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3 Reasons to Talk About Politics on a First Date | Adam LoDolce



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Look, I'm not here to take sides, okay?

I'm certainly not here to give a solution to our current political system.

I'm a dating coach, not God.

If you're like most people with a general knowledge of politics, you'll have realized

that we are the most divided we have ever been as a society.

What do most dating experts say?

Whatever you do, do not talk politics on a first date.

Sure, this is true if you don't care at all about politics, but if you're passionate about

it, why would you avoid it completely?

Now, I'm definitely not saying that you need to go out of your way to inject politics into

a random conversation.

"You're right, Jimmy Kimmel is so funny."

"But, you don't like Trump, do you?"

No, definitely don't do that.

If you are politically active, and it happens to come up in conversation, then it's definitely

worth having a general understanding of your dates political views.

Here's why.

Firstly, your politics are a general reflection of your personal values.

Let's say one person in a relationship is just a little bit more politically fiscally

conservative than another, then I guarantee that that's a reflection of their own life.

Now, although Jessica and I are both socially progressive, she's slightly more fiscally

conservative than me, in both politics and in real life.

Quite frankly, it's not only helped me a little bit in my personal life, but it's also helped

me explore ideas around fiscally responsible spending.

For us, it works really well, and it creates a balance.

For others, it won't, but getting a general idea of someone's politics will help you know

that.

On the other hand, if you happen to be a Libertarian and he happens to be a socialist, you are

probably not right for each other.

Find that out on the first date.

Number two is finding political commonalities will actually bond you even closer.

Now, when you're on a date you don't have to agree on everything, but when you do find

things in common it might actually connect you even more.

One thing that Jess and I found as we got to know each other a little bit better is

that we're environmentalists.

This has been a common bond for us over the years of getting to know each other.

If you are on a date and you're struggling to find things in common, then perhaps talking

about your views on things actually might be that common thread that connects you two

on a deeper level.

Finally, number three is if you disagree with someone politically, you might actually learn

something new, so keep an open ear.

When you're single and dating, it's actually a rare time in life when you'll be able to

meet so many different types of people.

I'm not saying you need to agree with people.

I certainly don't myself, but it's good to be able to use this time in your life as an

opportunity to learn more about people that are just different than you.

Once you do get in a committed relationship, and you get married, and further on down the

line, you're not going to be have that opportunity to meet as many people as you're meeting right

now.

Really take advantage of this opportunity to have an open ear.

Heck, you might learn something.

Maybe it's not a fit romantically, but who knows?

You'll at least get to walk away with a new perspective.

I want to ask you.

Do you agree or do you disagree?

Do politics belong on a first date?

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