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whenever we work with the adults in a

room and we ask them what's the number

one thing that you need for success you

know what's the one thing that comes up

every single time

people say confidence what is this

confidence and where does it come from

it comes from our childhood so when we

as adults need confidence to succeed

then children need it much much more and

they need it because they're dealing

with much more challenges at least we

are dealing with our environments but

they are dealing with their own

physiology their own development with so

much of curriculum with so much of

distraction so many things so a child's

confidence is the foundation for their

life and the way they're going to grow

in fact how a child's confidence is

built in his early childhood is the

reason why he would succeed and how he

would succeed so let's go a little bit

more into it

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now when we say confidence you know

there is a lot of mommy around it a lot

of people will come to us and say he

doesn't speak to you know when the lot

of guests coming at home he doesn't

speak to them that's got nothing to do

with confidence alone it could be the

child's personality or we think when a

child doesn't go up on stage and speak

it's about confidence there are

different kinds of personality and there

are different inclinations that children

have not going up today on stage may not

be you know the same scenario tomorrow

it is just different phases so as

parents it's not for us to link

confidence to you know what everybody

else is doing is that your child can't

do that is not about confidence let's go

a little into what exactly confidence

can be confidence is directly built to

the self-esteem of a child or the

self-image of a child when the child

looks at the mirror and say this is me

does he love himself does he like

himself does he want to work with

himself that decides confidence it is

true for us all so we look into the

mirror and you will see yourself saying

I can't do this I can't do this I'm like

this I can't be this way and that's

closely linked to your confidence so

when we understand this instead of going

into any complicated theories around

confidence I would like to make it very

very simple for you as a parent whenever

a child is dealing with some situations

you know as growing up and going into

real life and dealing with his

environment situations if he is able to

hear himself say to himself I can versus

I can't that is confidence it's the

number of I cans more or is the number

of icons more that's decides his success

and that decides the level of confidence

he has so for us is a parent it becomes

very simple if we know it is just the

you know direction is he going towards I

can or is it going towards I can't

that's all we need to work around so

confidence according to us will become

really simplified when we focus on this

one thing about making them more able

making them more confident making them

more I know out into the world to be

able to really take it in and you know

work with the challenges around that is

going to really boost their confidence

so now that we've discussed what

confidence is we could also look at

saying how is it shaped confidence is

not like a pill that we can give to the

child and it will get embedded it

actually comes from what is happening in

the environment so research proves one

of the most fundamental foundations of a

child's confidence is the parents yes

you the parents because it says that you

know what you speak and how you speak

becomes their voice as they grow up

becomes their inner voice it becomes you

know their driving factor so if you used

to say you know they don't do that don't

do it this way and maybe if they make a

mistake you you know pounce on them or

there's a you know you shout or eise

cold or you're constantly saying you

know I can't or even if you're saying it

to yourself and they have heard more of

that or the tone in which you say you

know if you're reprimanding them and the

tone is really really hard okay

then anytime they hear the sound

anywhere else also it triggers them so

what you speak and how you speak as

parents is going to become their inner

voice as they grow up so one very

important thing to look for is what are

we speaking as I said before necessarily

it is not about talking to them it is

also about what you talk amidst you want

I mean it could be the two parents

talking to each other it could be you

talking to the you know grandparents or

other relatives or neighbors whatever

you are you know speaking is what the

child is processing so it is very

important to actually self you know

reflect and look at saying what

environment are we creating for children

is it environment of confidence for

example if somebody comes home and says

okay let's go for a walk and if you are

going to respond and saying

I don't think I can go for a walk I am

not able to walk you are just replying

but the child is picking up that you

know whenever he has to walk he has to

think about whether he can walk or not

so it is very subtly getting ingrained

in the child it could be again as simple

as you know if somebody is calling you

and you're you know giving reasons on

and on about your health you would see

the child also getting up in the morning

and giving you reasons on and on so all

of this is very very interlinked so as a

parent the first thing for us is to look

at what environment we are creating what

are we saying to each other and what are

we saying to the child most important

every time that you have a conversation

with children are you leaving them

empowered yes they may not be able to do

it so a lot of parents will come and say

that yeah I mean I can't say you know I

can't encourage a child when he can't do

something very true when the child can't

do something it is to address what he

can do and also guide them or suggest

them on how he can do don't leave it and

I can't do face you know add it up with

saying how he can do for example for you

take a you know four-year-old into

playground and he can't play with the

elder boys so he would come back and say

I can't and all you need to say is you

may be able to if you learn how to play

even if you spend every day a half an

hour and learn on how to kick on how to

you know move the ball you would be able

to so you would see the child actually

trying to play with the ball and try to

learn the skill so my request is don't

stop at telling them what they can't and

what they shouldn't go forward and tell

them how they can how they would be able

to make the move happen so this is about

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