8 month Sleep Regression -The Sleep Nanny

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8 - month sleep regression if you know me or  have followed me for some time you'll know  

that I really don't like the word regression  why because it's not really a regression just  

because sleep becomes difficult or hindered  doesn't mean they're actually regressing your  

tongues never regressing they're moving forwards  they're actually progressing and because of their  

progress and because of the progressions I'm  going to talk about in a minute and it can cause  

disruption to sleep especially if you're not ahead  of the game and aware of what they need and what  

they need you to help them with and then your  sleep can be hindered during this progression  

as progressive leaps that they're taking so I  really don't like the word regression it's so  

negative and not really true and so let's have  a look at what's going on at this age and why we  

see an impact sometimes on sleep at this age which  gives everyone this phrase about the eight-month  

sleep regression first of all I really want to  urge you to not preempt it expect it and look  

for it because actually you can get so hung up  on it that you start to think yeah that's what  

it is that's what's going on and then you label it  and it's almost like an excuse and don't expect it  

don't preempt it don't assume it will hit you and  just take what happening work through it and don't  

read more into it than there really is so what is  happening okay first of all their daytime sleep is  

going to be shifting around this time so if you've  had little one from sort of six months that's been  

having three good naps a day and you've gone  into good nap routine and things are looking  

good and then you get this eight month thing going  on and you're like napping is becoming a nightmare  

well maybe you never did get it off to a great  start maybe it's always been a nightmare um it's  

important to know that eight months things are  starting to shift a bit their sleep needs in the  

day are starting to shift a bit and like I said  if we on top of that and if we are not meeting  

those needs and accommodating that sleep when it's  needed you can end up with the repercussion which  

is disturbed night sleep so-called regression  and so it's being aware of that daytime sleep  

how much does your child need when do they need it  and are you meeting that need for them they will  

not automatically just tell you when they need it  and not off to sleep brilliantly as you know by  

now so I have a look at that now what's happening  at eight months is that that night somebody that  

daytime sleep is gonna become gradually gonna  move towards a drop down to two naps over the next  

couple of months so that eight months you start to  see a shift whatever you do don't do an immediate  

drop don't go oh okay we were doing three nuts  well now do two that's it it's not that cut and  

dry it's a transition it takes time and it will  usually be over that eight to ten month period  

that this starts to happen and you might take two  steps forward and three steps back and it might be  

a bit stop and start for a while so take each day  as it comes some days your child might need three  

naps some day - some days - in an early bed or  you know if there's all sorts going on there well  

that's another episode but have a look at that and  also bear in mind that they're wakeful windows so  

that's the period of time that they can manage  to be awake in one stretch that's also growing  

and you may already be overestimating it many  parents do overestimate how long their little  

one can be awake in one stretch before they need  to sleep why do we overestimate it because the  

little ones give us the impression that they're  fine and they don't start yawning and I rubbing  

and fussing until they're already overtired or  on the brink of being overtired so don't wait for  

those signs don't wait for that before you pick  [ __ ] down and just because a child appears to  

be fine or a baby appears to be fine and not in  need of a sleep yet doesn't mean it's true and  

as I say you need one eye on the baby and one eye  on the time and then you'll probably hit it just  

right and find that magic window where settling  is a lot easier for them so their wake for window  

will begin to stretch the amount of sleep they  need in the day it's not so much that it's gonna  

come down rapidly but it's gonna shift in how it's  spaced out so instead of three naps they'll start  

to move towards two but those two will be longer  quite a bit more solid stable naps rather than  

perhaps having the sort of a cat nap or shorter  ones so things are on the shift and that is what's  

gonna affect the night's sleep if you're not  meeting those daytime sleep needs if your child  

is tired from lack of day sleep or maybe they're  getting enough but it's in one chunk or you know  

there's a period whether I wait too long anything  like that will impact the night's sleep which is  

why people think they get a regression so the next  thing I want to share with you is that habits are  

sticking now where before six months you know if  you were doing something you could you could sort  

of slightly shift that habit steer that into a  new direction things now are starting to stick  

and become more of a thing for instance the dummy  dummy that you may have been able to get rid of  

before they're gonna become a lot more clingy to  it now they're gonna become a lot more reliant  

on these things that are habits because they're  becoming more aware wiser you know developing  

little personalities and starting to hang on  to things that they get used to that give them  

