How To Focus On What Truly Matters In Life

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hi it's Peter sage creator of the

millionaire Business School and Amazon

best-selling author and on this video I

want to ask you a question what do you

think you should spend your time doing

in other words how do we work out how to

determine where to spend our focus now

time in a world that is so busy being

busy where everything is thrown at us

from every conceivable angle with every

conceivable agenda how do we filter

through that and reclaim our own time on

our own terms

rather than be subject to everybody

else's demands well that's just a matter

of choice but if it is what do we choose

because although the average person is

subject to tens of thousands of

commercial messages a day that do not

have your best interests at heart over

and above the interests of the message

in terms of sales or or persuasion yeah

when we strip all that away what do we

do with the time that we have how much

time do we have well yet the average

lifetime if you're doing well would give

you about four thousand weeks four

thousand weeks that's it and if you're

listening to this and you're already 20

years old I've got news for you a

thousand of those have already gone so

if we start to understand or come to

terms with our own sense of mortality

you know without being morbid but just

being real you know rather than get to

you know three-quarters of those weeks

and think all hang on what happened

you see that's in in our 20s most the

time we think we're invincible there's

no end limit to the game we're playing

about the time we start crossing the the

birthdays that have a zero in and begin

with anything you know four or greater

we tend to start questioning a little

bit more about the time that we've got

left and therefore you know if we feel

personally there's more days you know

behind us than are in front we start to

say what are we doing with the time that

we got left and so it's kind of like

cramming for the exam you know if we

know we've got eight weeks to prepare

for an exam what do we do normally every

what everybody else does we start

preparing for it after seven and a half

weeks and start cramming in that's why

cramming comes from but if

thing about life that's a very different

game to taking an exam so what should we

do and where should we play a focus well

I'm not here to make those suggestions

or give you those answers I have no

right to do that but I will yeah sort of

suggest a few things that will allow you

to make hopefully a better decision or

validate the decision that you've

currently made as right so here's the

starting point whatever you are spending

time on the question to ask ultimately

is are you enjoying it are you

passionate about it because if you're

not then what's the point unless like

with in entrepreneurship for example

you're willing to do some of the things

that you're not particularly you know

wanting to do for the rest of your life

but doing it in a short while so you can

spend the rest of your life doing what

you want to do that's one aspect oh but

even under those circumstances I would

encourage you to even if you're going to

be working hard on a business to give

you freedom further down the line yeah

choose something to work on now that you

enjoy that you're passionate about

otherwise what's the point but when it

comes to where we spend our time in

other areas of our life what should we

do well I want to introduce you to what

I call foundational concepts yet for me

a foundational concept is something that

governs the ability to do everything

else at a better level and the certain

areas of our life where I'm going to

suggest you look at certain foundational

concepts to see if they resonate for you

because again you know in a multimedia

ever push notification world it's very

easy to be distracted along things or

along the lines of things that just

don't serve our own interests or light

us up in a way that they can so if we

take the subject of business for example

let's look at there's many different

things we could spend our time on in

business certainly in terms of going out

and getting good at the game of business

you know we can learn marketing we can

learn sales we can learn executive

management we can learn you know a whole

host of different business skills but

the number one skill that I would focus

my time on first as a foundational skill

with business is time management and the

reason I suggest that

is because without time management

without getting good at time management

you don't have time to yeah focus on all

of the other things or apply the other

things that you're learning so time

management for businesses what I call

it's a foundation it's a parent's skill

because everything else can be applied

or implemented better as a result of

better time management and again time

management is a myth you can't manage


that's like King Canute trying to manage

the waves all you can do is manage

yourself in relation to the time that

we've all been given equally so you know

trying to wrestle with time itself is a

turning with no cheese but if you get

good at managing yourself in relation to

time everything can unfold at a

different level so it's about asking

more quality questions if you take for

example lifestyle what would be the

foundational focus for lifestyle and for

me personally I would say that it would

be health and vitality see I know a lot

of people that can have all the

champagne in the world you can fly

first-class you know on your own

Gulfstream but if you haven't got the

health and vitality to be able to enjoy

it what's the point many of those people

would give up a significant part of

their fortune to try to be able to get

back a sense of health and vitality so

health and vitality is a focal point

that is a foundational aspect of

lifestyle if you want more information

on health and vitality yeah one of my

straight talk straight talk number 11 is

a two-hour talk that I give just on

health to simplify a lot of the

