So, you want to make a difference in your marriage? Well now's the time to really
look into how to show love and affection towards your wife. Because that's where
it's really going to count.
I've been married now for 27 years and I love my wife.
Oh, she is such an angel. But I got to check in with myself you know as the man
and how to show love and affection for my wife. You know, as the years click by
of being married, you know, some things can get assumed like, "Oh, my wife loves me.
I don't need to tell her or I don't need to do those cute little things I did. You
know, in the beginning of the marriage." But what if it was the other way around?
What if as the years click by, I practice on getting better by showing love and
affection to my wife? Wow! Now that's something to think about.
You know as the years go along, it gets better and better and better. But notice
I'm not talking about how she is going to show love and affection to me. It's
about me. You know, the guy. And I know. Us guys, we're into fixing the lawnmower,
we're into you know making sure that all the repairs around the house have happen.
We're the like fix-it crew. You know, we want to make sure all the appliances
work, everything works. And so we tend to be in fix-it mode. But when it comes to
showing love and affection to your wife, it's time to serve, not just fix. We're
out there to serve our wife and be able to look for those moments that we can
help them. Now, my wife, she is a passionate, goal-setting driven wife. And
wow, is she very independent. And sometimes, I wonder, "Am I even needed?"
Because she's so good at taking care of things herself. But what's awesome is
when I can see what she's doing and I can get involved in moments that I could
help her, that I noticed really influenced her to
find that she knows that I love her. Now what does that look like? You know,
the other day when we were getting ready to go somewhere, you know to be able to
ask, "Hey, can I take you take your purse out to the car?"
Can I grab this for you? I'm going to go start the car and turn the heater on for
you." All these little tiny things, women pay close attention to. Oh, my goodness. Do
they love the details. All the little things. Anytime I can help carry things,
anytime I can help prep things for her, it shows love and affection. Now, that's
just in the service part I've taken care of her, helping her with, you know, those
kind of things. Now, what if... What if her her normal activities during the day is,
you know, making dinner or maybe there's certain things she takes care of around
the house? What if I jumped in and took care of that just a little bit for her?
Surprise her to where she showed up and that was already taken care of. That you
can do. That you can see your wife's patterns. What are her patterns? When she
gets up in the morning and she goes to get ready for the day, you know that
pattern. You know what the pattern is in the evening. And when you... And this is a
this is definitely a guy thing. If we can study their pattern and then skip a
couple steps ahead. And then we go help them with a particular part of their
routine or their pattern during the day, oh, yeah. That shows that we're paying
attention to them and that to your wife means love. When they know that we're
paying attention to them and they can see that we are jumping in ahead of time
on something that was going to happen but we're there for them, wow! Does that get
their attention. Because the women just love to have attention on them and when
we can show that we're giving them attention by studying their pattern and
jumping in there, oh, my goodness. That gets them really at a deep level. But
hold on a second. Let's talk about something else. So, love and affection. All
right, how do you soften your wife's heart
even a little bit more? Well, what you do is you give them a foot massage.
You know, you surprise her. Maybe you got to go take her and go
set her down on the couch. Maybe she's ticklish, right? You're thinking, "Oh, I
can't do that." You can give her a foot massage. Our wives, they work really hard
during the day taking care of things. There's a lot of things that they do. And
when their feet get sore then their back gets sore. Then their neck gets sore. And
then when they feel sore, they just.. They start to feel overwhelmed. They feel like
they can't do very much. Wow! And we can stop for a moment and be
able to give them a good foot massage. That can help loosen up their feet which
helps them loosen up their back and loosen up their neck. And then they start
to be hopeful again. They started to get excited about life again. And I know it
sounds crazy but anytime my wife gets overwhelmed, when I hear that she's
overwhelmed either through her tone of voice or the number of activities that
she started trying to take care of, I know what that means.
Foot massage time. Here's the secret about giving a foot massage. Don't give
her foot massage the way you want a foot massage. You
don't do it that way. You don't do it that way. What you got to do is you got
to be able to give them a foot massage the way that they want the foot massage.
So, that means you get everything out. You get the lotion or whatever. I don't know
what you guys use for your foot massage. But you get everything out and then they
can see like, "What are you doing?" "I'm going to give you a foot massage." "Really?" And
you can see them just go, "Okay!" You can just see like this relief, Like literally,
the first-aid crews just showed up to help heal their heart and be able to
heal their emotions. But this is where you take it to the next level. You get a
hold of her foot and you ask her, "How may I massage your foot today?" And then
you'll see her going, "What? What? What?" And you wait for instruction. No. Don't
just jump in there thinking you know what to do. There are certain parts of
her foot that hurt worse than the other parts. And if you wait for instructions
and she can give you instructions, Wow. To a woman... To a woman when there's that kind
of share back and forth between, "Will you do this for me?" "Yes, I will." "Will you do this for
me?" "Yes, I will." Oh, my goodness. It softens their heart.
