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3 Examples of How to Flirt With a Coworker and Make Her Want You



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flirting with a co-worker creates a

private world between you and her there

is a private understanding that both you

and her find each other

sexually attractive and that there is

sexual tension building up between you

and her you can flirt with women based

on what you say how you behave and how

you use your body language and in this

video I'm going to give you examples of

each of those so let's start with

example number 1 create a private world

between you and her

back when I didn't understand how to

attract women I was working in an office

and a new girl started working there she

was of Latvian descent so the country

next to Russia in other words she was a

pretty girl she was tall she had a you

know a fairly good handful there and had

a nice rear setup as well she was a nice

package alright so I was lucky enough

that she sat next to me yet I didn't

understand how to attract women back

then I thought that a woman will like

you if you're good-looking enough and if

you're not good-looking enough for her

she's not gonna like you so when she sat

down and we started to talk I talked to

her in a neutral professional manner I

had no idea back then that you can

actually make women feel attracted to

you as you talk to them so when she sat

down and were introduced it was just

like hey hey doing welcome where you're

from what's your name blah blah blah

nothing that I was talking about was

creating a sexual spark with her however

my friend who sat across from me an

Indian guy he had a different

understanding of how attraction works so

essentially we were sitting in cubicles

and the cubicles separated our desk and

our above eye-level so if you wanted to

talk to each other you have to stand up

and say something and then sit back down

and when sitting next to each other

there was the lean back and have a

conversation sort of thing now my friend

who will change his name for the sake of

his story in privacy was Dinesh now

Dinesh understood how to attract women

so instead of talking to this new girl

in a neutral way he started flirting

with her right away

and then he created a private world

between him and her that eventually led

to them going out on a Friday night two

weeks after meeting each other and then

hooking up having sex and starting a

relationship

so what Dinesh did is that he stood up

and introduced himself to the new girl

but did it in a flirtatious way so

rather than just being professional

oh hi I'm Dinesh how're you doing what's

your name oh nice to meet you he said

something like this instead

hey hey dawn I'm Dinesh what's your name

nice to meet you you'll enjoy it around

here it's a good place to work at but

you seem like a bit of a troublemaker

though you're not gonna start causing

trouble around here are you

you seem like a bit of a mischievous one

no high head okay well good to meet you

I'm gonna get back to work talk to you

later then about an hour later he stood

up from his desk and looked at her and

said you're causing any trouble over

there and then she had a laugh right

there was a private world beginning to

form between him and her that wasn't

just about being professional and

talking to each other in a neutral way

that had no flirting involved in

addition to being professional and

getting on with doing his work what

Dinesh did is that he continued the

playful banter with the new girl at

times right he would add some things in

for example a couple of days later she

walked in wearing a new jacket and it

looked really cool she looked like a

stylish hot girl and what Dinesh did

rather than just saying oh nice jacket

well that looks nice how are you today

is that he sat there on his desk smiled

at her and watched her walk in then a

couple of minutes later a scrunched up

piece of paper flew over his desk and

landed on hers what he had done is that

he wrote a note on a piece of paper and

said hey nice jacket really suits you

how are you today

she then flirted back with him by saying

thanks I don't like your shirt though it

doesn't sue you she then drew a little

face with the tongue sticking out they

continued the note throwing back and

forth and made sure that no manager saw

them doing it and eventually it led to

this Dinesh said something along the

lines of I'm hungry I wouldn't mind

eating a burger right now and she then

said now I'd prefer to eat some

chocolate fudge that's my favorite so

what did Dinesh do then two days later

when she walked into work and sat down

he walked over to her desk didn't say a

word and just placed chocolate fudge on

her desk and it was wrapped in a nice

plastic wrapper I looked at her at that

point and she was smiling from ear to

ear and blushing there happened to be on

a Friday and that Friday night they went

out for drinks after work hooked up and

then they stayed together

all weekend now for me back then I had

no idea how my friend had pulled that

off I actually started to think oh well

she must like Indian guys that must be

her thing yet later I found out that he

was the first Indian guy she ever hooked

up with additionally when I asked him to

show me what they were riding back and

forth when she went to the toilet one

time it really didn't make sense to me

how they would be talking to each other

like that

in a professional environment how they

could actually have that sort of banter

where it was coming from I was thinking

well they must have a natural chemistry

this must be their style yet what I

didn't realize back then is that my

friend had created that dynamic with her

he had created the private world between

him and her by immediately talking to

her in a way that included some subtle

flirting based on his body language and

his behavior an important thing to point

out here is that you don't need to throw

notes back and forth between you and a

woman to be flirting with her flirting

can be very discreet and it can be based

on your body language which I'm going to

give you examples of now example number

two use your body language to keep the

flirting discreet and professional

flirting doesn't have to be obvious

flirting can happen on a very subtle

discreet level via body language so what

you need to do is be confident around

her and when you can see that she is

feeling attracted give her subtle

discreet looks that show your interest

in her so for example let's say that a

guy is working in an office environment

and there is a girl there that he wants

to attract and flirt with how can he do

it what he needs to do is make sure that

he continues to use professional body

language so he still maintains his

professional identity in the workplace

but when he's interacting with her he

also needs to add in some flirtatious

body language to make her feel attracted

and let her see that he is able to

create that private discreet world

between him and her when the woman that

you're flirting with flirts back at you

what you can do is level it up by using

what I call the tongue on tooth body

language expression this might seem a

bit weird to do on camera but when you

