00:38 you did nothing wrong for this to happen
00:40 to you because
00:42 it's just crazy so the background story
00:44 behind it back in december
00:46 of 2020 i started feeling like this
00:49 stinging
00:49 pain when i would wipe down there and
00:51 like i didn't really know what it was or
00:53 like you know i didn't inspect it
00:55 you know so i didn't even feel like i
00:59 needed to go to the doctor either
01:00 because i'm like they're gonna give me
01:01 medication i don't want medication i'm
01:02 just gonna deal with it whatever
01:04 i carried on with my life going to the
01:06 gym you know doing my normal things and
01:08 i felt like a little bump hmm wonder
01:11 what this bump is still not going to go
01:12 to the doctor so i still didn't go
01:14 i just dealt with it two weeks went by
01:16 it was getting a little bigger but i'm
01:18 like you know what
01:18 it's okay we're fine i'm still going to
01:21 the gym like life hasn't changed for me
01:23 three weeks in with this thing it
01:25 started hurting significantly like i was
01:27 literally walking like this
01:29 i couldn't go to the gym i was like i've
01:30 had it i can't go to the gym i can't
01:32 walk and it hurts for me to sleep i need
01:34 to like fold up a blanket and put it in
01:36 between my legs because it hurt that
01:38 much to sleep like i couldn't close my
01:40 legs properly
01:41 and i couldn't even wipe properly
01:42 anymore i literally had to like pat
01:44 to wipe it was really bad i tried this
01:48 this is really funny i tried this
01:51 turmeric a coconut oil paste that i read
01:54 online someone tried any work for them
01:55 so i was like okay i'm going to try it i
01:57 tried it
01:59 not a good idea do not do that it's just
02:01 it's messy you know
02:03 you wake up with stains yellow stains
02:05 down there on your skin
02:07 not worth it so then that same day i was
02:09 like i'm just gonna go to the doctor i'm
02:10 gonna go to the doctor
02:11 i don't care if i have tumeric stains
02:13 all over i'm just gonna go it was a
02:15 weekend it was a saturday for some
02:16 reason that clinic like even if you make
02:18 an appointment there's no point in
02:19 making an appointment because it's just
02:21 first come first serve so i don't even
02:22 know why they offer appointments so i
02:24 walked in 10 30 a.m
02:25 excruciating pain i can't sit properly i
02:27 have to like sit to the side and stuff
02:29 like that
02:30 yeah i couldn't i could barely walk i
02:31 had to take a cab there
02:33 it was it was really bad and i was
02:34 really pissed off because
02:36 i knew i was gonna have to wait like
02:37 i've been to that clinic before yeah
02:39 two hours in i'm still waiting they
02:42 still haven't checked for my vitals i'm
02:44 like
02:44 oh my god okay whatever by 2 30 p.m
02:48 i've kind of had it so i went to the
02:50 receptionist and i'm like hey i'm in
02:51 pain
02:52 i'm in a lot of pain i need help like
02:53 right now and she's like
02:56 i'm like okay finally that
02:59 me complaining kind of helped them move
03:01 faster because i went to get my vitals
03:02 checked
03:03 then two hours later 4 30 comes along
03:06 and i finally see the doctor and i'm
03:09 like praise the lord like thank god
03:12 violence is a doctor and she's like oh
03:15 you have a cyst
03:16 it's an abscess now though and i'm like
03:18 oh okay
03:20 okay i just need help whatever it is
03:22 just please help me and then she starts
03:24 asking me she's like
03:25 do you eat sugary foods i'm like no
03:27 she's like do you use
03:28 any scented feminine products i'm like
03:30 no do you wax or shave often and i'm
03:32 like not really
03:33 like you know not that much she's like
03:35 do you use like scented douching
03:37 products i'm like no
03:39 i don't do that and it's funny because
03:41 like two years ago i used to do
03:43 all of that stuff it wouldn't make sense
03:45 for that's happened to me two years ago
03:46 like i would eat more sugary
03:48 um foods cheese danishes like so many
03:51 other things
03:52 and also i was so stressed back then
03:54 when i was doing all that other stuff
03:56 i'm like
03:56 it would have totally made sense for
03:58 this to happen to me back then
04:00 so i was telling her no no no like i
04:02 don't do any of that stuff she's like oh
04:04 okay i'm like yeah so she couldn't tell
04:06 me the reason this happened to me
04:08 which is even more frustrating because
04:10 it's kind of like i have this thing
04:12 that don't know how it happened don't
04:14 know why i have it you know what i mean
04:16 like when you can't find a reason for
04:18 certain things happening to you you just
04:19 feel even more lost
04:22 and then the doctor is like oh i'm gonna
04:24 get a meal doctor to come
04:26 and confirm that it's an abscess the
04:28 dude comes in
04:29 i'm like you know what i'm in pain i'm
04:31 not even embarrassed because it's
04:32 probably like the 100th
04:34 thing he's seen you know what i mean so
04:36 like whatever