And if you don't... If you don't know how to give him a foot massage, it's okay. You
just ask them. Well, we take me to do. And and they're thinking, "Oh, he's only giving
me a foot massage because he wants to make out later." They're going to start
making up stories that you're using this as a way to get something else. Now, be
smart as a guy. Be smart as a guy. Now, when you give that foot massage, when
it's over, you can go grab them a drink of something or a little snack or
something. But then there's no strings attached. It doesn't lead into something
else. Give them that foot massage all by itself.
Now, here's what you do to take it to the next level though. This is what you do. To
take it to the next level, after the foot massage.
You go wash your hands, right? You'll wash your hands because you got done doing
the foot massage. Make sure their feet are totally, totally relaxed. And then
what you do is you pick up one of their hands. And they go, "What are you doing?"
You're like, "Well, I'm going to massage your hands now," Oh, you will melt them like
crazy. Feet massage, my foot massage and a hand massage. And you just listen to the
instructions. It's the best thing ever. And they will just be completely relaxed.
You will have tipped the scale completely the other way that you love
them. You've shown compassion to them.
Affection and love. And there's no words that ever could get as deep into them as
the love language of touch. Now, if they're ticklish and and they're like, "Oh,
I can't stand this." It's because you're doing the foot massage or the hand massage
base to find your ideas. So to avoid doing it wrong and to avoid making them
ticklish and kind of watching the whole thing, be sure you follow their
instructions. Now, the last part to be able to show love and affection. They... If
you're heard on the movies you know like, all the romantic movies where there's
like, whispers sweet nothings in my ear. You know what I mean? I kind of like a
little positive, little love statements. They love that. At anytime during the day,
text them a message or leave them a note or when you're in the kitchen, walk by.
Pull her up close to you, whisper some just cool little positive comment
about them to them. But just put those little positive comments in their life
throughout the day. That is powerful to a woman. A woman's love language is through
conversation. And touching is a conversation. Little comment, little
positive comments throughout the day is conversation. And that just builds up
that affection towards them and the love towards them. And they will feel amazing.
A woman who feels loved, a woman who feels a deep connection with her husband
is literally the energy or the the mood of the home and the mood of the family.
And I'm not saying you do this so you can have a better mood in the house. What
I'm saying is you do this because everybody benefits. Because when they
feel good, wow, they are super in touch with all kinds of things going on in the
home, the family. And they're deeply inspired. Just fantastic inspired. And
when they feel relaxed and they feel loved. Then literally, the whole home
fills up with that feeling. It's awesome. Absolutely awesome. Your wife might also
enjoy a nice gentle shoulder rub. You know, from about right here down to right
there. But be super careful. Really, really tender.
Because women carry a lot of stress right here from their ear out to their
shoulder because they carry a lot of responsibilities on their shoulder. And
it's just energetically. They carry a lot of responsibility on their shoulder. And
so they feel like they got a... Their shoulders kind of get pulled up tight
because they feel like there's so much that they're carrying that they have to
be strong and so their shoulders get pulled up. And then it stresses them out
right here on both sides. But that would be a third place. So, we've got feet, hands
and shoulders. It's a game changer. You can make a difference in your marriage.
And make a really big difference in her life. If you will get the items, you know,
put together so you have what it takes for a foot massage and a hand massage.
You listen to the instructions. And while she's sitting there receiving the foot
massage or the hand massage, she's going to wonder what you're up to but she just
leave it that you're there to serve to show love and affection. And if she
starts bringing up challenges for the day or the kids or all these challenges,
just know as you're massaging your feet. It's helping her work things out. And you
don't have to solve anything. You don't even have to fix anything
during those massages. But it makes a big difference to them. They're touched,
they're loved, they're adored, you're pouring your
attention in them. And that literally, the whole thing of foot massages, your hand
massages and neck massage. Maybe 20 minutes. Maybe. I mean literally 5 to
7 minutes in each one of those areas. Golden beautiful experience. So, I think
today is a good day to take some action on this. Because we love our wives. We
love them and we care about them. Let's show some love and affection today. You
know, we love our wives and that's why we do what we do to serve them and to help
them feel better. Now, if you want to move your marriage to that next level or
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