How To Reprogram Your Mind (for Positive Thinking)

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people asked me Brendan how do i

reprogram my mind and I'm like that's

kind of creepy or you're cyborg well why

did somebody one time like ninjitsu your

brain and hypnotizing and thinking

something horrible like why didn't you

reprogram anything most adults don't

need to reprogram something they just

need a program it for the first time you

know it's like there was never actually

any programming that happened anywhere

there's just all these patterns of

incidences and these circumstances that

have all coalesced into some of these

automatic thoughts and behaviors that

they are necessarily being responsible

for they're they're just big come up

automatically and they happen to them

it's not like someone said I want you to

think this I want you to take this I

walk it no one ever sat you down and

probably just like maybe it happened but

remotes people that never happened what

they're really saying is Brendan I need

to get a hold in my mind man because

sometimes I just got these constant

negative recurring thoughts that come up

I can't get rid of them or sometimes I

get obsessed about this one bad thing

that happened to me or sometimes I say

you know I just can't even control my

attention dude so what they're really

struggling to do is to master their mind

in a more sort of capable way so let's

talk about how your thoughts are

generated I know some of this you might

already know if you read my book the

charge or you've seen this my other work

in high performance Academy we talked a

lot about how do you master your

psychology I'm gonna give you one simple

framework to think through and then some

tips and tools the strategy you can

immediately input into your life to

better manage your mind the first thing

if you're having negative recurring

thoughts and feelings that are coming up

those are really they're just they're

easy and here's what I mean by that you

know we had I have two systems of

thought psychologists like to say now we

have the system one theory is in which

the system one is your automatic just

unconscious immediate thoughts and

impulses that come up from your body

that usually your brain is just saying

hey dude we've thought through this

before or hey dude we're trying to

protect you so it's running at a very

baseline easy energetic level your brain

loves to optimize itself it doesn't like

to have to do a whole lot of thinking it

just likes to say what do we already

know how can we apply it to the


so if you had fears in the past and

similar situations here your body just

generates those fears and says hey man

run away again

if you had the challenges in the past

and you want to protect yourself your

brain just says hey protect yourself

right now we're worried about this but

sometimes those are not helpful thoughts

they're automatic but they're not

actually helpful it's just your brain

saying this is the easiest route we know

and part of becoming a more mature

conscious enlightened person is to

better take control of our system -

which is our sort of conscious dashboard

on our mind or our ability that more

directly work control generate and

create our own thoughts and behaviors in

the moment not relying too much on just

the things that come up for us now of

course we're always going to most of our

lives is very system one driven very

unconscious automatic we just going

through the motions but the people who

achieve the peak amounts of success the

highest performers in the world have

said you know what I need to discipline

my mind to support me even when it comes

up with an automatic immediate thoughts

I want those to be positive and buoyant

and confident and strong something that

leads me to healthy decisions for my

life not just things that protect me and

so I think that we have to learn how to

do that one of the simple ways to do

that is this framework to understand how

thoughts develop into strong and

automatic thoughts in our lives

I call the framework our W I D which

stands for relative weight of importance

and duration people often who have

negative recurring thoughts and feelings

in their life the reason those keep

coming up all the time is because they

they at some point in their life or

continually are giving those thoughts

the negative ones more attention than

necessarily any other thoughts in other

words the relative weight that they give

those thoughts is quite high and they

give a lot of importance in it ilysm

those thoughts are very important to me

right now and their their duration only

lasts over a period of time they keep

thinking about those thoughts thinking

about those think about those thoughts

and it's all that repetition

that seals it in the back of their head

and now their head says oh this is an

easy thing I know this one and it pulls

it forward so that simple repetition

because they made it important and they

thought about it a lot it keeps coming

up for them over and over and over again

so there's two negative there's a good

negative thing about that a positive

thing the negative is if you keep

obsessing about negative things your

mind will be automatic a condition to

bring up more and more and more often

without your control just automatically

