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A 50 Shades Of Grey Relationship
A Dominant Reviews 50 Shades Of Grey
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happy Friday everybody welcome back I'm
gonna do something special today I'm
gonna review Fifty Shades of Grey I know
I know
trust me I know I had to watch it again
tonight my eyes aren't bleeding right
now just kidding I had to watch it again
tonight because that movie came out in
2015 and I don't remember a whole lot
about it other than you know some of the
key points that are important there's a
lot of unsure 'ti right now with what is
fair use and what is not fair use and so
I am going to err on the side of caution
here and not be able to show the clips
from the movie I know in reviews you
should be able to do it but
unfortunately there's been circumstances
where people got copy strikes because of
it so I don't want to have to only say
good things so that they don't take it
down I would rather just tell you
exactly what a domme in the real world
thinks of this movie and its portrayal
of DOM and a submissive it's yeah I'll
start from the beginning
so the beginning member when he walks
into the hardware store where she works
and the you asks are for cable ties
masking tape which that's not masking
tape that's called duct tape but I don't
know somebody needs to tell them what
masking tape is and and then rope and
you know and he you know all the nuances
about it and everything I thought it was
cute i digged it that was cool i totally
would do something like that i think
maybe i don't know don't know a lot of i
can't imagine myself in that situation
but if I was who knows maybe I would be
like totally like that too because it's
cute but let's go skip past that though
and let's go to the very first time
which is not long after that where he
shows her his red room yeah yeah I think
we all would agree at least everybody
who's into the lifestyle
whoever in the movie was in charge of
set design or whatever they did a great
job the Red Room is the dream room and
everybody would want something like that
I totally would love something like that
unfortunately I have to deal with just
having a church I do okay and then he
goes on to show her her the bedroom that
she would stay in if she was okay with
her gonna agreement with him and and
they you know she would stay in that
room from Friday to Sunday and that they
would not be sleeping together it's
actually not uncommon to have that
happen that they're like no overnight
you know we can do things together and
everything else but I'm not going to be
sleeping in the same bed as you really
isn't that unusual I've heard of it in
several instances I even had a princess
room here for me and my ex she had her
own space also maybe I snored too much
or something whatever but if for any
reason she wanted her own space or
whatever she had her own room as well
although we pretty much always still
slept in the same bed that was always an
option for her and I kept that as an
open thing for her but a little bit
different in this way where that was a
strict protocol thing that he just does
not allow people to sleep within the
same bed as him but anyway that this is
where the big part is where she explains
that she's a virgin right like nobody
believes that like that's crazy it could
happen
sure it could happen I don't know after
she saw the Red Room and everything else
the chances of a virgin being okay with
that maybe I maybe not I don't know but
let's just say I don't meet a lot of
people that are virgins in the lifestyle
I get it she wasn't in the lifestyle but
I don't know any virgins so I can't talk
to that honestly so let's just leave it
at that so then they go from that first
time where they just have sex he's like
oh you're a virgin oh I'll just
take that and we'll just get that out of
the way and you won't be a virgin
anymore
great so the next two times though all
he does is just tire wrists with a tie
like a necktie right and that's it
that's all he ever does you know he does
tell her kind of he kind of insinuates
that he's into something else and he
shows or the Red Room and stuff but he's
not really showing her or explaining
like or even asking like I do are you
okay with pain do you like pain are
there's just enough very good
communication in this and you know
obviously it would have saved him a lot
of time and grief right from the
beginning if he asked these things
because he would find out very quickly
she was not gonna be down with anything
that he wanted to do work technically if
you believe the movie needed to do yeah
but so the next stage anyway they go and
do that contract the contract is it's
just negotiation essentially but you can
do it in writing it a lot of people do
it especially in their case which was
supposed to be an agreement that Monday
to Friday we do our own thing and
Saturday Friday to Sunday you come to my
place you stay there and this is what
you're gonna do and this is you're gonna
serve me and all this they have it they
have it almost like a negotiated
business deal almost and so a contract
isn't unusual but it doesn't have to be
and it's not a norm a lot of people just
negotiate this talk and they just
because even if you have a contract
something you can't call read and you
can't stop something or you can say I
