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3 Questions every woman should ask a guy



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what's up what's up what's up young man

Chazz Ellis once again and a lot of

ladies asked me what are some of the

questions that you should ask a guy when

you first meet him what are some of the

questions that I kind of let you know

whether or not you're going to get

played or what the relationship is going

to be going forward well here are three

questions that every woman should ask

when starting a relationship

number one what do you want from me I'm

not saying you have to ask it in that

way but what I'm saying is you should

try to figure out exactly what it is

they want from you what are you going to

be contributing to their life why are

they engaging in a relationship in the

first place now the reason why you want

to ask this is because a lot of people

focus on what they want they focus on

what they're getting out of this

situation a lot of times you got this

what I call facebook love where you see

all the things that a man is supposed to

be doing for a woman but it really

doesn't talk about what a woman is

actually supposed to do to be there for

her man or to be doing something to make

her man's life better now the problem is

you really don't want to be around

people who don't want anything from you

you don't want to be around people who

are not benefiting from your presence

it's just like when you're doing

business the first thing you need to ask

is how can I improve this situation what

am i bringing to this deal if you don't

ask yourself that question that you

don't really know what your value is so

you don't know what you should ask for

or what you should expect from the

situation is the same as if you're going

to a job or anything you have to say

what is it that they want for me so that

you can then establish whatever value

you have so if you don't know what a

person wants from you you don't know

what they're getting out of the

relationship or if they're even serious

about a relationship if a person doesn't

have any clue what they want for you

from you or they don't want anything

from you then why should they do what it

to be in a relationship with you what is

it for them or what are they getting out

of it if they are in a relationship with

you so you want to make sure that you

know what the person wants and you know

if you can deliver it or not

so you know whether you should even go

forward number two what do you want to

do with the next five years you want to

ask a person this question to see if

they actually have goals not necessarily

what those goals are but if they thought

of anything have they even if they're

not gonna really do this stuff you don't

know but if they haven't even thought of

anything they can tell somebody that is

a big red flag if a person doesn't have

a plan for their next five years then

why would they want you in their life in

the next five years if they don't have

any kind of idea what they want to do or

what they want to accomplish how do they

know they want to be in a relationship

how do they know they want to be with

somebody how do they know what that

relationship is gonna look like for them

if they have no clue what they're gonna

be or what they're gonna do for the next

five years how are they going to do

anything for you how are they gonna make

your situation better are you gonna have

to give them direction are you gonna

have to help them have goals if that's

the case then you're trying to raise

somebody who's already a grown up you're

trying to give somebody direction when

they have none and if they don't have

direction for their own life they're

certainly not gonna have direction for

your relationship question number three

what are you currently doing to achieve

these goals so when you ask somebody

what they're trying to do what the next

five years of their life whatever they

said they were trying to do now you have

a baseline you have something that they

said they were trying to do now you can

ask them what are you currently doing to

make this happen what this does for you

is allow you to kind of see who you are

with what type of individual you're

dealing with going forward

because if they told you they had a

certain plan and they told you they were

doing certain things now you can

actually see if they're really doing

things if they said oh man I'm trying to

open my own business but every time you

see them they're buying new stuff and

spending all their money and you're like

when you said this but every time I see

you you got on a new watch or something

like that how is that possible every

time I see you you're not doing anything

that you said you were gonna be doing

you said you were saving money but

you're buying new stuff you said you

were researching a business and some of

the things that you were gonna do going

forward but I never see you doing that I

always see you playing for tonight

what's up with that so you can kind of

understand that this person isn't really

doing what they said they were doing so

now you know not to invest in this

person feeling like they're going to

accomplish their goals because they're

not doing what it takes to accomplish it

but if you don't know what their goals

are and they've never told you what

they're doing to accomplish those goals

then there's no way you can monitor the

situation a lot of times just knowing

what a person wants and what a person is

doing to achieve those things is all you

really need to know about how they're

going to behave in a relationship

because if a person doesn't have goals

and they don't work to achieve their

goals they're not going to work to

achieve their goals in a relationship if

the goal is to have children if the goal

is for you guys to buy a house together

if the goal is for you guys to take good

vacations and things like that if these

are some of the things that you want to

do but this is not a goal oriented

person this is not a person that works

towards the things that they want to do

in life then those things are never

gonna happen so you're gonna become

dissatisfied the person may have the

best of intentions they may actually be

really nice but if they're not a person

that follows through all the things that

they say they're going to do then you're

going to become upset with the person

anyway because they're gonna have really

good intentions they're gonna talk a

good game but they're never gonna

actually do anything that they talk

about so you want to ask some of these

questions so that you know what you can

be doing to help these things along but

also you know that you're dealing with a

person who actually does what they say

they're going to do

and is actually serious about doing

things in the future that would make

both of you happy hopefully I was able

to help you out once again is your man

Chazz Ellis make sure you like to

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somebody else peace mission man Chazz

Ellis a lot of our unhappiness is caused

by feelings of expectation by what we

thought we were gonna achieve at a

certain time in our lives by what we

thought we were gonna accomplish by a

certain age by where we thought we were

gonna be how much money the job we

thought how long we thought our

marriages will we found our key and a

lot of our unhappiness is fueled by

those feelings I've slept in felt like I

felt like I let everybody but it wasn't

until I was able to believe myself of

those expectations and start to get

happy that I was able to start

succeeding and start doing

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and that's what I wanted to give you the

tools that you need to shed expectations

start getting happy so you can start

accomplish

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