A Principal’s Tips to help your kids deal with Schoolyard Bullies

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the commercial in 23 welcome back of

course pink shirt day in full effect

here on breakfast television as Cindy

said in a familiar face to us here on

the show welcome back thanks for having

me founder bully beware and of course we

are dressing the issue of bullying and

the school's what have you seen it in

the past year this movement clearly has

a terrific momentum what have you seen

with the power of pink shirt day in

schools and the message to the kids well

it's growing it continues to grow and

gain momentum I remember when we first

started pink shirt day particularly our

boys were nervous about wearing pink it

was just not a color that boys tended to

wear and that just doesn't seem to be an

issue anymore we made we did other

things pink bands or pink makeup on the

face or but now they're fully into it

they're much more comfortable with a

whole movement an idea and I think we

are seeing I'd like to believe that

we're seeing not just one pink day but

that that feeling of acceptance and

welcoming kindness and caring and

standing up for what's right because

it's the right thing to do doing what's

right when nobody's looking doing it

because it's the right thing I think

it's making a difference that is the

conversation right at the root of this

is talking to kids and teens and adults

really about doing the right thing no

matter who's watching now let's talk

about from the bullied perspective

you're feeling bullied as a small child

in elementary school what should you do

well you have to tell we have to get our

kids to report to us especially around

the social media world it's it's a

private world it's kept away from adults

and so we have to develop the kind of

relationship with our kids that they're

going to tell us or another adult that

they trust and then we need to do

something about that when they have the

courage to tell us we need to kind of

investigate because we have to be sure

it's bullying I mean regardless of what

they tell us we need to investigate but

bullying is about power and control when

someone's trying to weaken someone's

person place or feeling in within their

community or the society and we need to

take a really close look at that about

the kids that are afraid that when they

do report it's just going to get worse

yeah and that's the myth right so what

we know is in you know well over fifty

percent of the cases you know well over

fifty percent of the cases kids believe

that the situation will get worse if

they tell the first thing we need to do

is not go crazy when we find out right

so we don't want our parents streaming

and saying I want justice for my child

although you feel like that what we need

to do is work through it because what we

always want to do is point out the

behavior of the bully tell them why it's

wrong tell them what they need to do

differently and have them decide how

they can strengthen relationships rather

than break them down you know Angus Reid

just came up with this poll looking at

adults and their mindset when it comes

to bullying and two-thirds of the

respondents said they don't believe

bullying is ever going to go away what's

your take on that dealing with kids and

dealing with just basic interaction I

agree I don't think it will ever be gone

because it's part of the social

development of all of us and being about

power and control some people feel that

you know if they don't have a power in

one place they feel the need to have

power in another so I but we it's the

way we address it and the way we move

forward on it and we recognize it and we

call it what it is and then we do

something about it and all of us do

whatever it is we can do because people

operate at different levels and that's

that's going to be a kids do too and

that's got to be okay you touched on

social media I can't even imagine

growing up as a teenager in a world

where it's so instant and and like you

said a secret world that has kept away

what is the difference between the

social media bullying with boys and with

girls of that sort of puberty age the

difference I think there's not a big

difference it goes up back and forth

gender girls are targeted more obvious

small I don't know if it's obviously but

they are targeted more and tend to

report more often that somebody has disc

them disrespected them online or sent

nasty texts of them or sent nasty photos

of them so you know it's sort of

eighty-five percent of girls whereas you

know under fifty percent of boys report

that kind of thing but what I think is

going on is that kids once they're

behind the screen is it's anonymous or

it's not not anonymous you don't have to

take responsibility for your behavior

and really that's part of that

self-regulation piece and the Met social

responsibility piece you need to

responsibility hiding behind a screen

isn't going to do it so it is pervasive

it is hard to handle and we need to

build that relationship when kids get in

trouble and they're in over their head

they need to let us know you know the

word responsibility stands out about

today empowerment does as well and we've

been you know asking this if there's one

word to define what pink shirt day

represents for you what would that be

strength courage power together forward

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there bully beware com great resource

for parents thank you suni we love it

when you stop by and before we go to

break can we just can we just point out

the shoes there's some serious you get

older it Cindy knows when you come to

the BT studios you need to rock a pair

I'm getting mine out of the way oh look

at Alice are they pretty just go and

handle their you make it a great day I

will make it agree maybe we got so many