How to have
A Amazing Relationship
10 Tips You MUST Know For An AMAZING Relationship
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hey everyone this is stefan from
projectlifemastery.com from the lex
health and today we're gonna share with
you guys 10 relationship tips for having
an amazing relationship and these are
tips that have really helped us and
that's why we want to share them with
you yeah so let's dive right into it
tip number one is to have a vision and
goals for your relationship now I feel
this is really important because a lot
of people they're in a relationship but
they don't really have a vision that
they're moving towards they don't have
goals that together they can move
towards and be able to accomplish or be
able to manifest or create you know I
feel like oftentimes at the beginning of
a relationship people might have the
goal just to be with that partner or to
be in a relationship with them or to
maybe eventually start a family with
them but oftentimes as relationships
grow and as they go on a lot of couples
lose that vision they lose that goal and
they often you know may have their
vision for their business or vision for
their health and body but they don't
realize that their relationship is
something that you also have to have a
vision for a vision in the sense of
having a picture in your mind of how
great or how amazing it can be and when
you have that that's what you're gonna
put the work in for so that you can both
both grow together evolve each other
help serve each other so that you can
create an amazing family life more love
more passion more adventure maybe it's
traveling the world together maybe it's
to contribute together in meaningful
ways and just really have that that
strong communication that foundation I
think it really all starts with having
that vision those goals that you're
moving towards absolutely and it's it's
so important that you're aligned in that
realm because it's one thing for you
know one partner to have the vision for
their relationship with you and then you
would have a different vision for your
relationship with them but it's
important that you're aligned so you
know if one partner wants to have kids
and the other person doesn't want to
have kids well they're not aligned with
their vision for their relationships so
we recommend just you know sitting down
together having no distractions maybe an
hour of your day and just listening to
the other person coming up with ideas
together
just writing down a real vision for your
relationship and then goals maybe for
that year of things that you want to do
or activities that you want to do
together mm-hmm and we actually we have
a journal relationship journal or we
have this written down and every month
or so we go through this and we reflect
on our vision and we just remind
ourselves what we want to create
long-term this vision is 10 years 20
years even 30 years oh we're thinking
that far ahead and then planning out the
goals you know when we ever we plan out
the year we make sure that our goals are
in alignment so you know travel goals
contribution goals self development
goals
health goals so that we're both moving
in the same direction doing the same
similar things because otherwise like
she said if one person wants to you know
travel the world the other person
doesn't then that's gonna be a conflict
and it's very important to make sure you
discuss that ahead of time in advance
you're on the same page in your
relationship moving in that same
direction supporting each other along
the way in order to make that happen
yeah absolutely and this brings us to
tip number two which is growing together
so by setting these goals and having
this vision together you really set
yourself up for an amazing future of
growth in the relationship so you know
we go to a lot of seminars and a lot of
events different kinds not just business
but most of those things when possible
we do them together and we do it because
we're both gonna benefit from the
content but we're also both gonna grow
you know sometimes you might have
experienced this where you go to an
amazing seminar and then you come home
and you're excited to tell your partner
but you can't really explain the depth
of what happened you know it's hard to
explain something you have to experience
it so for example Tony Robbins events
that we go to it's it's nice because we
don't even have to explain that we get
it we've been there we've experienced it
together we've grown so much so we
really put an emphasis on just growing
together in whatever way possible yeah
and you're either gonna grow together
are you gonna grow apart and an
important a lot of relationships a lot
of couples they grow apart you know if
one person is going off they're into
self-development and they're going to
seminars they're learning they're
growing and they're accelerating their
life like this but then the other part
is not into that they're not into
self-development they're not into
growing they're not coming to you to the
events or pushing their comfort zone and
then they may stay stagnant you know
they might feel like they're getting
left behind order they might be going in
a totally different direction as you are
and often times over several years you
might find yourself in a totally
different direction in that person and I
think growing together not just self
development but every aspect of life you
know we try to make sure that we're
growing together with health you know
we're both super into health we're
learning about it trying to become
healthier more fit more alive and we're
able to grow together in that direction
versus if you might be with your partner
where you know you're really into health
and fitness but they're not then what's
gonna happen you're gonna feel like
