How To Stay Focused

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how do you stay focused answering this

question is perhaps the most important

critical thing you will ever do in your

life time period so I hope it is an

absolute priority for you to learn to

take back your focus in life for you to

get more distinct and more clear about

what your focus really is and for you to

finally decide you know what if I don't

finally get my focus in check if I keep

wandering around distracted if I keep

looking at every new thing that pops up

if I keep trying every single new

opportunity if I keep saying yes to

everything if I keep listening to

everybody's complaints and if I keep

doing whatever they asked me to do at

some point you'll lose your life and I

don't mean that physically as in harm or

death I mean that one day you'll wake up

and say I don't feel like I've

accomplished what's meaningful to me I

don't feel like I'm in a job that I care

for I don't feel like I have connection

with my family or my friends because at

some point your focus drives everything

it drives your thoughts and your

emotions right while you focus on is

certainly if you focus on the negative

things are gonna be negative if you

focus on if you fail to focus on the

things are important meaning your

priorities and what happens to your

relationships what happens the overall

quality of your life focus is driving

everything in your life you got to get

it back it's not just about being

productive we'll talk about that it's

about experiencing the best quality of

life you hear this new movement called

the mindfulness movement right about the

new popularity of these conversations

about presence and and meditation and

and things like myself and my industry

have been talking about for decades well

you hear about that that's really just

about raining back in control of our

focus in a world that's gone mad and

crazy and distracted so how are you

gonna get your focus back well let me

give you some counterintuitive ways to

do it the first thing that I need you to

know in order to get your focus back is

to realize that you need to make fewer

decisions fewer decisions why well as we

know and from neuroscience and we know

from productivity studies that the more

decisions that we actually make the more

our brain

fatigue right the more decisions that we

make the more we utilize the glucose

that's really fueling our willpower

that's fueling our frankly our our

ability to make more decisions and

higher quality decisions matter of fact

the more decisions that you tend to make

the less effective you're going to be

over the long term because you're gonna

utilize your ability in your resources

and your brains power literally your

willpower will go out the window so you

want to minimize the number of decisions

you are making how do you do that well

here are some simple things one stop

browsing you know I know maybe you found

me because you were browsing somewhere

and I hope you make me part of your

focus on your personal development then

I'm a purpose so part of your life but I

can tell you

overall browsing completely wipes out

your focus and your willpower even all

these little things you're focusing on

are utilizing all your brain's resources

and over here down when you stop

browsing and you go back to focusing on

something guess what you tend not to be

able to focus on one thing and get

things done you start multitasking and

doing lots of things but where your work

isn't really focused nothing gets

accomplished so what happens is your

brain is fatigued guess what happens

your brain fatigue you find yourself

sitting with a bag of potato chips and

what do you do when you have the remote

control you're just flipping randomly

through things do you ever notice that

meaning it's easier to become distracted

the more distracted you are meaning the

more that you aren't focusing on one

thing at a time the more problem you're

going to have later on to complete one

thing at a time and I know that makes

sense but here's this simple solution if

you missed it

stop browsing so much all those browsing

all those tweets that you're reading all

those news feeds that you're reading

guess what every time you look at them

that's what your mind has to do it has

to make a decision pay attention or not

pay attention and that decision is

costing you focal power and resources

later on even if you don't know it and

now some people say well Brendan I study

neuroscience too and but all those

little things I see those are firing off

my dopamine and my vasopressin them I'm

getting excited because I'm seeing

these things my mind feels rewarded by

seeing all these things making all these

decisions and it is true that's why it's

such a frenzy and it becomes so

addictive but it also becomes so

fatiguing and if you're constantly

fatiguing your brain by focusing on a

million things you'll never get your

focus power back that makes sense

so stop making so many decisions by stop

browsing things to decide whether or not

you should pay attention to them just

stop browsing when you do things do them

do them intentional if you're looking

for something search for that one thing

find it you're out stop clicking on all

the blue links stop swiping all the apps

and all the pictures do the things that

are gonna move you forward well what

should those things be that leads us to

point number two here which is you must

define your mission you need to have a

mission for what you're doing today you

need to have an intention for what your

next task is going to be what happens

most people just kind of show up and

they go okay well I guess I'll do some

stuff but they have no intention

whatsoever so they end up doing too many

things that mean nothing towards their

mission you should figure out what is it