don't want to do that anymore just
because you put it in the contract
saying you willing to do it doesn't mean
you can't stop not doing it so not
everybody doesn't but it does help
because it does is forces you to sit
down and go over every detail and not
skip over or forget something to talk
about so I guess you know that that's
helpful and and that's before he's
willing to do anything other than of
course tire wrist was this contract and
so he finally now that the contract is
oh no the contracts are officially done
but they negotiated quite a bit and but
he puts her over his
and gave her three Spanx and three yeah
and she was like totally out of breath
afterwards like wow I don't know I don't
know I'm a little bit better than
reading it reading a girl than maybe him
because to me that's not somebody's
probably gonna be down with it any more
than that but I digress he apparently
didn't know that then you know so
finally they do the contract and he
finally they're gonna do the Red Room
for real and this one you know he puts
the restraints on her well actually no
first he starts with the protocol so he
explains and this is great and I love
this part and you know this makes it
exciting and makes it fun that gives
anticipation and he tells her you know I
want you naked I want you in kneeling
and waiting and this is how I want you
have your hair you know that's all
wonderful I really love that that's
that's fantastic
and so we explain to all his protocol
that he will requires and then of course
he goes out and comes back and he
restrains her arms and then he gets a
crop and he just you know has it dance
along her skin and slaps her on the hand
with it and proceeds to do a little bit
more of that but essentially that's it
and they have sex and moving on so again
nothing really all that serious at that
point so I'm still you know why don't
when you're watching this I'm still like
when when is this all gonna start and
you know she's already showing signs
that she's not down with most of this
stuff you know obviously when it's just
sex or just sex with maybe just tying
her wrist she's okay with that and she
seems fine but anything past that she
doesn't seem very down with it and you
know it makes me you know worried you
know this is sending a bad signal and
they don't think it should right and
here's the truly bad part comes right
after that and that is where they're
laying down together any
explaining how why he's broken that he
is broken and that he needs this because
he's broken and that it's because his
crack heroin addicted mother who was a
prostitute who he saw untold things as a
small child and until she passed away at
four and because of that he's broken and
therefore he needs this you know like
he's got those cigarette burns on his
chest and you know we and you know I I
just hate to see this kind of stuff
because that that's not not of course
it's not impossible and it could happen
or whatever but it's portraying this is
because he's broken it's not because
it's exciting and not because it's fun
and and adds some entertainment value or
not even attainment
add some excitement to the bedroom and
excitement to your life and gives
structure and all the things that people
love it for no no no it's because
somebody's broken and because they were
abused and you know in never mind that
he was adopted by a very wealthy family
immediately after for his whole life
raised with everything and anything and
a loving family and all this stuff and
yeah then there of course there's that
lady in his life when he's like fifteen
and everything and again like they have
to keep saying that that's not in the
first maybe so I'm just gonna leave that
part out but I don't like how they
portray that it's all because of abuse
that it's only because he's broken that
it's because you know they're portraying
it is a bad thing and even though if you
were just to go based on the face value
of the movie they haven't really done
anything really all that serious so what
you know at that point I don't get it
it's the next time they're in the
playroom she's got the red rope around
her wrists tied up to the bed her back
is arched it's super sexy and and he's
got the flogger and he's just running it
down her skin all over and she's loving
it and then yeah he does you know give
her some swamp right and as you can tell
like this is super soft many submissives
call this a massage for a reason like
ridiculously soft it isn't it's not a
painful even if you you want you're
gonna hit that hard like it really isn't
anything but you know yeah I just don't
even know because she comes out of that
even though it seems like you know that
they're they have like wild erotic sex
and all that and yes seems like three
times that maybe it was for that he had
her on that and again big pauses in
between there's no yellow stop no
anything no red no nothing nothing so
and then to have her come out and just
say why do you want to hurt me like this
and why do you need to do this to me and
you know this upset sort of thing again
and it's like what what
so and then and then immediately after
that they go into this hole
well it's because of my past and you
know he's broken and you know he's
really sorry and he doesn't want to be
like this and he wishes he wasn't like
this again they portray it is such a
terrible thing instead of something
