How to get rid of a
Bad Coworker
How to Deal with Toxic, Jealous, Insecure Coworkers
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he ambitious professionals it's Linda
Rayner of Linda Rayner calm guiding you
to a career and life you'll truly enjoy
now if you are currently in a situation
where you're dealing with jealous
gossipy bad-mouthing and insecure
co-workers then this video is for you
I'm going to discuss with you why it's
happening to you in the first place and
what you can do about it to overcome it
so stay tuned
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now as a career strategist I've had the
honour of being able to help numerous
corporate ambitious professionals just
like you to land their dream job offers
and if this is something that you're
interested in working with me one-on-one
I can give you details about that at the
end of this video now one of the common
questions that I get asked most often is
how to deal with toxic co-workers who
are insecure and who love to gossip and
talk about you in the workplace in fact
I get asked this question so often that
it made me realize how prevalent this
issue is and that that's the number one
reason why people leave companies not
because of the job itself but because of
the people that they work with and
because this topic is so important I
want to be able to share my advice with
you and as always I'm gonna be super
transparent and it's likely advice that
you haven't heard anywhere else so first
of all let's address the question of why
are these toxic co-workers targeting you
if you are feeling singled out and
picked on compared to everyone else in
the office then there may be a variety
of reasons for why that's happening
either you're amazing and you're doing
great and they're just simply jealous of
you or you are drawing it to yourself
and there is a difference trust me and
I'll explain but let's talk about the
first reason why they may be jealous of
you and that is that you are a strong
performer you do great at work you're
well-liked by your managers and other
co-workers but there happens to be this
small group of toxic co-workers who are
purely jealous of you let's talk about
those if you happen to think that maybe
they're actually just jealous of you
then the best way to overcome this is to
understand where that person that toxic
individual is coming from from an
emotional and mental standpoint so maybe
before you came along maybe before you
joined this team this departments this
company they happen to be the superstar
and then all of a sudden you
along and you outperform them in a
shorter period of time all of a sudden
they feel that their value and Worth has
decreased and they look at you as their
target for who they want to feel jealous
towards and who they want to show their
dislike towards so to put it simply they
feel threatened by your presence and
like I said earlier the way to overcome
this the antidote to all of this is for
you to understand them understand where
they're coming from because when you can
understand that they're feeling
threatened you can feel their sense of
insecurity and so it almost makes you
feel a bit of pity towards them you can
realize that they don't have enough self
love and self appreciation within
themselves to say that it's okay that
someone else came along and is doing a
great job you have to remember this if
someone is jealous of you because you
happen to be a better performer than
them or just more well-liked by others
than they are for whatever reason if
they happen to be jealous of you it's
because it has everything to do with
them and their insecurities and it has
actually nothing to do with you so just
to reiterate understanding is the key
understanding that person understanding
what's going on within them will help
you to lessen the impact of their words
and energy towards you and it's going to
help you to be able to deal with them on
a daily basis okay so that was reason
number one but if that's not the case if
you're not dealing with this feeling
that people are jealous of you then
there is another reason why you are
being targeted by these toxic
individuals and this is probably a
reason that I'll be honest you don't
want to hear but I'm just going to say
it and that is that you are feeling
negative towards your co-workers and
they're feeling negative towards you
because you already feel negative about
yourself and what happens is that
negative energy that's already within
you is amplified now
your external environment and it happens
to be at work where what you are feeling
on the inside is being reflected back to
you by the people on the outside I'll
explain this is a cold hard deep truth
that I really want you to know about and
to understand because I have seen it
firsthand where the way someone feels
about themselves and the energy that
they project and the thoughts that they
have in the beliefs that they hold on to
directly impact the results that they
are able to achieve in their everyday
lives for example if you were looking
for a better career looking for a new
job and you wanted to be able to get
that quickly it all does depend on not
only your experience and skills and all
that stuff but it also depends on how
you feel about your abilities and how
you feel about yourself and then how
that's projected to others so let me ask
you this over the last few years have
you been holding on to any insecure
unhappy low self-worth types of thoughts
how do you actually feel about yourself
on a daily basis this is a deep question
that I want you to be completely honest
with when you're answering for yourself
because this will open you up to an
understanding of potentially why you are
currently being targeted by these toxic
individuals at work so I go by a concept
that I've lived by for years now and I
honestly believe that it's it's the
truth it's just how life works and that
concept I've mentioned it before in
other videos is called the world is your