the positive aspect is we can use that

same skillset and that same rule to

apply positive thoughts into our own

life we can give positive thinking

positive questions positive approaches

to life a lot of importance in our life

and a lot of focus and focus on them and

give a lot of duration to them over a

period of time and they get sealed in

the brain as well and now the brain says

well that's easy automatically thinks

about it so for me personally I've done

this so much in my life that I just have

I automatically think about the best

possible outcomes and almost everything

I do I used to think about the negative

outcomes I thought that's not supporting

me so how did I do that

well leveraging our W idea it helped and

let me break it down for you little bit

about how you can do this because the

first thing you have to do in order to

improve your mind is take total control

of your attention and notice where are

your thoughts right now at a very

continual basis you have to think where

are my thoughts right now are they

supporting me or are they automatically

coming up- and self-protective in ways

that are not advancing my life just to

be aware to be conscious of what's going

on in your body in your sense of feeling

and emotion and the sense of the

thoughts you're actually having just

start paying attention you know for a

lot of people because they've never done

this before and it's hard to remind them

to do it it's like simple here's what I

want you to do just start paying

attention to your thoughts anytime

you're in line any time you're in line

from now on if you're in line at

Starbucks just say I'm in line at

Starbucks spread and said think about my

thoughts what am i thougt saying right

now just checking it you're in line in

traffic waiting for the next car

just sitting like what are my thoughts

right now

and just notice what you've been

thinking about the more did we notice

what we've been thinking about the more

we can interrupt what we've been

thinking about see if we just allow that

feeling to keep coming up and you don't

pay attention to it and our life can be

very frazzled and very highly anxious

but once we say what's my mind on right

now and we redirect it

that is where personal power comes from

first awareness right and understanding

and the consciousness to what's going on

but then the ability now to be self

directive to choose what we want to

focus on so first we're attentive to it

and then redirect it if it's negative

it's not supporting you redirected how

do you redirect it first and foremost

you just say what would be the opposite

of this negative thing that you think

about the positive thing and you focus

on that and you repeat it to yourself

for many people that might include

closing their eyes just visualizing a

more positive outcome thinking about the

more positive outcome thinking about

more positive outcome thinking about the

more positive outcome focusing on with

their eyes closed and that visualization

of a more positive outcome of how things

could turn out well or how would the

situation could be better or even just

what are the next steps I should take

visualizing that and assigning a high

amount of importance and duration to it

meaning making that thing important to

us by making it how do you make

something important you give it a

sensation you feel that thing you sense

it you sense what your next step would

be you sense how and feel that the

outcome would be better how it feel

emotionally psychologically spiritually

for that thing to allow it to have a lot

of emotion to it pay attention to your

eyes close you see that thing you feel

it you sense a different step you know

what you're going to do you pay

attention to it and you keep focusing on

that so we're a period of merits keep

focusing in keep focusing focusing when

your mind automatically wants to go back

to easy which might be negative you're

you go no no no I don't want to I don't


I'm not into easy right now I'm into

conditioning my mind focus focus focus

focus give attention duration and

sensation to an attention duration

sensation attention to raishin sensation

visualization visual data visualization

it's repetition of that positive

alternative to a negative and pulse that

comes up that gives us personal power

let me say it again it's that

attention to that positive alternative /

attention to repeating that negative

impulse or thought that gives us

personal power it's not that we're going

to someday wake up in the perfect world

in which we don't have negative thoughts

there's plenty of times I struggle to I

come up with this I'm thinking about a

new dream a new goal I'm gonna go

interview some you know major celebrity

or we got a big-time celebrity client

and I get a little nervous and I can

start thinking about all these negative

things that could happen if I screw up

my mind immediately interrupts that now

because my mind goes relative weight of

importance and duration Brendon you can

either give this thought more time and

energy and focus or you can just stop it

and force your brain creatively force it

to direct it to a different possible

alternative force it little go oh I'm

sensing this negative thing over here is

coming up for me I'm sensing it stop


get to work brain what positive thing

could I create and focus on and close

