This video has been even more requested than the fucking body language video.
I feel like every time I look at my phone or go on the computer, I’m getting 100 messages
telling me “Zeus do a video on how to dm a girl on instagram”, “hey zeus when’s
that video on dming girls coming out?”, “zeus we went how to pick up girl on instagram
pt 2” like holy shit you guys must have some victoria secret models following you
on instagram that you’ve just been waiting to DM.
So, as requested, I’m going to be highlighting 3 different ways to DM a girl on Instagram.
Let’s jump right into it.
Disclaimer: DMing girls on Instagram has an inherently low success rate, even for a god
Too many thirsty guys DM hot girls 24/7 that it’s hard to stand out and build rapport
with a girl over DMs.
These tips will help bring your chances up significantly but they’re not perfect.
#1 Reply to the girl’s story.
This is perhaps the easiest and most organic way of building a connection with a girl via
If you reply to her story and make a comment about something she’s doing, it comes off
as a lot more natural and laid back as opposed to the whole “im tryna smash that ass left,
right, up, down, and sideways hoe” vibe that you give off when you open with a corny
line about sliding into her DMs.
For example, if she post a story about her being in the city you can be like “I love
that part of town, you gotta try out this dope new restaurant around there” or something
to that effect.
I used to do this a lot with Snapchat stories but ever since that dumb ass stories update,
I barely even use snapchat anymore and can’t even see the hot girls’ stories anymore
so I just pull the same move on Instagram.
Just make any comment about her story if it makes sense to and that’s it, don’t overcomplicate
Obviously don’t be like “damn girl you lookin sexy as fuck in that beach pic, my
erect penis is in my hand as I type this with the other”.
You think this shit sounds obvious but I get some ridiculous ass messages from some guys
who say the wackiest shit and then wonder why the girl isn’t responding.
I’ve also noticed that the more you reply to a girl’s story on Instagram, the more
likely she’ll be to reply to your story as well and it’ll help establish a mutual
interest in the relationship you guys are developing.
Now you don’t wanna overuse this tactic and be replying to every single on of her
stories but you should feel free to do it every once in a while to make her feel more
comfortable with you and begin to break that ice.
Typically her response will signal to you whether or not you should continue the conversation
I HIGHLY recommend starting almost all your DM interactions this way because it’s been
the most successful for me and it’s the least thirsty and creepy way of initiating
contact with a girl.
Bonus tip: if it’s a girl you already talk to and text, I like to send them funny memes
and pictures I come across that relate to something we’ve talked about before.
This is a good way to maintain contact and staying on her mind without seeming desperate
and while keeping things natural.
#2 Just do it.
If you know a girl that you’ve talked to in class, have met at parties, or know from
your school, and you guys follow each other on Instagram then go ahead and just DM her.
For example, the other night I was out at a party and I just went over and started talking
to a girl I followed on Instagram but never talked to before.
I literally just went up to her and said “hey I think we follow each other on Instagram”
and boom that was it, conversation started.
From there we started talking for a little and things were going good but I actually
ended up leaving later in the night without saying bye to her.
A few minutes later, she had DM’d me asking me if I left.
Boom that was it.
It wasn’t weird that she DM’d me because we were just talking earlier and she didn’t
have my number so this was the most natural way for her to reach me.
As a guy, you can and SHOULD do the same.
If you see a girl you know from your school, just start talking to her in person and you
can always follow up with a DM later if you don’t get her number for whatever reason.
Additionally, if it’s a girl you kinda talk to every once in a while but you don’t have
her number, just DM her on Instagram and open the conversation with something you guys talked
about before to keep the vibe natural.
It’s not THAT weird to DM a girl about something you guys talked about before if you’ve actually
talked to them in the past.
So don’t overthink or overcomplicate it.
#3 The over-the-top message.
Now this is the really ballsy approach that will either work really well or fall totally
An over-the-top message would be like sending the girl a ball emoji, and then following
it up by saying something like “oh shit sorry, I’m not sure how that rolled in there”.
I personally like this tactic as well because even if the shit ends up not working, it’s
still funy as fuck and entertains me for a short period of time so I end up not even
caring if it works or not.
This also works as a good exercise to get you in the mindset that one individual girl
doesn’t matter all that much in the grand scheme of things and that the real goal of
talking to girls in the first place anyways, is to have fun.
I’ll have some screenshots of funny ones I’ve used in the past for you guys to copy.
Actually, now that I think about it, send me the profiles of girls you know that I should
DM and try this tactic on.
If i get any funny responses I’ll do a funny video reading all my Instagram DMs.
So comment below the usernames of girls I should DM and I’ll take one for the team
and smash them all for you bros.
#4 Like a bunch of her pictures
Now if you’re a good looking guy, or have a really popping instagram, or you already
know the girl is kind of into you, you can go and like her 3 most recent pictures on
Instagram and see if she likes some of your pictures.
Now speaking of having a really popping Instagram, you should definitely check out my video on
how to properly setup your Instagram profile so girls think you’re cool.
If you haven’t checked it out then brooo, c’mon you’re gonna get like 2 likes on
your pics, so go check it out.
If she likes some of your pictures in return, then feel free to just DM her and be like
“hey add me on snapchat” and give her your snap and boom you’re done.
I’ve only ever done this a couple times with girls i was pretty sure were into me
but this isn’t the most successful option.
It is simple and to the point though, so if you’re looking for efficiency then this
might be a good option for you.
#5 Join the Based Lifestyle Community and ask other Basedlympians for their DM tactics.
If you don’t know, I recently just launched a Slack channel which is basically like a
Discord server but a little bit more professional.
There are a bunch of other Basedlympians helping each other out with texting problems, workout
advice, fashion and style advice, and even tips on how to be more confident around girls.
The beauty of this is that it’s in real time, so anytime you’re DMing a girl and
don’t know what to say, you can just screenshot that bad boy and drop it in the chat and get
help from me and a ton of other Basedlympians.
We actually just recently had a whole discussion in there about this one guy who was trying
to DM a girl and we all helped him come up with the best responses to try and help him
get the girl.
This is dope because then everyone else learns as well and it helps increase your game with
I’ll have it linked below at the top of the description for you guys to check out.
And that’s it.
Reply to the girl’s story Just do it.
Try out the over-the-top messages Like a bunch of her pictures and follow up
with a DM Join the Based Lifestyle Community for on-demand