which it really is which is super
beautiful and a great connection between
two people and you know like the fact
that you have a dominant personality and
a submissive personality and they can do
so much more together as one as instead
of two separate people because you know
especially the Smiths a person they need
somebody strong in their life that's
what they look for and and that will you
know look out for their best interests
and they can they can do so much
together as one and I just hate to see
it being portrayed this way like it's
not this big negative way it's super
consensual and it's you know everybody
is so great in the community and we have
such a great time and and we have so
many safeguards that don't exist in the
vanilla world vanilla dating do not have
our safeguards this is much safer than
the things that can happen in a bedroom
with somebody that is not part of any
type of lifestyle anyhow then they move
into the final big scene I guess and
that is the spanking with the belt so
she's you know after he's telling her
about this is and I'm broken this is
what I need and everything and she's
like well I want to give you what you
need so I want you to just show me show
me show me it don't hold back just show
me and he's like are you sure and you
know she literally is begging him to do
it I wanted to do it and so he's like
okay and he gets her to bend over use
the belt and he's hitting her and it's
not like he's doing like crazy
whatever but still it's a battle team
owned belt is is gonna be a bit more
than a hand or something like that and
and he gives her six she and she counts
so they're quite quite a bit of pause
between and and he has her count and she
says one and two and she's not screaming
she's not anything and she's certainly
not telling him yellow not
you read all the things he's asked it in
the movie
what are your safewords he says it to
her and she says what they are and he's
like okay make sure he used them and and
of course he never does and then after
that is done she gets so mad and she's
she makes him feel so guilty and how
dare you do this and this is what you
need you horrible look basically saying
you horrible beast of a person and and
leaves and doesn't want anything to do
with him anymore and then he goes on to
be sad and everything and you know again
it's not supposed to be a bad thing it's
not supposed to be a negative thing it's
must be consensual it's supposed to be
exciting for both parties honestly it's
probably in my opinion from all the
girls that I know I think they even get
more out of it because they get a lot
more pleasure and in their vanilla sex
they find that the male partners are a
lot more selfish and it's more about
them and in this lifestyle it's quite a
bit the opposite where there's a lot of
tension spent on them they get a whole
scene and then they usually could you
know not doesn't have to be but could
have been you know also get full-on sex
and maybe many more orgasms and
different kinds of play that involved
like orgasm control and toys and all
kinds of stuff not boring
vanilla dating so my opinion I like some
of the parts of the movie I thought some
of its great I loved the Red Room but I
think it doesn't actually even portray
much BDSM other than showing us what a
Red Room looks like and again how it's
supposed to be from mainstream media so
obviously they couldn't show everything
in the lifestyle but I think they can do
a little bit more than just tie up her
hands and you you could always do things
in a way where you know you don't have
to show it but you can see he grabs it
and that's what he you know and then you
don't have to show the act itself I
think they could have done more to maybe
explain the rest of the lifestyle if
they had done the research they would
have found out
like how does this missive gain it's not
just a one-sided thing where you know I
get to be you the end or in their case
was everything as the end goal is only
to [ __ ] you like the end goal is only to
have sex with you like that that isn't a
true portrayal of the whole lifestyle as
a whole and I wish I did a better job on
it and I thought they would have it
could have done better research and
things like that and the books actually
have more than what's in the movie so
again it might have been just because
the studio is like oh no that's too
risky that's too risky that's too risky
but I don't know I know either way I
like some of the stuff that they showed
it was really cool I wish I had some of
that stuff so it was cute but for the
most part it portrays us poorly it it
says it's a negative thing that it's
based on people that have been abused
only is the only reason they want it
this girl really wasn't into it and it
should never have been with her there
are lots of people out there that would
have been totally down with it and I had
what enjoyed it and it would have made
this movie different I get it that's not
the point of the movie I guess I don't
know so I don't know what do I give it a
to give you stars like what am I
supposed to use do a two ball gags out
of five is that even maybe someone
should you give it one so all in all I
give this movie let's say a one gag out
of five is that fair I think so that's
what you get for portraying our
lifestyle as a terrible thing
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