complexity around the minefield of the

subjects one of my passions yeah along

with business entrepreneurship yeah

understanding human behavior in quantum

physics you know there my passion is

that I want to spend my time studying

and focusing if we look at personal

skills one of the foundational areas of

focus in my and experience for personal

skills or personal development or

self-improvement or in formal education

if you want to call it that one of the

areas of focus that I would encourage

people to look at would be speed reading

if we're faced with so much of an

overwhelming information that most

people have

clue how to get through that or it just

stacks up in an inbox or a

recommendation or reading list that

never gets lower than it gets higher so

learning how to speed read is a

foundational skill that can have a

knock-on effect to make everything else

easier or even unnecessary now I want to

talk about speed reading the reason I

suggest that is because majority of

people in life through the formal

educational process are taught to read

very dysfunctional e they're taught to

read in a very inefficient and

ineffective way and the reason is most

of us have been taught to read without

ears not our eyes what I mean by that

well if you're reading something even if

it's the comments on this YouTube video

or the description or something on the

web or in a magazine what generally is

going on is that the eyes will spot the

words on the page the brain will

recognize a pattern of the contrasting

colors let's say black on white it'll

then signify an articulate sound and

called a word or a phrase or a sentence

that we then listen to to make sense of

now all of that is very disjointed it's

a very inefficient way it's like you

know typical cars run up 20 to 30%

efficiency on internal combustion very

inefficient the way we read is yeah at

least or lower than that level of

efficiency so speed reading teaches us

not to sub vocalize because if we want

to read fast and we're reading with that

ears we can only read as fast as we can

talk make sense and for most people even

people talking as fast as me that's only

round about 250 words a minute maximum

but you don't need to look at your hand

to save the word hand to know it's a

hand yet the brain recognizes that and

shortcuts it because we've not been

trained to say hand when we look at a

hand as we do words so you know learning

to speed read could literally transform

you and learning to do it properly will

re-engage or certainly enhance

comprehension and retention as well you

know learning to read a book so you can

get all of

the brain involve all of your senses

emotions in there makes the book come

alive like a movie and you can get

through information very quickly at that

point now by reading you the eyes not

the ears if you doubt that I can show

you a flashier picture on screen for a

second and you can probably talk about

it for two minutes because the brain can

take in that much information visually

very very fast and make sense of it so

you know I would say that would be a

foundational area of focus if we go onto

personal relationships an area that many

people struggle with again because of

lack of authentic or credible

understanding as to how to learn or

master this thing called relationships

that most of us sort of stumble into and

then spend a lot of the time blaming the

other partner for why yeah the

relationship is not moving down a

certain path and yeah if I was to

suggest a foundational focus for

relationship it would be to master your

ability to listen and understand

especially us men now as men are trained

by nature to fix problems we've got

goal-seeking problem-solving it's how we

validate our masculinity so you know

wife girlfriend spouse partner comes

home and start sharing their problems

which is how women communicate to each

other and we see all opportunity to fix

ah stop now that's what we do but

there's no understanding there so yeah

most relationship problems come from a

lack of communication or understanding

of what's really going on because both

partners are too entrenched in their own

model of the world to appreciate that

yeah there's two different ways to

different languages going on so you know

if I was to say we share should I focus

on in relationships it's not how to

please my woman yeah it's not how to be

better in bed yeah it's not yet and any

of the skill sets that is first and

foremost foundationally where do I want

to focus my time is learn how to

understand and interpret and listen and

communicate better with the opposite sex

from there you can go have rockstar sex

you from there you can go

you know really develop deep levels of

intimacy and connection but without that

level of communication in place all of

that other stuff will just be distracted

from some of the problems caused by an

inability to communicate so that's kind

of my sum upon key areas of focus in

life know that we've only got so many

weeks as we fly around this giant

fireball on a rocket you know several

thousand miles an hour on this game of

life I mean you couldn't make it up but

what do we do at the time what do we do

with the gift that we got we don't want

to get to the end and start regretting

what could have happened don't let your

dreams die inside of you by wasting it

on trivial stuff yeah ask yourself the

quality question yeah what's the one

thing that I could focus on that would

make more of a difference in this area

of my life than anything else

the one thing that could make everything

else easier or even unnecessary that

would allow me yet to progress further

rather than get distracted by all the

other fluff and if we start asking

quality questions at that level and

start really you know taking out

foundational skills concepts or or

levels of of self-improvement to focus

to bring more of us to the table rather

than guess I get distracted then we'll

live a much better quality of life and

having known with certainty that the

time that we did have was well spent hey

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