you desire in life and figure out the

steps to get there and start working a

plan to get there and minimizing

everything else getting very clear on

the mission very clear on the mission

and working the plan everything else

guess what it gets a no until you reach

that mission or until you're

significantly on your way that you have

free resources to be able to focus

elsewhere and that's what people do they

take on too many projects because

they're not clear about their mission

because I'm guessing if you're watching

this you know you're somebody who wants

to add value and make a difference in

the world so anytime someone asks you to

do something yeah let me help you but

that might not have anything to do with

the quality of life or the objective or

the thing that you're trying to achieve

or the service you're really intending

to offer right and I know how hard it is

because I'm so pulled myself towards

causes and towards volunteerism towards

helping so many people but guess what if

I help everybody in lots of different

areas I might not make my ultimate

mission of serving the people I want to

serve them

of making my dreams come true so I could

support more people of running my

business so I can support more people

meaning it's easy to take your eye off

the ball if you don't know what the ball

is and people often have never defined

their mission and if you don't have one

right now for this day if you didn't

have a drive a mission a written down

statement about what you were going to

accomplish today a checklist a goal

sheet a time management tool that you

filled out today and you're just showing

up today and going well I guess I'll see

what my inbox tells me to do today and

you just respond to everybody else's

desires and everyone else's emails and

usually always in reaction always

responding to everybody no proactivity

towards the mission that you define

yourself you'll be lost you'll find that

because you never focused on that one

thing or moving towards those several

things that were your priority that

you're just lost because and here's

another thing focus goes out the window

when we don't have progress right if

we're not progressing towards something

our focus goes out the window

we just we don't pay attention to

anything we don't feel good about

ourselves you want to get more focus in

your life get more progress as you

progress the more you start to get

excited you start to pay attention to

things that are working that are moving

you forward and you start to find more

focus in your life last idea it's so

very very very simple and I hope that

you will practice it I hope that you

will study it I hope that you will work

it over and over and over and over again

once you have that mission your job is

to try this just for a little while I

know it's gonna be uncomfortable and

you're gonna hate the idea especially

coming from me and that is I just want

you to say no to everything immediately

from now on always now that goes against

the grain a lot of people say well no no

life is about saying yes well yeah a lot

of people said yes to everything and

that's why they're miserable I want you

to saying no just at first just so you

can check it against your mission I

don't want you to say yes or commit to

any projects immediately anymore that's

what people do I do want you to commit

but just give yourself like a couple

hour break or a

nights in evenings break make the

decision the next day right if something

comes up and you can do it and you're

excited about it and and someone asked

you to something I just say just say no

first it will teach you to say no I'm

gonna evaluate that first I'm gonna put

some thought to this to see should I

focus on this right now in my life yes

or no and build some criteria for

yourself you know if you think about the

time energy resources and an effort and

sanity you're gonna have to put into

something well you should get something

more out of it than you put in right you

you should be able to draw you know some

some some return on investment or future

value out of it or your own personal

development or your improvement to your

lifestyle from it but if you're any of

yourself if you're gonna focus on

something make sure it's gonna leave to

some kind of result even if just that

result is your true passion your true

love and your to spirit in it otherwise

it's got to get a no and what this

suggests is that we have to have a

greater degree of a valued of time and a

valued of criteria in our life if we're

ever gonna truly have focus right most

people because they're just saying yes

to everything and they never filter

something through criteria to say yes no

good for me bad for me right now wrong

now because they have no criteria they

they have no basis for making the

decision they've said yes to too many

things their plate has become too full

and now there's too much to focus on so

they're not even moving forward your job

is to get back to a very simple level of

life two very simple things to focus on

to do you know to focus what we call

essentialism or simplicity to just make

sure that you only focus on one or two

things at a time and everything else

you're not allowing the distractions to

suck you in so you click all the links

or do all the things that someone else

says or reply to everybody else but

you're moving your life forward day by

day little by little engage in things

that you care about that you love that

you enjoy saying no to those that you do

not and move towards every single day

moment by moment day by day to those

things that truly engage you do those

things that truly energize you and bring

enthusiasm into your life and if you can

keep that type of focal power and


then you'll start to experience what we

call the charged leg hey guys it's

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