3 Ways to Express Your Thoughts So That Everyone Will Understand You | Alan Alda | Big Think

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I don't really like tips; tips about communicating well, tips about writing.

What I would prefer is a process that transforms you so the tips take place automatically.

I mean for instance, very often a tip is given: “When you're speaking to a crowd, vary the

pace of your speech, vary the volume.”

Well, those are two good things, but if they happen mechanically it gets to be kind of


Some people are encouraged when they're coached: “At this point leave where you're standing

and walk over there and take a pause.”

Well, maybe that makes sense in terms of how it's written; at the end of that paragraph

you want to make a space before the next paragraph, but it doesn't necessarily make sense in terms

of how you're talking and relating to the people you're talking with.

That—relating to them—should be the source of a pause, the source of moving, because

it comes out of the thought process I'm going through and it comes out of the thought process

I sense you're going through.

Have you understood that last part?

So now I'm thinking, if you have what's the next thing that I can tack onto that that

will mean something to you?

And if you haven't, should I clarify it a little more?

So there's a dynamic relationship between us that leads to a change in pace, to a change

in volume and that kind of thing.

A tip is just an intellectualization of that, which might be okay to give somebody once