04:37 this dude freaking squeezes it and i'm
04:40 like ow
04:42 and then the doctor is like she's in
04:44 pain you know what i'm like yeah
04:46 it hurts so annoying so annoying
04:49 whatever though all the doctor told me
04:51 was you know get some steam give it some
04:52 heat she did not prepare me properly and
04:55 i feel a little upset that you know
04:57 there wasn't enough preparation given to
04:58 me because i kind of had to figure
05:00 everything out myself
05:01 and no one prepared me for the pain
05:04 i would go through that night i i swear
05:07 like it was
05:08 crazy and she also did not tell me that
05:11 it was a barthold and says
05:12 all she said was it was a cyst that's
05:14 now an abscess i'm like okay
05:15 didn't even give her the name i figured
05:17 out was a bartholomes by you know google
05:19 and youtube
05:20 so later on that night i can't take it
05:22 anymore like
05:24 i just start bawling out crying because
05:26 the pain is so bad i literally cannot do
05:29 anything i can't walk anywhere like
05:31 i just can't do anything so i'm so i'm
05:33 balling my eyes out
05:34 you know i've just seen so many videos
05:36 of women saying they got surgery
05:38 they got their bartholin glad removed
05:41 and when you do that
05:42 you basically take away the gland that
05:46 makes that makes down their moist like
05:50 crazy i was so sad i'm like my life is
05:53 over
05:54 i'm never gonna be able to have a proper
05:56 job anymore because i have this thing
05:57 that's gonna happen
05:59 five times in a row like these women
06:00 were saying some women say they
06:03 they get it like all the time like it
06:05 never goes away so i really thought my
06:07 life was over
06:08 you know yeah i really did
06:11 i'm like i'm never gonna be able to go
06:13 to the gym i'm never gonna be able to
06:14 ride i'm never gonna be able to do
06:15 anything that i enjoy anymore
06:17 because of this thing like okay i
06:19 googled what the bath is the sitz bath
06:21 is what it's called
06:22 i ended up using some bucket i had
06:23 whatever boiling the water
06:25 so i do about two sitz baths and after
06:27 that it just popped
06:29 and i'm telling you i felt immediate
06:31 relief that same night i order a proper
06:34 stitch bath
06:35 and then i order print this little thing
06:37 here i ordered it because it's a
06:39 draining solve
06:40 so you know you put that down there and
06:42 it's supposed to help the
06:44 abscess drain better so you know pain is
06:46 gone
06:47 feeling great i'm so happy now i'm like
06:50 okay cool
06:50 well let's figure out how this thing can
06:52 ever come back
06:54 a week later
06:57 it comes back then i got so sad again i
07:01 honestly questioning my whole life again
07:03 but i did do the sitz bath
07:05 and it really helped so much like at
07:07 first it gets really swollen
07:08 but then it goes down and it feels so
07:10 much better and
07:11 i kept asking around other women like
07:14 have you gone through this have you gone
07:15 through this and my aunt says she does
07:17 get it
07:18 and um she gets it like every year but
07:21 she like pops it herself with a needle
07:22 which is
07:24 insane i don't know how she does that
07:26 but i was that i definitely did not do
07:28 that
07:28 i was like i'm not doing that like
07:30 that's crazy i started really
07:32 researching like okay what can i really
07:34 do
07:34 for this not to come back again and then
07:36 i thought back to the tumeric paste i
07:38 was like okay turmeric
07:39 why are they using turmeric so then i
07:41 started reading that turmeric is an
07:43 anti-inflammatory
07:44 so i started taking turmeric and i'm
07:45 telling you
07:48 this thing has not come back for about
07:52 for about two months already and i am so
07:55 happy like turmeric has really saved my
07:58 life like
07:59 i'd be getting this thing again and
08:02 again and again and again
08:03 this is the one i take this one here
08:06 it's
08:07 gnc brand so i was taking one and then
08:10 i felt the stinging pain so i had a
08:12 feeling it was coming back so then i
08:13 started taking two
08:15 even better honestly like it really
08:17 helps me so much and i'm gonna take this
08:19 for the rest of my life
08:20 because i know it's never gonna come
08:22 back if i keep taking tumeric
08:24 you really want to make sure the
08:25 turmeric you get has pepper
08:27 in it so the active ingredient in
08:29 turmeric is curcumin
08:31 and your body has a difficult time
08:33 absorbing it but paired with pepperon
08:35 it's like magic so so really make sure
08:38 the turmeric you're getting has prepared
08:40 in it because it's gonna work
08:41 a million times better for you and to
08:43 know that you are not alone there's so
08:45 many women that
08:46 go through this and do not speak of it
08:48 because it's such a like
08:51 it's kind of like looked down upon for
08:52 some reason you know having this problem
08:54 that
08:55 you don't even know why it happened so
08:57 don't feel ashamed
