How to excite Him With Words
How To Arouse A Woman With Words - Arousal Triggers Women Can't Resist
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hey guys Bobby here with my friend
Jessica
so Jessica and I were out last night and
just hanging out in a bar with a few
people and one of the things that we do
sometimes is we'd like to just observe
what's going on and you know sometimes
laugh about it sometimes really say oh
that's you know kind of a good
conversation bad conversation and what
we want to do today in this video was
kind of give you her perspective on what
kind of conversation will engage her
intrigue or once you continue versus the
type of conversation that's gonna make
things really really boring so first off
welcome Jessica thank you Bob and thanks
everyone for having me so I guess the
first question I have for you is what
what is like the worst way a guy can
start a conversation
assuming you're out hanging out it's you
let's usually look at example last night
a few of us are standing by the bar
we're having drinks right a guy kind of
walks over to order his drink he turns
to you and he wants to start a
conversation yes you said the worst way
yeah so what the worst way you know that
when you hear the worst way it kind of
gives you an insight oh that's what
I was doing right maybe recognize it and
write so so you know I always say
there's always two categories that we
women put y'all into when it comes to
starting conversations with us and it's
either the sheep or the dogs so the
Sheep of people that kind of you know
fall into the background of your life
the barista at Starbucks maybe your
co-workers that you see every day people
in traffic around you so when you say
stuff like hey how you doing that's kind
of something anybody didn't anybody and
any stranger could say to another
stranger that's a step that we phase out
and we think alright
anybody special how special do you feel
when I got here yeah it's really hot in
here how special do you feel when I sit
at all
the second category is what I call the
dogs these are guys who are looking at
us like we're a piece of meat like you
don't even know it's yep surely I know I
need to eat it like I know about you
Bobby
I have dogs any time I whip out like a
freaking Vienna sausage or anything from
like a ziplock bag because nuts
it go crazy I just say something these
are the guys that come up to us and say
things like hey I think you're looking
really great I just had you come say hi
that's what we are right now you're only
coming to us because you see us as a hot
chick and that's the category we put you
in again these are things like oh hey
what done oh yeah looking pretty good
over here and what's the fine line so
how does a guy express interest and
we'll talk a little bit of conversations
but just because you're talking about
looking good right yes that's a
compliment in a way what makes that a
bad compliment because I we were talking
off-camera you said I love being told
that I look good but how do you do it in
a way that's actually intriguing versus
you know what's it doggish ha ha ha ha
doggy it's value style but not the kind
you want to do in your kitchen so the
way you can compliment a woman or the
way not to compliment a woman in terms
of the first thing you're saying I'm
it's one thing to say like I think
you're looking really good versus you
know you're the only woman I've seen in
this club who can pull out pull off an
outfit like that now that's particular
now what you're doing is you're
separating me from all the other meat
that you can go and bite it's making it
about me it's making me feel like wow
you're not just like every other guy you
know trying to do tricks for treats you
actually care about what I look like
specifically to any other woman in here
coz let's be real there's gonna be a lot
of women in there we're gonna be rolling
their eyes and saying like look at this
guy saying the same I heard him say
to that girl so something ok so man that
white shirt you're wearing like I'd give
anything to see that shirt off you
that's something you could say
but again that makes our creepy to you
but because she's the girl wearing a
white shirt I mean you probably don't
want to come in that quick and strong
but that's what I mean when I say be
that particular and be that specialized
to her all right so let's see yeah I
comes over let's let's stay the guy
we're standing by the bar he comes over
you're drinking your drink he starts
talking you he uses let's just say yeah
although I don't usually recommend a
compliment opener or whatever right but
let's just say he did you dad but he was
you know you were like in the talkative
mood you know what I'm gonna give this
guy a chance I only kind of went in a
little a little to the right okay sure
whatever
um what where does the conversation go
to veer away from being boring and
veered towards like hey I'm actually
having fun talking to this guy okay so
if are we still talking about like the
compliment opener I'm just talking about
it doesn't matter what he open let's
just we've used that an example he came
over he said oh you pull off that
there's a dress really well yeah and you
know then and then he wants to continue
the conversation
uh-huh how does he continue it without
you rolling your eyes and getting bored
or just saying you know giving you a
friend to help me eyes I mean one of the
traps guys fall into is thinking all I
have to do is start the conversation
that's all I have to do so maybe you do
start the conversation she's like oh hey
thanks you know I just got it a lot of
guys will fall back to okay now I have
to ask her extremely safe things that
don't come off overbearing and this is
where the talk about like so what are
you doing here so what are you do for
living so are you from town these are
all things and nobody gives a to
hear about or talk about I don't know
about you Tony but I don't know how
exciting I can't get excited over saying
I'm from New Jersey how excited you get
over saying that yeah it's like order
response yeah just automatically the
minute that question comes out you don't
even think about it just to go right
there and you're kind of tuned out of
the moment right right and you know
these are questions that make a woman
feel obligated to talk to you so now not
only have you all right no now you've
got in the conversation but now you're
gonna make her feel obligated the second
she feels obligated
the second she's gonna feel pressure and
that's just a downward spiral from there
it's the best way to carry the
conversation is not to put these third
party subjects in like your job the you
know the people in this town where you
go your drinks the best thing to do is
to talk about my experience and your
experience like right here I'm like
sweating really badly how bad is your
swamp-ass Bobby
so basically we're getting really swampy
together but that's how you do it the
only things that matter are in that