your eyes and think about it and focus

on it and focus on it and focus on and

build it out make it elaborate in your

own mind so you can visualize and see it

and feel it and focus on focus on it

focus focus on it literally later on the

evening focus on again focus on negative

you start building in that capacity now

if this all sounds way too philosophical

and you're like dude how do I land this

how do I make it happen

here's a very simple thing you can do to

reprogram your mind create a sheet of 2

simple things very simple things I want

you to write 5 questions down that

you're going to ask yourself three or

four times a day 5 questions that are

positive for yourself to do every day

you're going to wake up in the morning

you're going to read these questions to

yourself you're gonna answer them you're

gonna read them you're gonna answer them

every morning then at lunch read the

questions answer them at night read the

questions answer these can be questions

like what can I feel incredibly grateful

for right now how could I surprise or

flirt with somebody right now how could

I have fun right now positive things

like that right how could I demonstrate

love or excellence right now ask these

questions the morning ask him the

afternoon ask him at night by asking

these positive questions over and over I

mean you just do this for 30 days you're

gonna recognize a total shift in your

life just

simple questions but you're giving them

weight by focusing on them three times

during the day you having duration by

focusing on it three times during today

over thirty days your mind starts to

reshift it skiers to give automatic ease

to answering those questions and living

in that mindset versus an undirected

unconscious mindset second thing on that

sheet or those things you can do five

questions first second thing I want to

do is come up three words that describe

your ideal self just three words you

know minor for example present excited

and bold so I'm gonna focus on those

questions three times a day as well what

I do is I put them on my iPhone and they

come up as an alarm three different

times during the day my phone buzzes and

those words are there I'm like oh right

I'm that guy I gotta focus on being that

guy versus whatever I might be in a bad

mood ah you know to completely detach

and then I look I'm like dude no I'm an

excited person get break that thought

get back into this got it

this is who I am and now that might

sound so silly

simply simple simpie Sippi it sounds so

simple but guess what people won't do

the discipline they are so frustrated

with their mind because they haven't

done the conscious discipline to

reprogram it that's the last thought

here yes we all have unconscious

thoughts every single person out of us

if you don't have a mental disorder and

then then guess what you have extreme

power in your life to overtake it and

even those who have mental disorders

psychologists and therapists work with

them to recondition their mind by

allowing them a different way of

attaching meaning to the past incidences

but even if they attach meaning a

different meaning to the past the whole

focus is bring them into today and teach

them to use their mind to direct itself

into positive orientations to make

healthier decisions to enact healthier

behaviors if you can just focus on

getting more attentive to what you're

feeling and then do these thought

exercises what questions who do I want

to be and you do that over and over

again everything changes last thought

our unconscious and our mind is

incredibly programmed not just by

thought which is what I've been talking

about relative weight of importance and

duration focusing our attention on you

know what

questions would ask ourselves what

positive alternatives can we create for

ourselves what labels can we create for

ourselves to support us but our mind

also is incredibly conditioned by action

behavior you've heard the term like fake

it till you make it I don't love that

I'd rather just say you know what just

be authentic over and over and over

again right if you take action on a

consistent basis it teaches your mind to

do that so do things that are positive

for yourself take bold or actions cheat

yourself I'm just gonna be confident you

know just for no other reason watch my

video on being confident here on YouTube

I want you to really think about this

the more that you take action the more

your brain gets automatically

conditioned to understand that's what we

do hey man that's just what we do we

just react to bad situations like this

cuz that's how we've done it you can

actually conditioned your mind without

doing any thought other than just

behaving in a more positive manner and

solely you find yourself thinking more

positively I know it sounds duplicitous

but word is bliss I think his word

sounds good good word like a $10 word

right there

you know that's a big word for Montana

but I really want you think about that

your actions condition your mind as much

as your recurring thoughts condition

your mind so be a person of good

positive thinking be a person of good

positive action and suddenly one day you

will wake up and you're like I don't I

just feel amazing I feel extraordinary I

feel positive and that's what it feels

like to live the charge life