they're holding you back
or they're gonna feel like you know
they're you're going in a different
direction than they are and again that
can be the beginning of the end so
making sure that you're growing together
and you're also investing in your
partner you know invest in their growth
invest in their journey so that they can
be at their best and then they're gonna
do the same thing for you and then
that's that way you're both at your
absolute best in life and you're on the
same page and you're gonna be able to
manifest that vision that you have and
you know having said that that can bring
us to tip number three which is
unconditional giving and love and you
know investing your partner might be
something that's a little bit hard for
you to do in the beginning you might
have some barriers with that but really
to have an amazing relationship you just
have to give that unconditional love in
whatever form that might be for us we're
always giving each other love we never
hold back we never deny each other of
anything and knowing how to give that
person that unconditional love is very
important as well
yeah and that requires you just having
the courage to give and just be
vulnerable and love that person no
matter what so there might be times in
your relationship where you feel
insecure you feel afraid you feel
vulnerable you feel you know a little
bit selfish at times or maybe you're not
you know you're upset with your other
part your partner that you're with and
you want to punish them or hold back and
withhold your love and anytime that you
withhold your love you with whole
old you've giving unconditionally then
you're hurting the relationship you're
actually hurting the whole cause and and
what you guys are in this for and so in
a relationship you have to be more
mature even at times more spiritually
mature where even though they might not
deserve it even if you're upset even if
it's unfair even if they're trying to
hurt you even if they're reacting
they're stressed whatever it might be
you have to make sure that you remove
yourself and you focus on serving your
partner just loving unconditionally and
meeting their needs and that requires
you to understand what their needs are
and meet what their needs are not your
needs because sometimes we give what we
think you know what we want but your
partner might have a totally different
needs that need to be met that requires
you to get outside yourself and focus on
you know what does she really need for
me you know how can I love her how can I
support her how can I give to her
unconditionally and and it requires
effort requires work it requires a new
standard but it's that standard of both
people giving unconditionally to one
another that's really gonna create an
amazing relationship and I mean for men
and women but I can definitely speak for
a woman sometimes when you withhold love
there can be a sense of power to that
and really that power stems from
insecurity and it's really you you need
to understand that that is the worst
thing that you can do for your
relationship in the moment it might feel
like this is the only way to protect
yourself as a defensive mechanism but
really withholding love in any form is
really such a disturbance to a healthy
relationship so we make sure to never do
that and if it does happen at some point
in time we openly communicate that which
brings us to point number four is
communication it's such a simple term
such a simple concept but so many
couples have such challenges with
communicating healthly in their
relationship it becomes such a problem
because one partner might not feel the
open space to freely communicate their
emotions and feelings but how does that
happen how can you know people being an
amazing relationship but one person
feels afraid to communicate something
to their partner how does it get to that
point yeah I think a big part of its
fear you know a lot of people they're
afraid to really express themselves
because sometimes if you might
something's bothering you
you know maybe something that your
partner did or said is bothering you or
affecting you or you might have a
different vision and they me up they
might have and in order to just to
please that person sometimes you might
not bring that up you might not want to
offend them you might not want to be
able to cause any friction in
relationship but what happens is when
you don't communicate that then it
builds and it can often build resentment
within yourself and eventually gets to
that point where you just explode on the
person it comes out of nowhere because
it's been building up whereas if you
have open honest communication from the
start and you express it and and they're
being fair to your partner as well and
it's gonna help you be able to have
actually have a discussion of
communication about that and resolve
things and just make sure that things
don't get worse than what they need to
be it's much easier to deal with a
problem when it's small versus when it's
when it's a lot bigger and unfortunately
that's what happens and a lot of
relationships is the problems grow they
big they don't even talk about or
discuss you know a lot of these things
that are very important and one thing
that's helped us is having a system for
communication so every week or every
month actually having a ritual that we
have to actually check in on the
relationship just like you might with a
business goal you know in business
you've got goals and you do a regular
check in with your team you can
communicate you discuss your resolve
things doing the same thing in a
relationship where you check in and just
find out how their needs are being met
or what challenges or problems or how
can we grow our relationship and having
that open communication so that you can
