Typically we see an increase in separation anxiety in toddlers between
eighteen and twenty four months. While that's a really exciting time for both
parents and toddlers because it's filled with excitement and exploration,
it can be also daunting. It's the first time they start to explore but
it's also the first time that they start to experience
that mom and dad aren't here.
It's important for parents to keep their game face on so that kids don't see
distress on their faces when it's time for transition or separation. The
longer we make that goodbye, the more difficult it is for kids to separate and
we sort of send them a message that this is a big deal and really what we want to do
is send a message that this is really normal and it's going to be okay.
Sometimes when we've been separated from our toddler we make kind of big deal
when we get back together
and it's better if we make those as casual as possible so that kids
start to see, this is normal and this is how we do it and it's ok.
Have a consistent bedtime, have a consistent
bedtime routine like reading books
bath time maybe a snack, some time in with kids just before bedtime. All those
things are very reassuring for kids and if you can keep that consistent day-to-day
it helps reassure them that everything's gonna be ok and this is just how we do it.
Usually by about age three you'll see a decrease in that initial separation
anxiety and that's usually just because of lots of repetition and lots of practice.
When the child's
worries and fears really interfere with the parents day-to-day functioning. When
it really becomes unreasonable.
to able to function as a family and for parents to do what they need to do to
raise their children and to maintain their lifestyle.
In other words, when the child's fears and worries are driving the house and
not the parents.