moment or me you and us it's relating
right it's trying to find a way that's
is bringing it what I like to think too
is it's bringing it like you can how I
relate to you even it you know bringing
either together or my reaction to you in
a sense huh well if you're talking and
you say something along the lines like
let's just say you wanted to say where
are you from
right right um and more I guess
emotional way to say if I was talking to
you where are you from because as you're
talking I literally hear a y'all a
Jersey accent a Texas accent I hear like
15 different accents coming at me and
I'm trying to figure out where the hell
you're from we'll see I don't know if
you noticed but even as Bobby's saying
is I am viscerally reacting I'm having
knee-jerk responses because it is take
it is tailored to me and if you're able
to do that instead of where you're from
like here specific accent I don't even
know what to make of it now you know
you're specializing it to her now it's
not just where are you from its I want
to know you yeah and that's what causes
those knee-jerk responses that you just
saw just know so okay now you've got a
new jerk response she's got some
interest um you know what where what
give me a topic right because you said
we talked earlier that you know all
girls like different topics you don't
really know either how does he find out
what you like in a way without just kind
of hammering you with like so what do
you into what do you write as you get
that I do naturally to get on a topic
that is actually interesting and I know
sorry I don't I know that the topic
itself is always gonna be about you but
you know to carry a 20 minute
conversation where is he scaring it
okay um I we've been talking about this
all the live long day
in regards to what is interesting so the
most interesting thing that you can
possibly talk about with a woman is
herself
um and you know you obviously you know
you're you might be loving thinking like
okay so I just have to talk about her
not necessarily you don't want a laser
focus and make her feel like oh my god
get over me um the point is to talk
about yourself in a way that generates
interest from her that that's leading
the conversation in tone if if Bobby
opens on Friday that's a memorable our
conversation is if Bobby says to me
listen I'm from Jersey you know like I
need to know where you're from because
I'm hearing a certain way you're saying
talk and coffee him opening up now gives
me the opportunity to relate to him and
if you give her opportunities to relate
to you and engage with you what you're
doing is you're making her feel like oh
look I can relate to him oh look I'm
talking to the sky it's gonna make her
feel that much more invested in you and
I was more interested in you and you can
also always find a way like she said to
bring it back to her by and every kind
of I would say if you're kind of like
stock of how do I bring it back to her
one of the classic things of G is like
you know you're not like the typical
Jersey girl cuz then now it's back to
her she's gonna say why and then you can
kind of explain it and it's still about
her even if you think don't talk about
the typical Jersey girl it's still
related to her right yeah exactly your
expansion you know your and you're not a
typical Jersey girl ego how do you mean
I don't know my experience of them is
XYZ you know you're probably gonna hit
it on the head every single time as long
as you're talking about your experience
she will find a way to be like oh yeah
definitely I can see what you're saying
but you say girls will give you the
benefit of the doubt right like all way
because I think I think a lot of things
is this because everything you're saying
it's like it's not like complex
it's not like he has to say this this
and this and this really smooth way it's
nice make it not boring right make it
yours the thing I think the things that
create you know boredom in conversation
is stuff that we can't relate to stuff
that we don't have a vested interest in
if you're gonna be hit or miss talking
about your job or the music
you like it's always gonna be hit or
miss but if you're always talking about
things that you can relate to on a human
level it's gonna be it's gonna be a
hundred percent hit every single time so
as long as you can cater that experience
back to hey this is my experience what's
your experience like she's always gonna
have a vested interest and you're gonna
have a vested interest and then you're
not gonna feel bored talking about like
oh you know my job you know I work with
computers a lot lately how excited are
you gonna be I'm talking about your job
so it's the final way I like to ask is
okay so now you're talking it's kind of
back and forth you're having a good vibe
um I mean obviously you know as a girl
you know if he's talking you kind of
know what he wants right yes but at some
point it has to kind of be more
acknowledged right the flirting so kind
of teasing there's got to be something
that is like it goes from like the under
the thing to like the moment where like
okay we're both on the same page yeah we
know what's going on here so what's a
good wave I can do that to get to that
you know hit that flirtatious to hit
that flirtatious stage I always say
there's a the middle you know the middle
ground between you know creating
interest and intrigue to creating desire
is you have to create a positive
experience you gotta get her laughing I
think a lot of people take for granted
the fact that
yeah sure you can't have a great
conversation because all the little and
go home in Jersey yeah oh my god me in
Jersey but if a man aren't laughing
together it's gonna be really weird when
he's like man I don't know that rompers
making me think really dirty things like
that I thought we were just talking
about the Everglades of New Jersey it's
gonna come off weird but the in-between
of getting her to laugh lets her feel
not just comfortable with you but now
she has a positive experience so when
this guy that she has a positive
experience with actually you know lets
it be known that he wants her now we're
gonna be like ooh and he wants me like
yes finally but you have to make her
feel good about you first yeah I think
laughter really is social lubrication
kind of like boobs it off me
so just I know that you have a another
video and an actually whole training
called speak to spark arousal what
exactly you know give us some other
ideas of what they'll learn there's a
link to check it out below but you know
entice us so basically I haven't Isis so
basically speak to spark arousal takes
you through the whole process of
creating initial interest and intrigue
and then moving forward to having a
positive laughing experience to moving
into flirty without being weird or
creepy because a lot of people don't
know how to navigate that space and
conversation or they just
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