When Someone You Love Dies,There Is No Such Thing as Moving On | Kelley Lynn | TEDxAdelphiUniversity

Toggle fullscreen Fullscreen button

Sharing buttons:

Transcriber: Asmaa Sheikh Warak Reviewer: Eunice Tan

Best-selling author and widower C. S. Lewis said

in the opening line of his brilliant book

"A Grief Observed,"

"Nobody ever told me that grief felt so much like fear."

It's a powerful statement: fear.

But fear of what?

The fear of losing yourself.

The fear of growing old alone.

The fear that this intense pain will never stop.

The fear of forgetting the sound of his voice or his laugh

or that others will forget him,

that his life won't have mattered.

Grief makes you feel isolated, alone, terrified, and damaged,

and scared of absolutely everything.

On October 27th, 2006, at the age of 35,

I married my very best friend,

Don Shepherd.

Four years and nine months later,

my healthy, active, beautiful husband left for work one morning

and never came home.