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Helping a Child Deal w/ Low Self-Esteem | Child Anxiety



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I want to talk to you about how to help

a child with low self-esteem low

self-esteem means that the child really

isn't feeling so good about themselves

and you want to figure out a way to help

them with that now of course the impulse

as a parent is to rush in and say you're

great you're terrific

I love you somebody will everybody will

know that and just give them all those

things you do to make them feel good

from where you stand but it doesn't mean

that that's how they feel on the inside

unfortunately parents have a tough job

they're going up against a lot of things

that influence their children from pop

culture for media to their peers kids

have a lot of things influencing how

they feel about themselves and what you

want to do is help kids feel good about

themselves on the inside regardless of

all these messages that they're seeing

and hearing from the outside and it's

not easy now some kids may be just more

prone to feeling bad about themselves or

a little more insecure or a little more

anxious or worried in general and

embarrassed there's a few things that

you can always do to try and help boost

your child's self-esteem or make sure

that they have a positive self-image one

is watch your own comments about

yourself and about other people if

you're someone the that's always

competing with the next-door neighbor or

with those images in the media your

child's gonna pick up on that and think

that that's important you also don't

want to compare children one to the

other or to some standard that really

doesn't fit for them you want to help

them with thoughts that are positive so

give them ideas and ways to puff

themselves up and feel better about

themselves as opposed to negative

thoughts that they may have in their

head so talk to them about things that

they can do and say about who they are

and what they do and what makes them

special

you may want to sit down and make a list

with them and talk about why are you

kind of important and special and what

makes you the kind of friend your

friends like or what are you good at in

school or what are some of the qualities

that make you unique and have your child

be paying attention to those you want to

also put your child in situations where

they will start to feel better about

themselves and be doing things and with

people that make them feel happy make

them feel strong and confident now the

last thing is there's no question that

at some time in a child's life things

aren't gonna go their way what you want

to do is make sure that they're prepared

and can somehow withstand whatever those

difficult times are those rejecting

comments those negative experiences in

their life so that no matter what goes

on on the outside they can still feel

positive about their own qualities on

the inside make sure you expose your

child and your family to all sorts of

kinds of people so that they understand

that there's a range of people and

abilities and styles out there so that

they can understand that there's a

tolerance for difference and also at

times you're gonna have to make sure

that you're there for your child whether

they succeed or they fail so your child

can learn for themselves how to manage

both success and failure

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