08:58 seek help do your research i'm so happy
09:00 that i was looking into this because the
09:02 doctors didn't tell me about taking
09:04 tumeric or
09:05 doing all these other things sometimes
09:06 you really have to take your health into
09:08 your own hands
09:09 and and they told me to go back and do a
09:12 checkup with them but i didn't because
09:13 i'm like
09:14 i literally spent six hours in that
09:16 clinic that day that's a literal shift
09:18 i'm not i'm not gonna go back to that
09:21 clinic
09:22 i mean i'll go back for other reasons
09:23 but like for
09:25 this i'm not gonna go back like i think
09:27 so far i have it under control i'll make
09:29 another video
09:30 if it pops up again but i kind of doubt
09:32 it at this point
09:33 but you know let's pray it doesn't
09:36 happen again
09:36 i also changed a few other things that
09:38 were going on so
09:40 before i used to train without any
09:42 underwear on i know a lot of women do
09:44 this too like
09:45 it's just more comfortable not wearing
09:46 the underwear like you can move easier
09:49 but if you really think about it
09:51 sometimes you sit on the floor and you
09:53 know you're using all the machines in
09:54 the gym you're sitting on those machines
09:56 and
09:57 no matter how squat proof no matter how
09:59 thick your leggings are
10:01 they're still pretty thin it's kind of
10:02 like not wearing an underwear with jeans
10:04 on it's like
10:06 i mean i don't i don't do that i don't
10:08 know that
10:09 but i've heard some people do that so i
10:11 started wearing underwear now and i feel
10:13 like that really helps me like i just
10:15 feel
10:15 cleaner that way like knowing that i had
10:17 that extra protective barrier to help me
10:19 from bacteria
10:20 i also take frequent showers so i take
10:22 about two to three showers in the day
10:25 and i notice if i don't shower it gets
10:27 really irritated down there so
10:30 make sure you're taking frequent showers
10:32 and i also started
10:34 putting my bar soap in its own separate
10:36 container so i put my bar soap in this
10:38 container and i do
10:39 not share my soap with anybody like i'm
10:42 really trying to prevent
10:43 any bacteria from reaching anywhere you
10:45 know what i mean i've also been trying
10:47 to really look into my diet like what
10:49 processed foods am i eating
10:51 and although i do eat a mainly
10:53 vegetarian diet
10:54 like i really had to take a deep dive
10:56 into what i was eating i was really
10:58 shocked that it could be diet but you
11:00 know i was like whatever i'm gonna be
11:01 open-minded about this you know i don't
11:03 know why this happens
11:04 i'm just gonna do like as much research
11:06 and be as as
11:07 open-minded as i can possibly be to get
11:09 the help that i need
11:10 the main processed food that i would eat
11:12 like all the time was white rice
11:14 white rice is so refined and so
11:16 processed i would eat it every day
11:18 probably like twice a day so i started
11:21 cutting back on that
11:23 and rice can cause inflammation you know
11:25 it's a processed refined food
11:27 white bread ciabatta bread my favorite
11:30 can cause inflammation so i've been
11:32 really trying to cut back on all that
11:33 stuff even though i really do love it
11:35 but you know
11:36 for the sake of my pain for the sake of
11:41 living a better life i've been trying to
11:42 cut back on it and i really don't know
11:44 if all these things are the root cause
11:46 of the bartholin cyst but you know
11:49 there's no real reason
11:51 for the bartholin cysts like there's no
11:53 research that shows
11:54 this is the cause no one can say no one
11:57 knows why
11:58 the bartholomes even happens the doctors
12:01 can't explain it to me
12:02 no one knows why and in women's health
12:04 like it's such a like mysterious thing
12:07 like there's not a lot of research on
12:09 anything and like
12:10 it's really frustrating you know because
12:12 you'll be like why me
12:14 you know why women but
12:17 we can't think like that we can't think
12:18 like that this is preventable
12:20 we're gonna take care of this like you
12:22 know we figure it out together i know a
12:24 lot of women suffer in silence about
12:26 this
12:26 and um i didn't even want to tell
12:28 anybody that i had this because i did
12:30 feel really ashamed but
12:31 i really just want to help other women
12:33 know that you're not alone
12:35 you're not dirty you're not gross don't
12:37 let anyone judge you for this
12:39 it's something that happens no one knows
12:42 why
12:43 you know it's not your fault it's kind
12:44 of like a similar thing with utis
12:46 there's
12:46 so many reasons why you could probably
12:48 get a uti it's really frustrating so you
12:50 know
12:51 take a deep breath you're going to get
12:53 over this you're not alone
12:55 so many women don't speak of this
12:57 because of
12:58 the backlash they'll get i hope you will
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