How to enhance People Skills
The Key to Improving Your People Skills: Charm
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the fastest way to improve your
relationships is to make other people
feel important in every way possible
hello I'm Brian Tracy and today I want
to talk to you about the single most
important quality to possess when trying
to improve your people skills and this
quality is called charm this is the
ability to create extraordinary rapport
with anyone and make him or her feel
truly exceptional in your presence you
might think that you need to be born
with charm but although some people seem
to come by naturally charm is something
that you can actually learn no matter
how skilled or smart or experienced you
may be most of your abilities to succeed
at anything depends on your ability to
win people over to convince them to
charm them it's important to note that
the deepest craving of human nature is
the need to feel valued and important
therefore the secret of charm and
improving your people skills is to make
others feel important the more important
you make people feel in your presence
the more charming they will perceive you
to be so here are the five A's to
mastering charm acceptance appreciation
approval admiration and attention let's
start with the first day acceptance the
greatest gift you can give other people
is the attitude of unconditional
positive regard that is you accept them
in their entirety without limitation the
best way to express complete acceptance
is simple you smile when you smile with
happiness at seeing people their
self-esteem jumps automatically they
feel important and valuable and they
like the person who is making them feel
this way the second day is appreciation
you can show your appreciation by simply
saying thank you on every occasion for
any large or small reason you make a
habit of thanking everyone in your world
for everything they do thank your
secretary for her work
thank your spouse for his help thank
your children for anything that they do
that you appreciate whenever you smile
or say thank you to another person not
only to that person self-esteem and
feeling of importance jump but so does
yours
you actually like yourself more each
time you do or say anything that causes
other people to like themselves more and
the more you like yourself the more you
will genuinely like and care about
others and the less concerned you will
be about whether you are making a good
impression
making your charm even more natural the
third a is approval all human beings
have a deep subconscious need for
approval for this reason giving approval
or praise to others often will make them
feel wonderful about themselves and they
will find you to be more interesting
more perceptive highly likeable and
extremely charming the fourth a is
admiration whenever you give people a
sincere genuine compliment about a trait
or possession or accomplishment they
automatically feel better about
themselves they feel acknowledged and
recognized they feel valuable and
important so compliment a person on an
article of clothing or on a trait like
punctuality or persistence or on an
award that they've won compliment for
small things as well as for large things
the fifth day is attention this is
perhaps the most important quality of
all for becoming charming it's the most
powerful behavior for building rapport
and is the key to instant charm when you
pay close attention to other people the
more valuable and important they will
feel they are if someone wants to talk
to you immediately discontinue all other
activities and give that person your
entire attention listen as if you are
transfixed by what they are saying and
then take a moment to pause before
replying
rather than jumping in as soon as they
take a breath this shows that you
actually heard the person not only what
they said but what they meant before we
wrap up I'd like to leave you with a
thought to share with your friends and
followers the fastest way to improve
your relationships is to make other
people feel important in every way
possible now I'd love to hear from you
so my question today is what is the one
thing that someone you know does to make
you feel important leave a comment below
and I'll be sure to follow up with you
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