How To Avoid A Nervous Breakdown

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I've got 4 very practical steps for you today. "How to avoid a nervous

breakdown?" Pay attention. I promised you 4 steps. The first one has to do with

your body. I want you to move fuel and rest your body appropriately. This is

really important, folks. You know, I get the question all the time: "Is this a

psychological thing or is it tied to my health? My fitness?" Look, your brain is

part of your body. It's your brain that controls your emotional experiences and

how you handle your relationships and how you feel and what you say and what

you do. It's part of your body. So, moving your body is really important. The

research shows that you need to have good aerobic activity going on at least

3 to 5 times a week for a sustained amount of time. You need to be

moving your body with intention and intensity.

This helps to purge some of the toxins out of your system. It allows every

system of your body to function more efficiently and effectively.

You know what? The research on depression and antidepressant medications, anytime

its pitted against exercise. Exercise tends to get better numbers in the

results for depression. Better than antidepressant medication. That's why

it's so important. I also mentioned that you want to fuel your body properly. You

think about your vehicle for example. If you just go run the garden hose into

your gas tank, what's going to happen? Yeah. Not good things. What if you dump one of

those 54 out sodas right down in there? It's still a problem. I want you to be

running good fuel through your body. And rest. This came out of some research at

Harvard where they said you got to get enough sleep. In fact, Doctor Eddie

Halliwell called this brain maintenance where you get enough sleep, you eat a

balanced diet, pay attention to the fuel and you

get regular exercise. Those things are essential to avoiding a nervous

breakdown. Because we're talking about the equipment, the proper operation of

that equipment. Here's tip number 2: And this does have to do with your thinking.

I want you to practice Metacognition. That's kind of a fancy psychological

word. All it really means is thinking about thinking. This is a higher level of

thinking where you actually start to think about your thinking. And when you

do, you're going to notice some things happening. There's 2 processes that are

always going on in your mind. You can't turn them off. They're going to happen

whether you're aware of them or not. I want to call it to your attention so

that you can have some choice. Those 2 processes are evaluation and creation.

Evaluation is simply judgment. Notice that you're doing this.

You constantly judge yourself, your relationships, your finances, your job,

your co-workers, people in your community, you judge me. It's cool. I know. I get it.

You can't turn it off. Just notice that you're doing it. That's what I call

evaluation. Evaluation and how you judge your life makes a huge difference. And

when people have a nervous breakdown, it's usually because they think that

things are not good in their life. Interesting. That is a judgment. I'm not

here to tell you how to think. I just want you to see that you are. So, notice

that you're judging, you're evaluating your circumstances and you're coming up

with some kind of an answer to that. You have some choice in what will you judge

it. This is hard, really? Compared to what? Well compared to something easier. Just

notice that you're doing it. This makes a big difference because then you're in

choice, you're in control. Now, the second process that I told you about is

creation. Creation of what is to be. And this doesn't exist yet. Because we

haven't created it yet. A lot of nervous breakdowns are centered around the

anxiety that comes when we expect that something is going to go wrong or be bad or

painful or difficult. Okay. How good are you really at predicting stuff? Yeah, me

neither. We think we know what's going to happen.

But honestly, you don't. And so you're imagining that. What would happen if you

started to control that process a little more and intentionally expect or

anticipate or predict that what's coming is even better? Do youy see how that changes

things in the way that you feel? You want to avoid a nervous breakdown, you have to

start learning what's going on in your own mind that requires metacognition,

think about your thinking. Notice that you're doing the evaluation and the

creation and that you have something to do with that. That leads me into tip

number 3. Understand choice and control. You've noticed this already,

right? That some things you just don't have any control over. And a lot of times,

those are the things that you're worried about. Or they're the things that are

convincing you that your life is not good in one way or another. So, we're

going to use the metacognition from the last tip and bring that into our

understanding of choice in control. Notice how you talk to yourself. Do you

ever say, "I have to do this." And I really need to, and I've got to, and I

have to, have to, should, must. We're beating ourselves up with that. What if

you were to trade all of those obligatory words for choice? "I choose to".

Now, you're going to feel some resistance and you might be through, "But Dr. Paul, I

have to do this." Really? What would happen if he didn't?

I'm not suggesting that you don't do that thing. I want you to notice that you

have the ability to ask the question what would happen if I didn't and that

implies that you might choose not to. That hopefully brings up all the great

reasons why you choose to do what you're telling yourself that you have to do. "Oh,

well. I have to go to work Dr. Paul." Oh, really? What would happen if you didn't?

"Well, I wouldn't have any money. I couldn't feed my family." Oh, okay. So, you

choose to go to work because you prefer to have some money and feed your family?

Now, is this just semantics? I get that all the time and somebody's going to put

that in the comments. I know. Notice that the words you choose matter. They make a

difference and they change how you show up. That's why I wanted to come to your

attention. And I told you I'm not here to tell you how to think. I'm not that

powerful. I just want you to see that you are, okay? See that you're thinking. And

see if there might be some choice there. Choose to versus have to. That's tip

number 3. You really want to avoid a nervous breakdown, you're not going to do

this alone. Get some help. Interact with people. We

are social creatures. It's in our makeup. And even if you're not a very outgoing

person, it's important for you to connect with others. And I strongly encourage you

to associate with people who will support your sanity. You probably noticed

some people actually make it worse. They fuel the fire, so to speak. Be careful

about that. I've heard it said many times that we become like the 5 people we

hang out with the most. And when I first heard that, I started looking around

asking myself well who am i hanging out with? And do these people really support

my sanity and my productivity and my happiness? And if they don't, maybe it's

time to re-examine how you're spending your time and with whom. You might also

consider getting a coach, a therapist, a counselor, someone that you can talk to

very openly and freely about the things that are on your mind. When we do that,

it actually allows us to do some of those other steps better that we've

already talked about --The Metacognition, thinking about your thinking. Being able

to reframe things into a choice instead of a have to. Talking to somebody can go

a long way to do that. And there's also groups that you can associate with or

courses that you can take. Let's turn on your brain and tap into the human

treasury that surrounds you. Here's another interesting thing about the

Association part: When you start to focus on what other people need or desire or

could benefit from and you look inside of yourself and see what skills or

talents or gifts you have that could come to address some of their problems,

it changes everything. Engage in service. Look for ways to get

outside of yourself and enhance or enrich the lives of other people. I'm

including that as the fourth key strategy that I wanted to share with you

today about how to avoid a nervous breakdown. It's powerful. There! That's

simple, right? Well, it is simple, okay? Simple and easy aren't the same thing.

And if you'd like a little extra assistance with this, that's what we're

here for. I've got a whole team of certified coaches

who can assist you with working through some of the things that have caused you

to be concerned about this in the first place. Would you connect with them? You

can get there by going to DrPaul Jenkins.com/breakthrough

call. And that will hook you up to our calendars to talk to one of our coaches.