6 tips to help your children control their emotions | UCLA Healthy Living Tips

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hi I'm Catherine mogul I'm the director

of training for the UCLA Nathanson

family resilience Center I'm thinking

about emotions I think we can all

remember back to a time when we were

kids and emotions just kind of washed

over us and and took took over our

bodies and we weren't able to express it

and a parent's job is really to help

define that process and give their child

the words to be able to express and deal

with emotions the first step to this is

just labeling your own emotions as an

adult you have experiences all

throughout the day that bring up

different feelings and when you have

that just say it so if you get cut off

in traffic just say I feel frustrated

right now

the next thing you could do is label

your child's emotions as you see them

moving through their day and you see

different experiences bringing up

feelings for them say you feel

frustrated because that Lego set won't

go together the right way or positively

you feel really happy because you really

love this TV show then you wanted to

find your own coping strategies you want

to tell your child all the things you do

that help you feel better so maybe for

you that's taking three slow deep

breaths when your child sees you taking

the deep breaths then turn to them and

say I took three slow deep breaths that

labels it for them so that they learn

the name for the strategy and you also

want to support your child's coping

identify the things that you know help

your child to feel better maybe that's a

getting a hug from a parent or playing a

quick video game that you know that they

love that kind of helps them to take a

break and again label that label the

strategy for them so they know that

that's what you're doing and what you're

helping them to use and you can do all

of these strategies you can teach all

these strategies in everyday life you

can teach it through play so you can

just be the sportscaster while you while

your child is playing and label what

they're doing describe what they're

doing but make sure to take an extra

beat to pay attention to the emotions in

the play so

they say you're taking the dolls on a

walk and they look really happy to be

walking together these strategies are

really the building blocks for your

child's future success in life