i've done is i've written
down
three specific lines and you can
literally these aren't going to be just
like oh
say something like this you can actually
take these three lines verbatim and
these can be like your go-to and unless
you're going on like
hundreds of first dates or you're going
on the first date with the same person
again which will never happen
it's completely fine you can you can use
these over and again so let me read
these real quick
and then i'll talk about why these are
good um and then yeah we'll go from
there so the first one is
you must be jane hi it's nice to meet
you super simple
right the second one jane hey it's jason
it's it's awesome to finally meet you
and uh the last one is hey
you made it it's great to meet you in
person now
these are super simple lines and there's
absolutely no reason for you to
complicate this it's just literally
you're accomplishing basically two
things here um
you're confirming that you're meeting
with the right person right that way
you're not just kind of like
awkwardly uh going up to somebody and
introducing themselves and using your
opening line and all this but it's not
the person you're on a date with
and that gets even more awkward if that
person is somewhere else watching
so you're confirming that you're on the
date with the right person and you're
showing that you're excited there
to uh to meet them so uh you know take
those three phrases
um and i'm gonna go ahead and type those
in the description box below as well
and just use those you know word for
word and if you need to practice them if
you're someone who's real shy go for it
it's fine
but these are perfect and they will work
forever you never need to replace them
now the last thing that i want to talk
about today is i want to give you three
tips
on how to make this entire process go
smoother right how to make greeting a
girl on the first date
basically easier and before i get into
that i just want to reiterate
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let's go ahead and dive into these three
tips
tip number one give specific
instructions about where you're going to
meet right so
let's say you're going to a bar to grab
drinks instead of just saying hey
i'm going to meet you at sparky's bar
you know at seven o'clock
take it easy right because then now you
guys are doing that awkward wandering
around thing right a better thing to say
would be
hey i'll meet you at sparky's bar i'll
wait for you out front there's
a bench to the left of the door i'll be
waiting for you there in a blue shirt
right
you know what that does is that makes uh
it gets rid of all the worry of you know
are we going to see each other how are
we going to link up when we get there
and that not only relieves some of that
awkwardness and worry for you but it's
also gonna take some of that
off of her plate as well um which is
again gonna just kind of set
the great tone as well which also brings
me to like a little caveat as well
um if you are meeting somewhere it's
better to meet
outside than to go inside because then
now if you meet inside she's having to
do one of these like
i got a blue shirt over you know like
that's just awkward makes her feel
awkward
you know everybody in the in the bar
restaurant show whatever you're going to
already knows now this one's on a date
right instead
you know meet them outside and then you
guys can go in together you know if you
got to poke your head and put your name
on a list
um you know if you didn't you know call
and get a reservation beforehand
completely fine just go ahead and do
that and then pop yourself back outside
tip number two is know something about
the place that you're going to you know
hey you made it i'm excited you're here
have you been here before did you know
that sparky's bar
is used to be called johnny's but then
it burned down an electrical fire so
they changed the name to sparkys right
having something like that in your
pocket allows you to kind of alleviate
any awkward pauses right instead of this
hey it's great to be here you know glad
you made it
so we should go inside now right you
know it gets rid of all that because
you've got something ready
um in case you need it now and also just
remember by the way the conversation
it's two people right you might be like
you know hey you know i'm so glad you
made it
um you know et cetera and then you know
she just starts breaking in oh yeah i'm
so excited to meet you blah blah blah
xyz yadda yadda right
um but this at least gives you even more
confidence to know that there's not
going to be that real awkward pause
there right at the beginning
and the third and final tip that i want
to give you about how to greet a girl on
a first date and this is something that
can carry on
through the entire date is be confident
right she already agreed to go out with
you right so if you're someone who's
shy and you're kind of nervous and all
this you you got to embrace that fact
right she's already said yes i'm going
to go out with you right so
so embrace that point let it help build
your confidence so that way
you know you don't go in there and it's
just like oh hey it's you know it's
crazy right you go in there
and you just you're not egotistical
you're not over the top but you're
confident right and
and women love that you know and it's
gonna it's gonna do great for the date
it's gonna make that
first interaction much better and much
smoother so this brings us to the end of
the video i
just want to thank you again for taking
a minute to watch again if you don't
have somebody to take on a first date
um i do have that link in the
description box below
to our best dating apps page which got a
ton of resources free trials all that
good stuff to help you out
and again if you like the video thumbs
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again my name is jason with healthy
framework and thanks for spending some
time with me today