comfort and if those things are good conducive  comforters brilliant great carry on there's no  

problem there you know a little love a cuddle lead  how do you think silky things like something like  

that that they have control of that's absolutely  fine enjoy but if it's something that you know is  

not really a good sustainable useful thing and  they're clinging on to it then you really want  

to start thinking about getting rid of that  moving on to something else that actually you  

can use for the long term so habits are starting  to stick make sure they are good ones and other  

things that are in there sort of habits things  that you want to stick the good ones are things  

like having a really nice bedtime routine having  those steps you do in the lead-up to bed I'm those  

same steps in the same order every single night  habits like having a setting process at bedtime  

so the things you do you've got your routine and  then it's night-night and then you pick your baby  

down and the way you say goodnight and put your  baby down and that's that's a habit and it's a  

good one you want you won't have a good one there  so that they aren't being put down already asleep  

and they are practicing putting themself to sleep  maybe with your assistance and that's fine that's  

okay but have something that you're doing it's  it's getting them on the right path and so you'd  

have it your night response so when you know when  your baby wakes in the night make sure that you  

know what the response looks like that you don't  go in with something different every time you know  

one minute it's a feed the next minute is a cuddle  and you refuse the feed and the next thing you're  

going into a full-on circus show is a rig and  this happens make sure you know what your night  

response looks like it might be there oh okay  well at this point I go in and I feed but the  

other wake-ups I go in and I give a cuddle or a  pat and a reassuring just your shirt or whatever  

it looks like for you but make sure you know  what that is and that you the other caregivers  

in in your child's life whoever goes that the the  baby gets the same thing every time and that's so  

important not only sit for their learning and for  their development and for their ability to go back  

to sleep but and it also it's kinder it's kind  of so they know what to expect and they're not  

confused and going wrong well last time you today  so no I want that if you're consistent they know  

where they stand which is actually kinda on them  but also for their security it gives them a real  

sense of security knowing where they stand and  knowing what to expect and knowing that they're  

gonna get that steady hand from you they're gonna  get a consistent steady response they might not  

always like it wait till your children are older  you know they might not always like what you tell  

them but if they can rely on you to always be  consistent with your response and not float and  

waver in the wind with your response this it might  not they'll certainly feel safe and secure which  

is really important for their secure attachment  and general security and so the third thing I  

want to share with you is that at this age around  this eight-month period another thing that can  

impact things is their awareness for where they  are and where they're not where you are and where  

you're not is also really coming together so they  start to know when you're there and when you're  

not there when you're in the room when you leave  the room when you you know they're becoming a lot  

more aware of this and this is why again at this  age you can see it a bit of clinginess like well  

wait don't go stay with me and that's all very  natural it's all fine and and sometimes the the  

slightest sign of a baby uttering any kind of new  just happiness or unhappiness with you leaving the  

room people think oh my gosh separation anxiety  anxiety is a strong word I don't think perhaps  

know just getting used to something more curious  nor aware it doesn't immediately mean separation  

anxiety that's a sound so strong so let's not  label all these things so harshly come on and  

your baby is going to become more aware of when  you're there when you're not there and you want  

to give them that room to explore to crawl over  in a baby group and and you know interact with  

another child when they look over their shoulder  they can see you're still there they know you're  

still close by you don't just disappear you know  it's it's really healthy exploration that you  

want to encourage and and that reassurance it's  okay I'm still here and okay I go I come back I  

go I come back you know and you can even play  little games like this with them on the floor  

and yeah knowing that they have that heightened  awareness they're a lot more aware of what's going  

on around them at this age as well so lots is  going on they're developing they're progressing  

and because of all these developments if we're  not moving with them and if we're not keeping up  

with that and we're trying to keep them on the  schedule they were on or they're nothing they  

were doing or the whatever before then they end  up tired they out of sorts they end up not really  

knowing what's going on where they stand and then  you get disturbed night sleep and we start to then  

look at you know thinking that that's some kind  of a regression it's really not a regression at  

all I hope this helps you at this eight-month  stage it can be really challenging just know  

that actually even though right now it feels like  it's your life it's not in a matter of weeks it's  

all going to change again so try and just keep  up with what your baby needs from you right now  

and it will all be fine and if you know other  moms of the dads other parents caregivers who  

are at this stage with their little ones please  share this with them you never know there may be  

just one little nugget in here that just changes  everything for them and we want to help as many  

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