mirror what I mean by that is the world
will project back on to you what you are
currently already projecting from the
inside out so if you're someone who has
always felt that it's you against the
world that life is full of potential
enemies that you can't trust anyone
except for yourself or if you felt that
you have to always suppress your
emotions you can't be completely honest
and transparent otherwise that's a sign
of weakness or maybe you've always felt
that it's important
to put others first and then you end up
feeling as though you're a doormat now I
know that me bringing up this topic and
talking about it this way may make it
sound as though I'm blaming you for why
you're being treated badly at work and I
want you to understand and be very clear
about it right now that that is not what
I'm doing
I'm not blaming you but what I am doing
is I'm bringing to your attention some
potential areas within you that you may
not have been aware of your entire life
and that you may not have changed but
now you have the opportunity to because
what's gonna happen is that once you
bring awareness to these negative deeply
embedded beliefs that you potentially
have within you that's going to shift
the situation that you're dealing with
that work you're no longer gonna feel
like a target you're no longer gonna
feel as though you have no control
because you do have control and the only
person you have control over is yourself
and you have control over your beliefs
you have control over how you feel about
yourself and you have control over how
you project yourself every single day so
if you can shift these beliefs if you
can look within yourself and dig deep
and find areas where you do feel
insecure and times where you do feel low
confidence in times where you feel as
though you're not projecting the best
version of yourself if you can self
reflect and be honest with yourself
through that process then that's going
to help you to bring awareness to what
you can change and if you can change the
way that you feel about yourself like I
said it's going to change your entire
situation with these toxic individuals
at work so in essence what's happening
to you is actually a blessing because
now you can understand that if you've
been feeling not so great about yourself
because of what these naysayers have
been saying about you it's partially
because inside of you you've already
held on to similar beliefs that they
seem to be projecting onto you and
that's your opportunity now to change it
to shift it to eliminate these types of
beliefs and to replace them with more
self loving self appreciative and more
grateful
that you have towards yourself so enough
explaining let's make it practical what
can you do to shift these beliefs what I
want you to start doing or what I
suggest is that you find a quiet place
find a time in your day where you have
the opportunity to sit for 15 minutes 20
minutes half an hour an hour however
long you have and to then ask yourself
and be completely honest with yourself
how do I feel about myself what are the
thoughts and beliefs that I have about
myself on a daily basis and just let
your pen write what it needs to write on
that piece of paper and see what comes
up because there is a potential that not
all the thoughts and beliefs that you
have about yourself are fantastic and
that's great because if they aren't
fantastic if they aren't wonderful then
there's your opportunity to shift them
for example if you've been holding on to
a deep-seated belief that tells you that
you're just not good enough compared to
others for whatever reason whatever good
enough means then you want to ask
yourself what does that mean and what do
I actually feel about myself how do I
actually feel when I feel that I'm not
good enough but then once you've fully
analyzed that then you want to be able
to understand it understand where it
came from who taught me to believe that
I'm not good enough for example and then
once you understand all of that then
you're able to consciously shift that
belief and it's not gonna be as though
you're gonna say oh I'm not good enough
but now I'm amazing you're not going to
believe that if you're trying to switch
from such a negative thought to such a
drastic positive thought instead what
you want to do is you want to ask
yourself well what are the good
qualities that I have about myself what
are some traits that I have that I do
feel positive towards myself so that's
where you start and then that's where
you build your confidence and that's
where you also build more self-awareness
and you might be wondering so what's
going to happen with those toxic
co-workers is this going to change the
way they feel about me and the answer is
yes
you are going to notice a remarkable
difference in the way that they treat
you because what happens is that when
you feel differently about yourself when
you feel more positive about yourself
you start to carry yourself differently
you start to emit a different energy and
these toxic individuals they look to
feed off of low energy individuals and
if you're someone who has high vibrating
energy you're positive and you feel good
about yourself they don't have much to
latch on to and so you'll notice that
they maybe will stop targeting you as
much or they they'll just avoid you and
ignore you and they no longer get what
they're looking for which is a reaction
out of you
and that's because you've no longer
allowed them to provoke you so that's
the benefit of you becoming more
self-aware and identifying those deeply
embedded negative beliefs so there you
have it I really hope that this advice
that I'm sharing with you on how to deal
with toxic co-workers or just toxic
people in general is going to be helpful
and to end it off I wanted to share with
you an inspiring quote that I thought
was really fitting a man or woman cannot
be comfortable without his or her own
approval by Mark Twain
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