proactively move towards our vision in
the direction that you want to go and
have that amazing relationship but also
address anything that might have come up
anything that might be bothering you
know the other person if you regularly
do that on a weekly or monthly basis
then you know you'll ensure that there's
open and clear and honest communication
in your relationship and it's not going
to get to that point where it's you know
something happens
nowhere where things get bad or
uncomfortable whatever it might be yeah
so let's break that down just real
quickly for them we mentioned our
relationship Journal this is this is how
we create that space so maybe throughout
the week you're not really feeling in
that safe space to openly communicate
about something that's really heavy on
your heart but if you're dedicating one
hour per week and you have it in your
calendar both you and your partner or
maybe it's once per month and in that
moment in that timeframe you're able to
then have an open discussion about
whatever it is that's been bothering you
that week and just really open the space
so that there's no judgment there's no
criticism and what we also do is
something that might help you is dyads
so diods is a great way that we learn
that's really enhanced a relationship
where one person speaking and the other
person does not respond we have another
video on this that goes more into depth
maybe we could create a new one
but basically the dyads allow for that
open communication without any reaction
really from the partner and sometimes we
don't communicate because we're afraid
of that reaction yeah so that's a that's
a great tip for you guys look at more
into dyads because it's definitely gonna
help ya Nick the key to that is not you
know when you give your partner that
space to express or share your job isn't
to debate or argue or have your opinion
that's irrelevant all you're gonna do is
just let them speak let them share and
just thank them for that
you know give them that that that space
to be able to communicate without you
reacting in whatever type of way and
you're giving them that space and then
they give you that space as well and
it's a very effective way because your
job when they're sharing and they're
opening themselves is not again to judge
or yell or argue or say you're right or
you're wrong it's just to love them and
support them and focus on what they
really need and just serving them the
best way that you can and kind of leads
to the next point that I want to throw
into the next tip that we got for you
guys is to really know your partner's
intent and to really trust that fully
because in order to have a really great
relationship there's gonna be times
thread relationship where your partner's
stressed or they're going through a
tough time
and often you know when you're stressed
or tired or whatever it is you might be
going through you might react in certain
ways you know your partner get up might
get upset with you or snap and say
something negative or say something mean
you might be hurt by that and it's
really important to understand and know
and trust your partner's intent fully
you know I know that no matter what
tatianna does I know her intent is pure
she's amazing she's honest she's loving
I know who she really is okay I've
decided on that a long time ago so no
matter what she does I'm gonna always
know her intent and love her
unconditionally you know it might come
up in certain behavior where she's
stressed and reacts a certain way but I
know that her behavior is not really who
she is that's just a manifestation of
the stress that she might be going
through or you know an insecurity or a
fear or who knows what that is so when
you really know and trust their intent
that allows you to understand that no
matter what's going on I'm gonna still
continue to love this person I know
their soul I know their spirit you know
that we're you know we're gonna be
together we love each other and when you
know that you trust that that gives you
a sense of certainty and confidence in
your relationship that no matter what
goes on you're gonna still love this
person no matter what yeah absolutely
and we follow this 100% so I mean by no
means is any relationship perfect and
neither as ours but by knowing that we
come from pure hearts and we both love
each other so much and we have a great
and honest intention for each other no
matter what happens we know that it's
okay it's it's not what's happening in
the moment it's like okay we understand
that you might react a certain way to
whatever is going on in your life but we
know that your intent is good so if I
for example you know feel very offended
by a way that he spoke to me because I
know his intentions pure I might say
okay right now he's not in the mindset
to be having a discussion about this
with me but maybe at the end of the day
we can talk about it and then we can
have that open discussion because I know
his intent is pure it allows for that
open discussion so everything kind of
flows together and that's why it's
really
to kind of that's why these tips are on
this video because we feel like
everything is so valuable in our
relationship for sure so we've got five
more tips for you guys but we actually
decided to break this video up and do a
bit of a collaboration so in order to
follow the five additional tips that we
have I'm gonna link to the second part
of this video that's gonna be on the lux
health YouTube channel so that find our
remaining five tips click on the link
head on over to Lux health and you can
watch the remaining five tips don't miss
it there gonna be some Hot Tips there so
head over there right now awesome thanks
for watching we'll see you in the next
video
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