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Proven Strategies to Help Children Overcome Fears | Age-Related Fears | Why is my Child Afraid?



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is your child afraid of the dark or

maybe ghosts or monsters in the closet

or that's a child fear taking a bath or

that spider in the corner it is really

frustrating to see a child being scared

and not being able to help them overcome

this feeling in the past few years I

felt this several times as both my

daughter's have experienced different

fears as I wanted to be a real support

for them in dealing with these feelings

I started to read a lot of articles on

how to help children overcome fears

after trying several methods I

discovered some tools and strategies

that worked very good for us and I think

that could help you too if you're

struggling with the same issue fear is

common among children and can be seen as

a good thing children need to learn that

there are things to be afraid of such as

traffic on busy streets or hard stuffs

too much fear and too little fear are

both problems for them a child with too

much fear may be afraid to participate

in normal activities a child with too

little fear may take too many chances

and get hurt you may notice that some of

your children have more fears than

others children are born with different

temperaments and personalities this

means that some children are timid shy

and fearful while other children are

carefree and brave

let us now look at some of the

age-related fears and how to cope with

these fears and the age groups that we

would be looking at are infants toddlers

preschoolers school-aged kids and

adolescents fear of loud noises

typically for infants and toddlers

so why is my child afraid young children

are getting used to this world and loud

noises can start with them so how can we

cope with this fear hold them really

close and comfort them talk softly and

tell them that they are safe tell them

about what is making the noise maybe you

can let the toddlers touch a vacuum

cleaner or the other noisemaker when it

is switched off

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a quick recap on how to cope with this

fear

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fear of strangers so why is my child

afraid babies have learned what their

moms and dads look like strangers are

unfamiliar to them children don't know

if they can trust strangers so how can

we cope with this fear pick up your

children or hold their hands when they

are hesitant to meet new people

this tells them you will take care of

them talk to them about the new person

talk about a safe people in the

community a quick recap on how to cope

with this fear

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fear of bats toddlers and preschoolers

would typically have this fear so why is

my child afraid small children know that

water and soapsuds disappeared down the

drain

they might wonder if they could get

sucked down the drain too they do not

understand that they are too big and

some children just don't like water so

how to cope with this fear make sure

your children are safe be in the bathtub

or the shower talk to them and play with

them maybe make a bath fun by providing

some water toys if you're using the tub

you take the child out of the tub before

draining the water a quick recap on how

to cope with this fear

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fear of animals especially dogs usually

preschoolers would have this fear so why

is my child afraid animals are very

unpredictable in their movement dogs are

often loud and the noise can frighten

children so how to cope with this fear

pick up your child or hold their hand

when dogs are around talk about dogs

watch dogs with your children comment

about how the dog plays with other

people let your child fit a small calm

dog help an adult a quick recap on how

to cope with this fear

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fear of the dark preschoolers and

school-aged kids would have this fear

this fear takes a long time to go away

so why is my child afraid in the dark

the child's mind can create many scary

images young children often imagine

monsters all the children more often

imagine burglars so how to cope with

this fear hug your children before bed

tuck them in leave the light on in the

hallway or get a nightlight for their

room stay nearby until your child falls

asleep let children decide when they

don't need their night light anymore a

quick recap on how to cope with this

fear

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fear of ghosts or monsters largely

preschoolers and school-aged kids would

have this fear so why is my child afraid

children's minds are very active they

are still learning the difference

between what is real and what is not so

how to cope with this fear it can be

helpful to get your children a

nightlight talk with them about where

the shadows come from use your

imagination to create friendly ghosts or

funny monster such as a Daddy monster or

a mommy monster who watches over the

child and scares other monsters away a

quick recap on how to cope with this

fear

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fear of failure or rejection typically

school-aged kids and more so adolescents

would have this fear so why does my

child have this fear all the children

think a lot about how other people see

them they don't want to look stupid in

front of their friends they're figuring

out who they are and they want to look

good they also don't want to let you

down so how to cope with this fear help

your children learn that everyone makes

mistakes admit when you make a mistake

and talk about what you did encourage

your children to take appropriate risks

set reasonable expectations for them and

do not criticize your children in front

of others a quick recap on how to cope

with this fear

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fear of blood injury illness or doctors

so why is my child afraid children know

that injuries and sickness do happen

they know they can get hurt as well

blood is carry because it is related to

pain and because children at some ages

are sensitive to body fluids so how to

cope with this fear listen to your

child's fears talk to them about safety

play doctor read books about going to

the doctor or hospital have your

children watch you get a blood test done

or maybe go to the dentist a quick recap

on how to cope with this fear

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as a summary let's look at some of the

proven strategies to help children

overcome their fears even if some fears

may seem silly to us they are very real

for the child and they are affecting him

accepting the child's fear is the first

step in helping him deal with it and

overcome it it is very important to

never tell a child that he's silly when

he's afraid of something or that he

shouldn't feel scared message is like

you have nothing to be afraid of or it's

so silly of you to be scared of this

make them think that it's something

wrong with them because they feel scared

this will also prevent them from

expressing their fears in the future

also making fun of the child's fears

will only intensify their anxiety and

lower their self-esteem what is helpful

to do is to reassure the child that the

fear is normal and that they can request

a parents help anytime they feel scared

sometimes it's useful if the parents

share some of their childhood fears with

the child this could make them feel more

comfortable to share their own feelings

acceptance and love are the most

effective tools in helping a child

overcoming their fears hugging the child

every time they feel scared is a great

way to make them feel safe a gentle hug

can relieve the stress and help them

overcome the fear more easily

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talking about feelings has an incredible

healing power sometimes only being able

to name the fear and to discuss it can

really help the child feel less stressed

about it

here are three helpful tools to use in

the discussions for helping the child

deal with the fear one asking questions

about the fear to understand better what

is causing it to inviting the child to

name the fear and to say how it feels a

useful method is to ask the child where

does he feel the fear in his body in his

tummy in his feed etc this will allow

him to be more aware of his feelings and

it will help him open up about the fear

3 drawing the fear young kids may have a

difficult time to put their feelings

into words asking the child to draw the

fear is a wonderful exercise for dealing

with them play has an amazing power on

kids it can help a lot with coping fear

especially through pretend play creating

a story about a doll or a teddy that is

scared and how it manages to overcome

the fear is a very helpful tool to use

for example the fear of the doctor can

be eased if you use pretend play and you

create a hospital for the dolls letting

the child be the doctor gives her a

sense of control over the situation

projecting the fear on a toy can help

the child open up about her feelings and

enable her to express better

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fear is an irrational feeling but giving

rational explanations about the things

that scare the child could really

diminish the fear it mames strange to

fill out that King a bath scares the

child because he thinks he could get

sucked down the drain but it's important

to acknowledge that kids see things a

lot different than we do giving the

child information about the things that

scare him means enabling him to fight

the fear more easily thanks for watching

this video I hope that all this

information will be helpful to you

sometimes it's really hard to deal with

kids fears and it's very important to

know how to help them so that they will

feel safe and confident again which

strategy did you like pretend play or

draw your fear please leave a comment

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