What To Do When Your Husband Cheats And Lies | Do THIS If He Cheats & Lies!

Sharing buttons:

What to do if your husband cheats or lies. My name is Coach Adrian, and i am here

to help you stabilize your relationship or your marriage.

Thank you for tuning into HAPPILY COMMITTED. We've started this project to

help people all over the world find happiness and fulfillment in their

relationship and in their marriage. I've helped thousands of women who had to

deal with husbands who cheated and who lied. And if you're watching this video

today, I must tell you that I have a lot of empathy and compassion for what you

are going through. Trust is one of the pillars of a healthy relationship. And if

you're dealing with a man who is cheating or lying to you,

it can bring instability to every aspect of your life. So the first advice that I

have for you is that you must accept your feelings.

Don't try to suppress the pain don't try to just look away and not deal with what

has happened. It is okay for you to be sad, it is okay for you to be hurt, and it

is okay for you to be upset because of what you've gone through and if he or

someone else is telling you otherwise, it is important for you to distance

yourself until you can fully cope and recover. The second advice that I have

for you is that it's important for you not to seek revenge. When we are hurt by

someone we love we often lose control, or we want them to feel the pain that we

are feeling inside. And seeking revenge will never bring you long-term joy,

satisfaction, or stability. You don't want to create more damage and you don't want

someone else's negative actions to impact your character. Stay true to who

you are, to your core beliefs, and to your values. And don't try to hurt him because

he hurt you.

The third piece of advice that I have for you is to keep the kids and the

family out of the fight. It is very, very tempting to ask other people for their

opinion, or to share your pain with other people around you.

And quite honestly, what I've seen is that when you start to involve family

members or friends or your children in your relationship drama, it starts to

take a whole different life of its own. And it's gonna be a lot harder for you

to heal and rebuild it is best for you to deal with this in the appropriate

ways with your partner. It doesn't mean that you cannot communicate to anyone. Of

course, you need to feel supported. But don't bring other people in the drama. Do

so in a constructive way, Reach out to a coach, or to a therapist, or to one close

friend or confidant, so that you can basically share your feelings, but

without backbiting, without trying to denigrate your husband's character. At

the end of the day I've seen many people either blame their husbands continuously

or blame themselves for the cheating. And it's important for you to separate

yourself from the cheating that has occurred. A bad decision does not have to

reflect the character and integrity of this person for life. And you yourself

cannot make or take full responsibility for someone else's shortcomings. And

that's very important for you to really understand, but also accept in a

fundamental deep way.

Finally, it is important to give each other time and space to heal and to

rebuild. It is very difficult to get over cheating instantly, overnight. It takes

time. You must give him the opportunity to regain and to earn your trust. You

must give him the time and the opportunity to earn and to fight for

your trust. It is not your responsibility to fight alone to try to make this

marriage work. He needs to take accountability and he

needs to be invested in trying to rebuild a new and improved relationship

that is going to be based on trustworthiness. And if he's willing to

leave you for this other person, I highly, highly encourage you not to chase, not to

be desperate, and not to compete with this other woman. Otherwise, you will lose

self-respect you will lose your power and your attraction and you will push

them into this other woman's arms

Ultimately, you are in a very, very complicated situation. And quite honestly

it would be a good idea for you to seek help. Work with us. Come check out our

HAPPILY COMMITTED website. We have tons of programs, tools, and resources to help

you feel more empowered and to bounce back after cheating, to help you build

and rebuild the relationship and the marriage you want. Join the movement. And

let us help you find your peace of mind and a new and healthy marriage. If you've

enjoyed this video please like it and subscribe to our channel. We provide

relationship and marriage advice each and every day,

and leave your thoughts leave your comments and your questions. My colleague

coach Natalie and I are quite busy. We coach people on a daily basis all over

the world. But we do our utmost to try to help you to try to be of service and to

reply to your most pressing questions in the comments section of this video. Join

the movement. Create the relationship that you've always wanted. And continue

to fight the good fight.