do it with a woman that you're flirting

with it makes total sense and

she knows what it means so the tongue

one tooth body language expression is

where you place the tip of your tongue

on the second-last back tooth on the

right hand side or the left hand side it

doesn't really matter that type of body

language expression is a little bit

cheeky and it signals to the woman that

you are aware of the sexual attraction

between you and her and you are aware

that there is a private world developing

between you and her in some cases a

woman will then say what what does that

face mean and you can then say nothing

we're just smiling now let's get back to

work and what happens then is she

realizes that you're able to maintain

that private world where nothing needs

to be spoken you don't actually have to

say hey I like you do you like me do you

want to go out sometime

are you interested in a relationship are

you looking for a boyfriend at the

moment you don't need to ask her any of

those things instead you're using the

discreet language of flirting which

women know how to do pretty much every

woman knows what flirting is and how to

do it and they love it when a guy has

the ability to flirt with them and

create that sexual tension based on

these subtleties of how they interact

with each other example number three

step up the flirting when you're not in

the workplace when you flirt with a

woman and make her feel sexually

attracted to you it builds up sexual

tension between you and her at some

point the sexual tension needs to be

released via kissing and sex so don't

leave it for too long in some cases a

man and woman can flirt with each other

for many years and end up hooking up

however in most cases if a guy waits too

long

she finds another guy right she hooks up

with another guy gets into a

relationship and potentially he finds

another girl and gets into a

relationship so if you're flirting with

a woman and there is sexual tension

between you and her and you're not

worried about hooking up in the

workplace and the consequences of that

in terms of your job then go ahead and

meet her outside of the workplace so

that might be at Friday night drinks

with coworkers it might be at a work

function that is a bit more relaxed it

might be your friend having a birthday

and you invite her along to that because

she doesn't really have much to do on

the weekend or it might be you and her

going to a sports game that you both

have a mutual interest in for example

you and her might be interested in

football ice hockey basketball

or whatever maybe tennis or something

like that and you talk about the tennis

match that is coming up or the football

match and then you ask her if she ever

goes and say that you are interested in

going and invite her out to that as well

so you might be talking about the

football game coming up and you might

say hey it's gonna be a really good game

this weekend you're interested in going

or what we should go we should go check

it out go Hawks or go Tigers or whatever

team you barek or root for then when she

comes to meet you wherever you are

meeting her give her a compliment that

includes some flirting rather than just

being neutral and talking to her like a

friend so if you met up with her at a

football game rather than her arriving

and you saying oh hi how you doing oh oh

hi you look nice today looking forward

to the game and just being a neutral

friend you can give her a compliment

that includes some flirting well someone

looks for you today how you doing it's

gonna be a good game high five and

immediately get the physical touch

barrier broken between you and her

alternatively if you're meeting her at

after work drinks you might need to be a

bit careful about openly flirting with

her in front of other coworkers

depending on what type of environment

you work in in some work environments

it's totally cool for co-workers to hook

up with each other and get into

relationships and even just casually

date each other whereas in other work

environments it's a big no-no so you

need to assess that for yourself and

adapt your approach so so for example

you work in a work environment that is

kind of okay with coworkers hooking up

but doesn't want to see it happening in

front of them in that case you would be

suddenly flirting with the girl that you

like and then at some point you would

say to her hey let's go to the bar and

get a drink so you can have some alone

time and then you would say hey let's go

out and get some fresh air if there's a

balcony and you and her go and stand out

there and are able to then hook up or at

least get a little bit physical back

when I first started to figure out how

to attract women I actually did that

myself there was a girl that I was

flirting with at work and we went to

Friday night drinks with coworkers and

her and I were flirting back and forth

and there was that flirtatious banter

and then I said hey let's go and grab a

drink at the bar and we stood there and

had

and it was just the two of us for about

five minutes and then I said hey let's

go outside and get some fresh air then

pretty much right away when we were out

in the balcony I stood in front of her

looked her in the eyes put my arm around

her lower back where the small of her

back is and she then put her arms over

my shoulders and it was on we started

kissing okay I hope you've enjoyed this

video and learned something from it if

you'd like to learn more I recommend

that you read my ebook the flow or

listen to the audiobook version the flow

on audio the flow is the easiest way to

get laid or get a girlfriend it's a

step-by-step approach that you use when

you meet a woman to make her feel

attracted to you connect with her and

then get to the next level with her

alternatively if you just want to learn

about conversation and you want to go

deep into the topic of conversation I

have another program called the ultimate

guide to conversation this program

features Ben and stew as well and they

are the other coaches at the modern man

we give over 70 examples of how to start

a conversation we give loads of examples

of how to keep a conversation going and

keep it interesting and how to attract a

woman during conversation make her want

you make her love you and so on flirting

really is the shortcut to attracting

women and making them want you in a

sexual way once you understand how to

flirt with women and you start doing it

you will realize that most of the women

you meet feel attracted to you as a

result you then start to feel confident

and begin to enjoy your choice of women

because you're able to attract the kinds

of women that you previously couldn't

attract what you then realized as you

begin to attract and sleep with higher

quality women is that you have been good

enough all along it's just that the

approach you were using with women

wasn't actually making them feel

sexually attracted and turned on during

a conversation yet when you use flirting

and other techniques to make a woman

feel attracted to you during a

conversation then sparks start to fly

you are able to make her feel attracted

to you connect with her and then get to

a kiss sex date and into a relationship

if you want that as well